12 Step Recovery for MD

This is a group for people interested in applying the 12 steps to their compulsive fantasizing.  I am hoping there are a few of you out there . . . 

  • Nomad

    Thanks for starting this group!

  • Nomad

    Your plan sounds good to me.

    I do have one concern: I've worked the steps before but never on the Internet. Although I've spilled my guts on Wild Minds a couple of times, it's a public forum, which I don't consider ideal for step-work. If we were talking about any other issue, I wouldn't even consider working the steps with people I haven't met and can't see. Nevertheless, I know this is the only way to work with other compulsive fantasizers, so I'm keeping an open mind. My f2f 12-step friends are supportive, but they don't understand this particular compulsion.

    Have either of you worked the steps with an online community before? If so, how did that work? 

  • Nomad

    I attended a workshop about facebook yesterday, and the speakers discouraged its use for recovery-related stuff. I guess all the overlapping notifications tend to inadvertently compromise people's privacy. I don't know much about it because I'm not on facebook.

    Your plan to stick with f2f step-work and report appropriate highlights sounds good to me, at least for now. Perhaps our approach will evolve over time.  

  • beinpresence

    I am a member of Overeaters Annonymous.  I just went back to a meeting after about 5 years of denial.  I have been both a compulsive overeater and a  compulsive daydreamer all of my life. I believe the two are linked. I recently looked back on my life to see that addiction runs in the family, but it wasnt spoke about.   how wonderful it would be if we had a 12 step meeting that actually met in person for Compulsive daydreaming. We could call it CDA.  Last night it was very empowering to meet other OA members after years of isolation and silence. how I would love to meet other compulsive daydreamers for hraling through our shared suffering.

    This is actually quite damaging to my life. The Compulsive daydreaming interferes with my ability to make a living.

  • Dreamer

    I am a member of a 12 meeting for sex addiction and the greatest help I receive  from the group is the alleviation of shame, guilt and embarrassment attached to this affliction. A 12 step meeting for MDD would be good but I doubt there are enough sufferers (or enough people aware that they are sufferers) in any locality to justify one.

  • AK

    Yes! If only.... I am also a member of a 12 step group. Been in recovery for about 9 months. Starting realizing over the last few months that my compulsive daydreaming, which I've been engaged in since I was 5 or so, is also an addiction. I agree that an online  group is not an ideal forum for recovery, but I hope and pray for this to actually become a reality.

  • Susan P

    Thanks for starting this group.  I'm a member of Alanon Adult Children and had been hoping to find a 12 Step group especially for MD; I guess this is the best thing currently available, although I'd prefer a physical meeting!  But we have to take what we can get.  I know I'm powerless over my MD, and I'm hoping that working the steps will help.

  • Susan P

    So does this group have an actual online meeting?  And if not, can we try to make that happen?  (I've only been at physical 12-Step meetings, so I'm not sure how online ones work, but there are a lot of them.)  Thanks!

  • Kajol

    Hi, I am really new to this recovery for MD. I want this alternate life to stop altogether. How does this online meeting work? Would love to communicate.  

  • Luna

    I'm interested as well thanks!
  • Sarah Anderson

    Hi. I'm a long time member of Al-anon and have only just realized that daydreaming is my addiction and need to treat it as such. Any advice? Tips? Tricks?

  • Asha

    Hello everyone, I have been daydreaming ever since I could remember. Please help me stop this. How does this work. I'm very much interested.
  • terryj

    yesterday i sprained/broke my wrist, possibly while daydreaming.  i dont even remember exactly.  im usually fairly careful when standing on a chair to reach or clean.  but yesterday i was having negative conversations in my head while working around the house. ... it seems like its getting worse, so i need to be more pro-active in focusing. ... Basically, i thought it might help to be somewhat accountable to a group. ... Maybe post daily or weekly, whether someone sees it or not. ... i have become somewhat reclusive, even though my family is great. ... i need to become more productive. ... i am so behind on life! ... sorry for odd typing (slow with one hand). ... thats it. ... And i do need to ask God for help, even if my relationship with Him is part of my current daydreaming problem.  :(