Ayee James. Do you daydream about negative things happening to you or around you that you would never ever want to actually happen? Like traumatic things happening, but you don't ever want it to happen, and know you wouldn't be able to deal with it if it did?

I imagine I have been through tough events or others have.  I imagine my fantasy husband dies ... very weird I know, but I think it's because I have had to deal with abandonment in my life and by imaging a loved one who's died I can focus the real grief I have on an imaginary scenary where it wasn't someone's choice to leave.

I don't think I am an emotionally/mentally strong person so by imaging that I've been through bad things I can pretend that I am a tough cookie who can deal with bad things.  Also I think I channel some of my real life negative emotions into the fantasy:  I haven't worked out all my issues yet, I'm not in touch with myself at all, so it's easier pretending a reason for how I feel to deal with the effects.

I hope this makes some sort of sense!

Yes! In one daydream I have, my main character has been betrayed by his only  friend, is forced into a prostitution ring, and is sexually abused and raped on a daily basis. He's also a prisoner trapped in a stranger's house. In another one of my dreams, my main character has been rejected by her friends, lost her husband from dark secrets coming to life, and is an outcast to society. Even though my daydreams are negative, however, there is always a semi happy ending where the main character is saved and loved by those closest to them.

I realized one day that I was producing invasive emotions with this kind of daydreaming.  I started to tell myself to find something else to daydream about and leave off the one that was raising such strong feelings in me.  A long time ago, an elderly man told me that daydreams are fine so long as they don't make me cry.  I've gotten better at not getting so deep into negative daydreams but there are times that they still happen.  I don't get mad at myself when it happens.  Rather I take note of how I've been feeling or the events in my life in the week leading to the daydream.  This gives me clues on how to deal with specific triggers.

I recently had a divorce, my husband cheated on me a lot. so now my daydreams are violent and demeaning him. at this point its very not healthy and now I'm pregnant with a new guy. He works nights me days so I'm alone and I'm worried the heart rate thing after those lost moments are not good for the baby.

Poopsie Holbrook:      I feel for you and I'm sorry he did that to you.  You need to really work on clensing all that pent up anger and hurt out of your soul, about him and what he did to you. I know you feel more powerful when you daydream you are putting him in his place. Normally I wouldn't advise you to take it easy as they can be therapudic, but I have two kids and have of course gone through two pregnancies.  That is not the best time to be having all that negative emotion swirling in you.

My second preg. was a misserable time in my marriage and my son was born with a lot of attitude and extra need to be nurtured, oh God, it was a lot of work!!! I think my constant daily crying and pain affected him while he was developing and i still have to handle his sensitivity to pain,fear, ceratin tones of voice, and he's 5 now. So i REALLY reccomend you try to purge those dark feelings while your preg or shove them to the back of your mind to be dealt with later and try to give yourself some new uplifting DDs. Everytime it tries to come up. Quash it down with a verbal cue; like "No, you wont come into the peaceful circle of my baby." etc.... your baby's health is utmost important and wasting your time and energy on that worthless cheating man isn't worth it.

I hope you can find peace.  Msg me anytime you need :)

when I was younger I always thought about the worst things I guess I thought if I thought of it before it happened then it wouldn't so I would daydream of horrid things happening to me or family it could be anything from car accidents to lies abuse kidnapping.....but daydreaming doesn't always stop bad things from happening

it took forever about a year and a half to divorce that bastard. I still can't get away from the daydreams. it really didn't help how little the judge cared about anything. I'm just a woman scorned so bruises and damages he did meant nothing. I'd file for bankruptcy but I can't afford the filing fees.  If I wasn't in such a bad money situation I think I could move on better but every bill is a reminder. I owe over 4 grand to a lawyer, I've already paid him 3 grand I have no more money and can only hope he'll be happy being paid 10$ a month. so I'm angry and I want to hurt him and sometimes I yell at the judge my lawyer did not stand up for me.

I think I do this a lot. I daydream about negative interactions with people. Even though, a majority of them turn out good, and even if they don't their not as in my head. I'm so worried I'll say the wrong thing. I also imagine people are in the shadows, looking to harm me. I sometimes daydream that I'm in a crowded place, someone has a gun, and I'm trying to help them realize they don't have to kill everyone. My daydreams often get very dark if I'm alone for too long. 

Yes I definitely negative daydream. I daydream about family members dying like my dad or him having a heart attack or my sister getting into a car accident...mainly so I can daydream about people feeling bad for me or sorry for me. It's frustrating that I daydream these types of things to feel better. It's stupid. Sometimes my daydreams get oddly specific like I have another recurring one where I have this older half-brother who I haven't seen in forever who is a half-brother b/c my mom was raped when she was younger but couldn't keep him and I end up meeting him now in life. UGH it sounds psychotic typing it out but yeah :/ I guess I also have daydreams about chewing people out/yelling at them and for some reason that makes me feel better. Wish I wasn't so angry. Dk what the deal is. I want a better outlet than daydreaming.

***Also, in no way shape or form do I want my family members or anyone actually hurt. I know that my daydreams are fake (of course), and hope my comment did not come off as if I have intentions or truly desire harm to others, b/c I don't.

Hmmm... yeah I do that. Sometimes I daydream about VERY dark stuff, and I hate it, it makes me feel guilty, but i still do it anyway and I have no idea why. I'm never involved in these daydreams, is just my characters experiencing insane amounts of abuse, things that terrify me and would make me sick if i saw them in movies or books. Sometimes I use the content of these daydreams to the actual storyline, sometimes I just daydream dark garbage  just for the sake of daydreaming dark garbage and I don't know, it makes me feel messed up. But everything always has a happy ending I guess...