HELP- Too attached to characters (real people)?

[Grace]

Okay, so I hope I'm not the only one, but I can only daydream about real people. Sometimes minor characters change, but for over 2 years, I have daydreamed about the same two people's relationship. They broke up over a year ago. I don't really want to say who, but I feel like I kind of have to to explain this... I'll just say they are on YouTube, if anyone watches vloggers or whatever... I used to daydream about others, and they may sometimes change a little, but I have become so attached to these two, I feel like I know them. The girl, though, is now dating someone else, and comments always say how great the two are together. I know they proabably are, and they'll probably end up married soon... but it's killing me, and I don't know why. I want to know if there is any way I could get over this. Daydream about someone else. I've tried, but to imagine the two not with eachother is the worst feeling in the world! Can anyone relate? Is there anyway I could stop doing this, think of someone else?

[Mynx]

I have this same exact problem with my mdd. All my characters are real so when things happen in there life for real it feels like my heart is broken if I see my mdd crush in a relationship or getting married. I literally get knots in my stomach as if it was a ex boyfriend who im still in love with or something. I just have to give myself a reality check and realize my feelings arent real.

[eternally a child]

 I dont personally get into the anime or fantasy type stuff myself but I think my biggest problem is that I think of people from my past way too much and my MDD self will tell them off or be strong or missed by either these real or semi-fabricated men. i cant relate and ive lost entire days DD over people, even when i had better or seemingly happier times i would DD about that over and over and over again...i used to write when i was younger but now  i mentally reflect to death....and oddly enough there are somethings that i obssesed over so much -in real  life-that now i have felt complete and utter shame over crying my eyes out over those situations and going crazy with MDD. for years MDD has been something ive been doing from the moment i would wake up to the moment i would sleep. Or i would imagine the real better times with real or semi-fabricated people- or combine everything -with me as i slept so i wouldnt feel so alone or realize at one point someone at one time did care for me. it makes me shudder to admit that. and when i stop and really feel reality, i feel so cold and vurnarable and remember why i have MDD in the first place.

 

i know you may not want to hear this but praying has helped me a lot- and no its not because im distracting myself with religion-but because the agony i feel from this obssesive behavior is brutal.I think this is something that can be controlled BUT it will take time. also ive found that writing or creativly expressing yourself is theraputic and realives a lot of pain and at least you can you your mind for a healthier activity. Im not sure how else you can stop this, for me i guess id have to continue praying or ive even done something as silly as wear a rubberband on my hand and snap it everytime i began to drift so i can ''snap back'' into reality.my triggers are music and photos so i may have to make it a point to get rid of things. what you can also do is write down what youve lost or what you could potentially lose if you continue to do this,  have it all on paper to really see it and confront it , or write the pros and cons out. im not sure what else you can do

[M. Derp Peterséns]

Using people I find attractive in sub plots or minor parts of a bigger scenarios is pretty basic for me. This obsession you seem to have, do you follow them on there to feed this fantasy? There's a person in my life that I cant use in my DDs anymore cause it hurts too much. She's an old friend of mine and for some reason, my brain thought of her as extraordinary in every way. Didn't love her, yet couldn't stop obsessing about her. Then I finally made a DD where I told her we couldn't be friends nor have contact anymore because blah blah blah. Try to alter it where you confront them as someone else, or get to a place where you must take different paths.  

[ashlee]

one of my characters looks are based off of someone i saw on youtube........i want him so bad ahh adfgjsdfkl;gjsdt;g but ohwell. i have him on facebook and i get sad when he posts a picture with a girl or something because i feel like thats my character but its not

[taffle]

I can relate. For 2 years, I daydreamed about my (former) crush, only to find out through chat that he really doesn't like me and has no interest in me. But I was in denial so I continued to daydream about him for 1 more year. After that, I realize I had to face reality. I can't continue to daydream about a guy who doesn't like me. Also, the feelings that I had for him was merely infatuation, nothing serious. I had a guy friend who helped me through this, and I started to see that there are plenty of nice guys out there who are probably a better fit. The world is big.