Mders who have stopped maladaptive dreaming, how do you deal with reality now? Isn't reality bland, serious and have no spark at all?

by penglycoffee

Apr 5, 2021

Maladaptive dreaming have affected me a lot but it's very difficult to think of my life without it. I just that I will deeply regret letting go of it. I am scared that my life will be plain and boring, it's like my entire personality is dreaming and now I will be nothing without it. Does anyone feel me? I just wonder how former dreamers feel after letting go of it? Wasn't it difficult to adapt to this new life? Even if it was hard letting go of it, have you ever felt that you want to come back to being a maladaptive dreamer?

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    Kristina Gasparian

    Depends.

    My MD was triggered by living among people who were abusive physically and psychologically so while I was still in that environment, I had to rely on MD to save my sanity and living without it would be harder.

    HOWEVER. Whenever I was away, in a healthy safe environment, I'd try to focus on reality more and more. Eventually, I developed an unusually strong appreciation for all things real, going as far as clearing myself not only of MD but of all superstitions known to humankind (took 10 years of training tho). I find this new lifestyle to be very healthy and fascinating. I started reading books about science, astrophysics, watching documentaries about our planet, paying attention to nature during every walk - birds, bugs, clouds... Reality is fascinating and it's healthy to be in touch with it. I'd say that nowadays my life has more spark because I am engaged with things that actually exist, I have my curiosity and I stay observant. I moved out of a country that was bad for me, out of a family that was toxic and even cut ties with them. Reality is 100% bearable now that I've dealt with the core issue.

    Sadly, for most humans accepting reality is very hard. Our poor brains have to deal with our intellect while being too primitive to process terrifying facts of the universe, the inevitability of death or futility of certain efforts. I had to go through a hardcore existential crisis in order to get to this point so I understand why most people just can't handle it. It's very hard but it can be resolved positively and if that happens, your life will be better. You will live in the moment and appreciate it much more.

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    May 27, 2021

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      Mary

      How do I deal with it? Hahaha, I don't. ; v ; Honestly, I wish there was a machine that could detect that I was daydreaming and just give my head a smack. Till now the only effective thing around me is that one loose tile that clicks loudly when I step on it while pacing. That sound just jolts me out of any dream.

      Aug 8, 2021

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        Teresa 1515

        Hi, 

        I feel you. Not that my life is boring, but everything which has happened in my life that I was covering up and avoiding, has all come flooding back to me. I think MD was a form of escape and for me I have now found I have a lot of things to deal with. Adapting to this new life is kind of difficult and I have huge regrets, but I really don't want to return back to it. I also want to help others and encourage. 

        With love Teresa xx

        Aug 19, 2021