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can I have everyone sa my Philosophy buddies?

next month i'll be entering college and my course. . . . It's BA in Philosophy. So if I could have people from here to ponder along it will be much appreciated :) because I'm getting quite tired having no one to exchange words of wisdom with.

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Permalink Reply by Carly Cole on May 10, 2013 at 10:39pm

please. . . . I'd be very greatful to everyone :)

Permalink Reply by LostSoul99 on June 2, 2013 at 6:39pm

Jaimee Cole said:

please. . . . I'd be very greatful to everyone :)

Hey Jaimee, we can discuss a lot of topics if you`d like. I`m actually avery philosophical person and I`m always curious and thinking!

Permalink Reply by Carly Cole on June 4, 2013 at 1:26am

Atrocious_B said:

Jaimee Cole said:

please. . . . I'd be very greatful to everyone :)

Hey Jaimee, we can discuss a lot of topics if you`d like. I`m actually avery philosophical person and I`m always curious and thinking!

Great! Thanks! I already have my subjects for the first semester. I have 1 in Philo which is Introduction to Philosophy. We'll see about that, college hasn't started yet. June 17th is the beginning of my classes.

Permalink Reply by Carly Cole on June 4, 2013 at 1:29am

Atrocious_B said:

Jaimee Cole said:

please. . . . I'd be very greatful to everyone :)

Hey Jaimee, we can discuss a lot of topics if you`d like. I`m actually avery philosophical person and I`m always curious and thinking!

Although, i'd like to know if you've ever doubted your existence?

Permalink Reply by LostSoul99 on June 7, 2013 at 8:48pm

That's a hard question. I think us daydreamers are all a part of the dissociation specturum in a way that we each live in a fantasy world each and everyday. And sometimes, reality just doesn't hit us or is as significant to us like it is for other people at times. Sometimes things don't feel real. Like me for example, when I think about some traumatic events in my life, I feel absolutely nothing at all. It's like these memories are slowly drifting away and they have absolutely no meaning. The only time I may think of a past memory and feel at least something is if I watch a movie or I am reminded of it in a social situation. Other than that, most of my time is spent in my room, where I am given space to breathe(I do have friends by the way, lol I'm not a completely loner), and daydream, read, write, watch tv shows everything that are like an escape to me. I think with every single daydreamer, some events that are supposed to depress us don't hit us as hard and we don't feel emotions like other people do. We don't feel attachment to people and we don't feel the trauma because we have multiple inner lives so our inner lives sometimes complete the needs that are not met in real life. So let's say you lost a parent and you're lonely, and you daydream about another person in your life that fully gets you, it kind of fulfills that need of someone loving and being there for you. And that's why we don't feel as attached to our loved ones because we don't need them to fulfill this need of ours. We're present in this world but then again, we really aren't, at least not as fully as a normal person is. I personally don't know what I'd do without this. I think I'd live in my memories and hit depression if it weren't for my MD. As for life in general, I feel like I really don't belong anywhere and sometimes I truly believe I'm better off by myself. I'm a very complex individual. I think we all are. I do one day hope that after I die and if there is a heaven and I go to heaven, I can really live out my inner lives. I've attempted to lucid dream as a way to try and live these inner lives but didn't work. LOL I'm sorry this was long. Tell me more about yourself. Have you doubted your existence?

Permalink Reply by Carly Cole on June 24, 2013 at 11:11pm

Hey! I'm so sorry for the late response, actually my classes just started(17 June) and i'm studying Philosophy :)
So, more about myself.... I just turned 17 last april, and I kind of wished I didn't have to turn 17 because after a month of my birthday I pretty much had to face everything I escaped from for about 7 years!
Actually I think it was also in June last year when I encountered the term 'Fantasy-prone Personality', but then dismissed it thinking I might be crazy. I also didn't go to college during that, I didn't know what exactly the reason but I what I felt was: anxiety & fear(fear of school, failure, social situations, etc). Take this, I spent the whole school year DDing! I didn't go outside my house for about 6 months the first time I went out it was really cold like I was really shaking and my knees hurt because I was walking. In the course of these months, I thought I didn't have any friends at all because I wasn't contacting them neither responding to their texts. I didn't care I have my fictional character/s to occupy my mind. Until several months ago I came across with Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia, I have this, but didn't care again for the reason that I didn't think it was that bad and I have my mind really happy about my imaginations/fantasies. Then I enrolled to college on 24 April, I was about to take Psychology as my major, but wasn't able to because the course is overloaded (i don't know why there are so many who enrolled in it, and yet not make any progress at all) so I ended up taking Philosophy since it's my 2nd option. That very same night, I searched it up to have an inkling of what i'm about to dwell on, and man it was crazy!! Especially the TRUTH part since our DDs aren't true. I mean I know that my DDs aren't real, but that really upset me, it's as if those DDs are no good at all even if it makes me happy that I felt as if i'm a liar. So I looked this up in the net and found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming then linked it to Social Phobia and realized that I have a commorbidity of SA and MD. The first weeks of cutting MD was really depressing along with the fact and realization that SA has pretty much ruined my high school life as well as the first year of my college and my self-worth. So I texted my old friends in high school even one in grade school and I'm really happy that enough responded, I actually still count them even as bestfriends but they don't know about MD this will be too much for them. Also they keep me from drifting into bad DDs, and stress. I'm still struggling with SA since nothing happens overnight and in philosophy it's really an arena where we always debate, it's hard. MD on the other hand, is not much of a problem except the mini daydreams that I can't control, i'm accepting that i'm a prolific daydreamer.
Now, to the question of ever doubting my existence. I have actually it's probably because of Descartes and the post I read here further about OCD, that they sometimes doubt if they're real. I still think I am, at the end of the day :) BOW.

