Comments - What do none MDD people think about? - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T10:54:05Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profiles/comment/feed?attachedTo=4661400%3ABlogPost%3A261151&xn_auth=noI've wondered this too!
A lot…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2017-07-17:4661400:Comment:2617492017-07-17T23:39:35.989ZNikki Khttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/KaitlynLarsen
<p>I've wondered this too!</p>
<p>A lot of times in my life while struggling to control MD I've gotten stuck on what to think about instead. But currently my MD is fairly manageable, and if I try hard enough I can go for a day or multiple days without it (usually followed by a crash, but I'm getting better). I've realized that during the times that I'm not MDing, it's usually because (a) I'm actively involved in a social situation or (b) I'm really motivated and into a project I'm working on or…</p>
<p>I've wondered this too!</p>
<p>A lot of times in my life while struggling to control MD I've gotten stuck on what to think about instead. But currently my MD is fairly manageable, and if I try hard enough I can go for a day or multiple days without it (usually followed by a crash, but I'm getting better). I've realized that during the times that I'm not MDing, it's usually because (a) I'm actively involved in a social situation or (b) I'm really motivated and into a project I'm working on or something I'm learning. Those down times still bother me though, when there's nothing you need to actively think about. The times when I'm in best control, I use down time to focus on possible real life situations, like conversations I'm going to have, like Annie talked about. It's when I get into a complicated, unrealistic plot line in a fantasy world that I start to lose control.</p> Hey Katie!
Funnily enough I a…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2017-07-13:4661400:Comment:2612582017-07-13T11:44:07.685ZAnniehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Annika
<p>Hey Katie!</p>
<p>Funnily enough I asked that question recently, I asked my 3 closest friends. Or maybe I asked a version of that question. I didn't want to know what they think about, but rather HOW they think. I was battling with a particular bad breakdown after one of my MD fantasies crashed and I once more started an attempt to rid myself of this. (Still working on it, but I'm feeling better now). Anyways so I have 3 friends who I told about my MD and the problem it poses for me. And…</p>
<p>Hey Katie!</p>
<p>Funnily enough I asked that question recently, I asked my 3 closest friends. Or maybe I asked a version of that question. I didn't want to know what they think about, but rather HOW they think. I was battling with a particular bad breakdown after one of my MD fantasies crashed and I once more started an attempt to rid myself of this. (Still working on it, but I'm feeling better now). Anyways so I have 3 friends who I told about my MD and the problem it poses for me. And while I was going through this whole self-analysis I realized that MD is my way of thinking. Every thought I process is in the form of a conversation with my MD friends and partners. Sometimes they take place in reality, sometimes in my elaborate fantasy worlds. For me, these conversations and adventures had replaced any 'normal' thought processing from an early age - as long as I can remember I have done this. So I wanted to know from my friends how they think and thus figure out what 'normal' thinking is. They were brave enough to share it with me, for which I am grateful. It helped me a lot. Turns out there is no such thing as normal thinking:</p>
<p><strong>Friend 1</strong> is a fairly simple minded person who always sees things in black and white and doesn't like to fantasize. She thinks how I imagined straight forward thinking to be like. 'should I get this Tshirt? I don't really like the colour, so nah, put it back' etc. No characters, no fantasies. And even though I thought this would be what I expected from most people, I found it incredibly boring as well...</p>
<p><strong>Friend 2</strong> (creative, highly educated) says she also thinks about conversations, like she imagines telling the things she is concerned about to her mum, boyfriend or me. But it doesn't go beyond that. She doesn't fantasize, iterate real events or come up with entire new stories. It's just a running conversation or thinking about what other people she cares about would think about certain things she is experiencing or seeing.</p>
<p><strong>Friend 3</strong> (educated, analytical, not very creative) - and that was the biggest surprise - is a lot like me. When she heard about my issue she told me that she recognizes a lot of the things I told her about in her own behaviour, albeit not in a distracting or life-compromising way. She daydreams, sometimes about fame in her field or fame in general. But not to a degree where it distracts her from life. And her normal thought processes turned out to be much like a mix of Friend 2 and mine. Conversations with real people (not imaginary or famous ones like me most of the time). But she iterates and repeats scenarios that might happen or have already happened and thinks 'what could I have done different to achieve a different outcome' etc. Even the slightest decisions she iterates like that in her mind. Often in conversation with herself.</p>
<p>What I have learned from this is that that there is no such thing as 'normal' thinking. Every person is different. It depends on their personality, education, profession etc. I don't think that we should beat ourselves up anymore about daydreaming as a result. It's OK. It's a sign of high intelligence and creativity for me. What I am focusing on now for my own recovery is 'how can I manage to control it, so it doesn't impact my life in such a negative way anymore'? I want to keep daydreaming, because quite frankly (although I lover her dearly) I wouldn't want to have such a boring mind as Friend 1. ;-)</p>
<p>I hope that helps you a bit. Don't stress over what is normal and what other people do in their heads.</p>
<p>:-* Best wishes, Annie</p>