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Yesterday I had another appointment with my Therapist. I've been going to her for my daydreaming for a few months but this session was more disheartening than others. I want to switch therapists but …

Yesterday I had another appointment with my Therapist. I've been going to her for my daydreaming for a few months but this session was more disheartening than others. I want to switch therapists but I have no idea who in the area has experience. She has helped me but the feelings of frustration are increasing especially with her saying that she "isn't seeing the effort needed."

During the first few sessions I knew things were going to be difficult. She mentioned in these sessions she was going to ask fellow therapists for advise and research the disorder but neither was followed through. Yesterday during the session with me, she pulled up information for the first time on it.

Treatment has been focused only on setting goals to limit time spent daydreaming. The goals? 4 hour time block during the afternoon where I don't daydream on 3 days of the work week. I've met only half of these. I'm a stay at home mom (kiddo is school aged) with no social life so these goals are...difficult. How long have I been trying to meet these goals? Two weeks. We are now starting the third week.

So, Yes, I am frustrated that she told me she isn't seeing the effort. With that being said, she did try to build me up after. I do want to stop daydreaming. I don't want it to consume my life. I want to be better.

The process is hard without mental health professionals with experience. It's hard without any defined treatments. It's hard because it's not officially recognized as a disorder.

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Comment by Hannah on April 6, 2019 at 7:33pm

This is like my personal nightmare. I myself have not told my therapist about my daydreaming (I'm there for anxiety), but have considered it. If I were to do so, I'm terrified that she'll try to get me to stop. I don't know exactly how I would react to that, but it wouldn't be good. I've always feared telling people about my condition partly because I don't want to stop. If anyone ever tried to force me, I would feel like an essential part of my being is being stolen from me. 

So I totally get how you feel frustrated, especially since it isn't really seen as a "real" disorder. I can imagine that very few therapists, if any, even realize what maladaptive daydreaming really is.

Comment by Kitt Coltrane on February 17, 2019 at 11:21pm
She has no idea what she’s doing. The goal of therapy is to figure out why you are using MADD as a coping mechanism. Try to find someone else.
Comment by Louise ström on January 8, 2019 at 9:19pm

She is doing it all wrong. Setting time limits wont do anything because there is most likely a trauma involved, that trigger the need to daydream. She need to help you figure out what that/those traumas are. Figuring out what triggers you to daydream is step one, the trigger show  you what is stressful/traumatizing for you, and will show you what you need to work on/ avoid in your life. This is my experience and reading posts here I can see a pattern of stress and trauma in basically all dreamers. You might need CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy.) She will know what that is.

Comment by Paul Rapp on December 11, 2018 at 10:18am

In my experience with psychologists and therapists it is very difficult to find a good one. I never saw a therapist for daydreaming, though, it was for depression. Out of four psychologists that I saw as an adult only one ever really helped. Psychiatrists these days pretty much just prescribe drugs. When I was a kid and my MDD was at its worst the drug they gave me was Ritalin. I can't say that it helped. As an adult, I was prescribed Lexapro for depression and it did help, but I don't think it did anything about the daydreaming.

It seems to me that your therapist is treating your daydreaming like it is an addiction, or perhaps something like overeating. Consciously limiting the time that you spend daydreaming is not a bad approach, but I think expecting to see a significant change in two weeks is unrealistic. Maybe for overeating, but not for daydreaming. Finding a good therapist is hard in general, but finding one that understands and can treat MDD is going to be REALLY difficult. Maybe give her approach a little more time. I would say of you have met half of the goals in only two weeks then you are actually doing pretty good.

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