Faye's Posts - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T07:05:11ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Fayehttps://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/3145244193?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1https://wildminds.ning.com/profiles/blog/feed?user=009dycvzucfgz&xn_auth=noSharing a Tool to help with Focus for Work/Studytag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-09:4661400:BlogPost:1786552014-04-09T08:35:13.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
<p>I think many of you also have trouble staying focused when you are trying to work or study.</p>
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<p>I find that sometimes I go into a "MDD tailspin" when I have a lot of work/ or important work to do. I remember distinctly that when it came to studying I was always distracted by my MDD. I also have an underlying hyper vigilance that usually gets in the way.</p>
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<p>I found this online site/ company called focus@will</p>
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<p>I think many of you also have trouble staying focused when you are trying to work or study.</p>
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<p>I find that sometimes I go into a "MDD tailspin" when I have a lot of work/ or important work to do. I remember distinctly that when it came to studying I was always distracted by my MDD. I also have an underlying hyper vigilance that usually gets in the way.</p>
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<p>I found this online site/ company called focus@will</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.focusatwill.com/wp/faq/" target="_blank">Focus@will website FAQ</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.focusatwill.com/" target="_blank">focus@will company site</a></p>
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<p>It is a neuroscience based company that has done extensive research on focus, they've compiled 1 hour sessions of instrumental music that has been proven to increase your attention span by 400%. (At least that's what their research says).</p>
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<p>The music stream is designed to "engage your non-focal (background) attention, but not so much that it interferes with your conscious focal attention on the task at hand. This is music you hear but should not be actively listening to." It's supposed to trick your limbic system (fight or flight response) into focusing.</p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3">I usually get triggered into MDD when listening to music, but I've used the service (there is a free option) a couple of times now and I find that when I actively try to focus I'm a lot better at it. My mind still wonders a bit but I never go into MDD binges like the way I used to, when I work.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3">I'm not sure if this will work for everyone, but I thought I would at least share it so people can try it out.</span></p>Playing a game to get SUPERBETTERtag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-01-07:4661400:BlogPost:1694062014-01-07T09:09:08.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
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<p>Just wanted to share, I've been playing a free online game called "Superbetter". It was invented by game designers under the guidance of health specialists to help people improve personal resilience (i.e build up optimism and motivation).</p>
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<p>They consist of quick and simple exercises that help increase emotional well-being. It has different "packages" for depression, anxiety, addiction etc. I've been playing it under the depression package, its easy to…</p>
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<p>Just wanted to share, I've been playing a free online game called "Superbetter". It was invented by game designers under the guidance of health specialists to help people improve personal resilience (i.e build up optimism and motivation).</p>
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<p>They consist of quick and simple exercises that help increase emotional well-being. It has different "packages" for depression, anxiety, addiction etc. I've been playing it under the depression package, its easy to navigate and I've found it incredibly helpful and uplifting. (But it's not meant to replace traditional therapy).</p>
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<p>If anyone is interested here is the links:</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.superbetter.com/">https://www.superbetter.com/</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.superbetter.com/about">https://www.superbetter.com/about</a></p>
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<p>Check it out and let me know what you guys think. Its a little unconventional but I've most certainly been surprised by the returns I've gotten.</p>
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<p>I've been reading a lot on the effects of childhood trauma disassociation and connection. I have a reading list related to these issues and have sifted through the internet but was unable to find downloadable pdf/ epub version of these books. (Yes I'm the type who tries not to buy ebooks if I can get them for free). Was wondering if anyone had access to the following:</p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4">1) <strong>Born for Love: Why Empathy is Essential and…</strong></span></p>