P. S In my philoophy class we talked about the 3 fundamental questions of Philosophy, if you don't know about this yet maybe you can answer.
I. WHO AMI? (self-discovery into finding the fact)
II. WHAT SHOULD I LIVE FOR? (e.g for pleasure, food, etc; the essense of life)
Hey! I'm so sorry for the late response, actually my classes just started(17 June) and i'm studying Philosophy :)
So, more about myself.... I just turned 17 last april, and I kind of wished I didn't have to turn 17 because after a month of my birthday I pretty much had to face everything I escaped from for about 7 years!
Actually I think it was also in June last year when I encountered the term 'Fantasy-prone Personality', but then dismissed it thinking I might be crazy. I also didn't go to college during that, I didn't know what exactly the reason but I what I felt was: anxiety & fear(fear of school, failure, social situations, etc). Take this, I spent the whole school year DDing! I didn't go outside my house for about 6 months the first time I went out it was really cold like I was really shaking and my knees hurt because I was walking. In the course of these months, I thought I didn't have any friends at all because I wasn't contacting them neither responding to their texts. I didn't care I have my fictional character/s to occupy my mind. Until several months ago I came across with Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia, I have this, but didn't care again for the reason that I didn't think it was that bad and I have my mind really happy about my imaginations/fantasies. Then I enrolled to college on 24 April, I was about to take Psychology as my major, but wasn't able to because the course is overloaded (i don't know why there are so many who enrolled in it, and yet not make any progress at all) so I ended up taking Philosophy since it's my 2nd option. That very same night, I searched it up to have an inkling of what i'm about to dwell on, and man it was crazy!! Especially the TRUTH part since our DDs aren't true. I mean I know that my DDs aren't real, but that really upset me, it's as if those DDs are no good at all even if it makes me happy that I felt as if i'm a liar. So I looked this up in the net and found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming then linked it to Social Phobia and realized that I have a commorbidity of SA and MD. The first weeks of cutting MD was really depressing along with the fact and realization that SA has pretty much ruined my high school life as well as the first year of my college and my self-worth. So I texted my old friends in high school even one in grade school and I'm really happy that enough responded, I actually still count them even as bestfriends but they don't know about MD this will be too much for them. Also they keep me from drifting into bad DDs, and stress. I'm still struggling with SA since nothing happens overnight and in philosophy it's really an arena where we always debate, it's hard. MD on the other hand, is not much of a problem except the mini daydreams that I can't control, i'm accepting that i'm a prolific daydreamer.
Now, to the question of ever doubting my existence. I have actually it's probably because of Descartes and the post I read here further about OCD, that they sometimes doubt if they're real. I still think I am, at the end of the day :) BOW.

P. S In my philoophy class we talked about the 3 fundamental questions of Philosophy, if you don't know about this yet maybe you can answer.
I. WHO AMI? (self-discovery into finding the fact)
II. WHAT SHOULD I LIVE FOR? (e.g for pleasure, food, etc; the essense of life is to a. physical b. survival)
III. WHERE AM I GOING? (this is something beyond)
Hey thanks ! :) for reading.

Permalink Reply by Carly Cole on June 28, 2013 at 5:19am

Atrocious_B said:

That's a hard question. I think us daydreamers are all a part of the dissociation specturum in a way that we each live in a fantasy world each and everyday. And sometimes, reality just doesn't hit us or is as significant to us like it is for other people at times. Sometimes things don't feel real. Like me for example, when I think about some traumatic events in my life, I feel absolutely nothing at all. It's like these memories are slowly drifting away and they have absolutely no meaning. The only time I may think of a past memory and feel at least something is if I watch a movie or I am reminded of it in a social situation. Other than that, most of my time is spent in my room, where I am given space to breathe(I do have friends by the way, lol I'm not a completely loner), and daydream, read, write, watch tv shows everything that are like an escape to me. I think with every single daydreamer, some events that are supposed to depress us don't hit us as hard and we don't feel emotions like other people do. We don't feel attachment to people and we don't feel the trauma because we have multiple inner lives so our inner lives sometimes complete the needs that are not met in real life. So let's say you lost a parent and you're lonely, and you daydream about another person in your life that fully gets you, it kind of fulfills that need of someone loving and being there for you. And that's why we don't feel as attached to our loved ones because we don't need them to fulfill this need of ours. We're present in this world but then again, we really aren't, at least not as fully as a normal person is. I personally don't know what I'd do without this. I think I'd live in my memories and hit depression if it weren't for my MD. As for life in general, I feel like I really don't belong anywhere and sometimes I truly believe I'm better off by myself. I'm a very complex individual. I think we all are. I do one day hope that after I die and if there is a heaven and I go to heaven, I can really live out my inner lives. I've attempted to lucid dream as a way to try and live these inner lives but didn't work. LOL I'm sorry this was long. Tell me more about yourself. Have you doubted your existence?