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<p>I've been reading a lot on the effects of childhood trauma disassociation and connection. I have a reading list related to these issues and have sifted through the internet but was unable to find downloadable pdf/ epub version of these books. (Yes I'm the type who tries not to buy ebooks if I can get them for free). Was wondering if anyone had access to the following:</p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4">1) <strong>Born for Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered</strong>, by Dr. Bruce Perry</span></p>
<p><span class="font-size-4">2) <strong>Healing Developmental Trauma: How Trauma affects Self Regulation and the Capacity for Relationship</strong>, by Dr. Laurence Heller</span></p>
<p><span class="font-size-4">3) <strong>Mirroring People: the Science of How We Connect with Others</strong>, by Marco Iacoboni</span></p>
<p><span class="font-size-4">4) <strong>T</strong></span><span class="font-size-4"><strong>rauma and the Avoidant Client: Attachment Based Strategies for Healing</strong></span> <span class="font-size-4">T, Dr. Muller</span> <span class="font-size-4">5) <strong>Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Eliminating Symptoms at their Roots Using Memory Reconsolidation</strong>, by Bruce Ecker</span></p>
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<p>Any help in this regard would be greatly, greatly appreciated. Thanks.</p>Movie based on MD: The Secret Life of Walter Mitty Coming Dec 2013tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-08-15:4661400:BlogPost:1535842013-08-15T10:26:03.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
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<p>Some people here are familiar with the story "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" originally written by James Thurber in 1939. It's about a guy who works for a publishing company and lives in elaborate fantasy worlds but eventually goes through a real life adventure. </p>
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<p>I strongly suspect that the author understood MD very well. Anyway it was made into a movie in 1947, but the modern remake with Ben Stiller as the main character Walter Mitty is due to come out…</p>
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<p>Some people here are familiar with the story "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" originally written by James Thurber in 1939. It's about a guy who works for a publishing company and lives in elaborate fantasy worlds but eventually goes through a real life adventure. </p>
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<p>I strongly suspect that the author understood MD very well. Anyway it was made into a movie in 1947, but the modern remake with Ben Stiller as the main character Walter Mitty is due to come out in December this year.</p>
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<p>Check out the trailer:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGWO2w0H2V8">www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGWO2w0H2V8</a></p>
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<p>You can tell that he is MDing from the trailer, but what resonates for me the most is the part where his coworkers are watching him DD by the coffee machine. </p>
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<p></p>Need help calming down? Give this a trytag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-07-31:4661400:BlogPost:1512312013-07-31T12:00:12.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
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<p>I'm not sure how many of you also suffer from compulsive rapid cycle MD episodes, when over a period of days or over a course of a week your MD's are more frequent and obsessively intense. When I am caught up in one of those cycles I have great difficulty trying to break out of the loop.</p>
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<p>I know that music is a prominent trigger for MD, but I recently found a track called <span class="font-size-5"><strong>"weightless" by Marconi Union</strong></span>, its 8 minutes long…</p>
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<p>I'm not sure how many of you also suffer from compulsive rapid cycle MD episodes, when over a period of days or over a course of a week your MD's are more frequent and obsessively intense. When I am caught up in one of those cycles I have great difficulty trying to break out of the loop.</p>
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<p>I know that music is a prominent trigger for MD, but I recently found a track called <span class="font-size-5"><strong>"weightless" by Marconi Union</strong></span>, its 8 minutes long and has no words/lyrics or loud beats. In fact is just sounds like a whole bunch of long droned out subtle tones. It was apparently engineered with the help of the British academy of sound therapy and was scientifically engineering to be calming and put listeners in a relaxed mode/state. </p>
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<p>I was suffering from a manic episode last night and took the time to lie still and just focused on listening, played the song on full volume in my earphones for 15minutes, it didn't put me to sleep but I found that I was surprisingly much calmer....and I was less trapped in my vivid MD.</p>
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<p>I'm not sure if it was just a placebo effect. But any thing that may help is worth trying right?</p>
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<p>If anyone is interested here is a link,</p>
<p><a href="http://mp3skull.com/mp3/marconi_union_weightless.html">http://mp3skull.com/mp3/marconi_union_weightless.html</a></p>
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<p>Give it a try, sit through the 8 minutes and focus on the sounds. Let me know if this works at all for you. I'm curious to see if it has a real effect on other people.</p>Aller Anfang ist Schwer- All Beginnings Are Difficulttag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-23:4661400:BlogPost:1450982013-06-23T12:08:33.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
<p>I love that saying, its simple, all-encompassing and most of all very true.</p>
<p>Since I've acknowledged that I have MD, and connected with the idea that I am not a single/ individual anomaly with this condition. I have begun to approach my life very differently.</p>
<p>For the past year, I've been traveling the world (mostly Europe), learning new languages (I am of immigrant background originally so I speak several languages already) and challenging myself to do new and different things.…</p>
<p>I love that saying, its simple, all-encompassing and most of all very true.</p>
<p>Since I've acknowledged that I have MD, and connected with the idea that I am not a single/ individual anomaly with this condition. I have begun to approach my life very differently.</p>
<p>For the past year, I've been traveling the world (mostly Europe), learning new languages (I am of immigrant background originally so I speak several languages already) and challenging myself to do new and different things. I have finally settled down a bit...or at least I think I have....I've just started a new job, which has provided me with great prospects for the future. And after coming back "home"- as in the place I grew up. I am trying to rebuild my life again, post-MDD awareness.</p>
<p>I think many people on this forum can identify when I say that making and keeping real friends can sometimes be such a nuisance and bother. I am very outgoing on the outside, and well-adjusted socially, but I have generally had no interest in maintaining or committing to friendships/ relationships. It's mainly because I always feel as if the people around me/ the people that I meet are so annoying and shallow. I feel that they are ingrained with insincerity and lack emotional maturity. So I have always been the type to ignore friends when they call because I already imagine our encounters to be annoying and unnecessary. </p>
<p>Currently in my post MDD state, I am trying to rebuild. First I promised myself to be more attentive to people who have good character and second I promised to be more in the present. To be more awake and aware of whats happening around me, day to day, instead of pulling back into the MDD world all the time.</p>
<p>I can't say that this has been easy. I have had some success on being more conscious, and in the moment. But trying to build a new network of friends from the old bunch has proven to be very difficult. When I was traveling, it was easy to randomly meet new people. But now that I am settled in a 9-5 job I find it really hard to encounter new friends. I'm beginning to feel the "withdrawal symptoms" of MD, that deafening silence of being the perpetual loner.</p>
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<p>Does anyone have any advice on this?</p>How do you feel when you catch others M.Ding?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-10:4661400:BlogPost:1434992013-06-10T19:33:45.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
<p>Today during my lunch break I walked through a crowd of people and spotted one well dressed gentlemen very clearly talking to himself. Mimicking facial expressions etc while he was walking along....it really mad me feel better.</p>
<p>I thought well at least I am clearly not alone and I am not MDing now so whatever attention he gets from people around us, at least it's diverted away from me.</p>
<p>Has anyone caught someone else random stranger or someone you know blatantly MDing?</p>
<p>Today during my lunch break I walked through a crowd of people and spotted one well dressed gentlemen very clearly talking to himself. Mimicking facial expressions etc while he was walking along....it really mad me feel better.</p>
<p>I thought well at least I am clearly not alone and I am not MDing now so whatever attention he gets from people around us, at least it's diverted away from me.</p>
<p>Has anyone caught someone else random stranger or someone you know blatantly MDing?</p>Acting out on your frustration in MDtag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-08:4661400:BlogPost:1430922013-06-08T16:57:53.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
<p>Yesterday, I had a baffling encounter, it was supposed to be part job interview/ part information interview except the woman sitting across the boardroom table from me was either deeply inept or very stoned (or both?). It shocked me to the core because I am a lot more qualified than she is and yet not only was she patronizing, but she was literally making annoying childish whining sounds as I tried to ask her basic questions about the company. </p>
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<p>I felt like I was being…</p>
<p>Yesterday, I had a baffling encounter, it was supposed to be part job interview/ part information interview except the woman sitting across the boardroom table from me was either deeply inept or very stoned (or both?). It shocked me to the core because I am a lot more qualified than she is and yet not only was she patronizing, but she was literally making annoying childish whining sounds as I tried to ask her basic questions about the company. </p>
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<p>I felt like I was being deliberately conned and purposefully undervalued, I guess everyone has an encounter like this once in a while but it seriously annoyed me. So on my way back home in peak time traffic the frustration of the whole thing literally kept spinning in my head. And I found myself re-enacting/ impersonating her character traits, so I was MDing in the car and mimicking the annoyingly whining reluctant groan that my interviewer had made constantly during our meeting. Until the point I started cracking myself up because I thought it amusing that people like that still get to keep their jobs and get paid for being so incompetent. </p>
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<p>As I was doing this I caught a glimpse of the driver in the next lane and was staring at me like, with that "this woman is a lunatic" look on her face....it was embarrassing but honestly I don't think I care...it helps to vent and if MD is my outlet than I am reluctant to suppress it.</p>
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<p>Does anyone feel the same way?</p>
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<p>Yesterday, I had a baffling encounter, it was supposed to be part job interview/ part information interview except the woman sitting across the boardroom table from me was either deeply inept or very stoned (or both?). It shocked me to the core because I am a lot more qualified than she is and yet not only was she patronizing, but she was literally making annoying childish whining sounds as I tried to ask her basic questions about the company. </p>
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<p>I felt like I was being…</p>
<p>Yesterday, I had a baffling encounter, it was supposed to be part job interview/ part information interview except the woman sitting across the boardroom table from me was either deeply inept or very stoned (or both?). It shocked me to the core because I am a lot more qualified than she is and yet not only was she patronizing, but she was literally making annoying childish whining sounds as I tried to ask her basic questions about the company. </p>
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<p>I felt like I was being deliberately conned and purposefully undervalued, I guess everyone has an encounter like this once in a while but it seriously annoyed me. So on my way back home in peak time traffic the frustration of the whole thing literally kept spinning in my head. And I found myself re-enacting/ impersonating her character traits, so I was MDing in the car and mimicking the annoyingly whining reluctant groan that my interviewer had made constantly during our meeting. Until the point I started cracking myself up because I thought it amusing that people like that still get to keep their jobs and get paid for being so incompetent. </p>
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<p>As I was doing this I caught a glimpse of the driver in the next lane and was staring at me like, with that "this woman is a lunatic" look on her face....it was embarrassing but honestly I don't think I care...it helps to vent and if MD is my outlet than I am reluctant to suppress it.</p>
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<p></p>Why I hate Barney the purple dinosour....tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-30:4661400:BlogPost:1418692013-05-30T12:25:14.000ZFayehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Faye
<p>I'm not sure what the generational breakdown of the members on this site are. But I'm sure that many of you share experiences of vivid fantasy role play as a child. I remember distinctly that when I was little I used to wonder if playing pretend with invisible things was a strange and abnormal thing, I also recall watching episode upon episode of Barney the purple dinosaur...remember how he encouraged kids (almost compulsively and subliminally) to use their imagination? "Barney is a purple…</p>
<p>I'm not sure what the generational breakdown of the members on this site are. But I'm sure that many of you share experiences of vivid fantasy role play as a child. I remember distinctly that when I was little I used to wonder if playing pretend with invisible things was a strange and abnormal thing, I also recall watching episode upon episode of Barney the purple dinosaur...remember how he encouraged kids (almost compulsively and subliminally) to use their imagination? "Barney is a purple dinosaur from our imagination....." and every time a character would find themselves in a pickle Barney would say "use your imagination!" and then their predicament would be solved. Yes in the broader scheme of things its healthy and intellectually stimulating for children to subscribe to that but for someone who suffers from compulsive daydreaming stemming from an overactive imagination I now really wish that I was not so easily convinced by that show. ...</p>