Hey! I'm so sorry for the late response, actually my classes just started(17 June) and i'm studying Philosophy :) So, more about myself.... I just turned 17 last april, and I kind of wished I didn't have to turn 17 because after a month of my birthday I pretty much had to face everything I escaped from for about 7 years!
Actually I think it was also in June last year when I encountered the term 'Fantasy-prone Personality', but then dismissed it thinking I might be crazy. I also didn't go to college during that, I didn't know what exactly the reason but I what I felt was: anxiety & fear(fear of school, failure, social situations, etc). Take this, I spent the whole school year DDing! I didn't go outside my house for about 6 months the first time I went out it was really cold like I was really shaking and my knees hurt because I was walking. In the course of these months, I thought I didn't have any friends at all because I wasn't contacting them neither responding to their texts. I didn't care I have my fictional character/s to occupy my mind. Until several months ago I came across with Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia, I have this, but didn't care again for the reason that I didn't think it was that bad and I have my mind really happy about my imaginations/fantasies. Then I enrolled to college on 24 April, I was about to take Psychology as my major, but wasn't able to because the course is overloaded (i don't know why there are so many who enrolled in it, and yet not make any progress at all) so I ended up taking Philosophy since it's my 2nd option. That very same night, I searched it up to have an inkling of what i'm about to dwell on, and man it was crazy!! Especially the TRUTH part since our DDs aren't true. I mean I know that my DDs aren't real, but that really upset me, it's as if those DDs are no good at all even if it makes me happy that I felt as if i'm a liar. So I looked this up in the net and found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming then linked it to Social Phobia and realized that I have a commorbidity of SA and MD. The first weeks of cutting MD was really depressing along with the fact and realization that SA has pretty much ruined my high school life as well as the first year of my college and my self-worth. So I texted my old friends in high school even one in grade school and I'm really happy that enough responded, I actually still count them even as bestfriends but they don't know about MD this will be too much for them. Also they keep me from drifting into bad DDs, and stress. I'm still struggling with SA since nothing happens overnight and in philosophy it's really an arena where we always debate, it's hard. MD on the other hand, is not much of a problem except the mini daydreams that I can't control, i'm accepting that i'm a prolific daydreamer.
Now, to the question of ever doubting my existence. I have actually it's probably because of Descartes and the post I read here further about OCD, that they sometimes doubt if they're real. I still think I am, at the end of the day :) BOW.

P. S In my philoophy class we talked about the 3 fundamental questions of Philosophy, if you don't know about this yet maybe you can answer.
I. WHO AMI? (self-discovery into finding the fact)
II. WHAT SHOULD I LIVE FOR? (e.g for pleasure, food, etc; the essense of life)
Hey! I'm so sorry for the late response, actually my classes just started(17 June) and i'm studying Philosophy :)
So, more about myself.... I just turned 17 last april, and I kind of wished I didn't have to turn 17 because after a month of my birthday I pretty much had to face everything I escaped from for about 7 years!
Actually I think it was also in June last year when I encountered the term 'Fantasy-prone Personality', but then dismissed it thinking I might be crazy. I also didn't go to college during that, I didn't know what exactly the reason but I what I felt was: anxiety & fear(fear of school, failure, social situations, etc). Take this, I spent the whole school year DDing! I didn't go outside my house for about 6 months the first time I went out it was really cold like I was really shaking and my knees hurt because I was walking. In the course of these months, I thought I didn't have any friends at all because I wasn't contacting them neither responding to their texts. I didn't care I have my fictional character/s to occupy my mind. Until several months ago I came across with Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia, I have this, but didn't care again for the reason that I didn't think it was that bad and I have my mind really happy about my imaginations/fantasies. Then I enrolled to college on 24 April, I was about to take Psychology as my major, but wasn't able to because the course is overloaded (i don't know why there are so many who enrolled in it, and yet not make any progress at all) so I ended up taking Philosophy since it's my 2nd option. That very same night, I searched it up to have an inkling of what i'm about to dwell on, and man it was crazy!! Especially the TRUTH part since our DDs aren't true. I mean I know that my DDs aren't real, but that really upset me, it's as if those DDs are no good at all even if it makes me happy that I felt as if i'm a liar. So I looked this up in the net and found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming then linked it to Social Phobia and realized that I have a commorbidity of SA and MD. The first weeks of cutting MD was really depressing along with the fact and realization that SA has pretty much ruined my high school life as well as the first year of my college and my self-worth. So I texted my old friends in high school even one in grade school and I'm really happy that enough responded, I actually still count them even as bestfriends but they don't know about MD this will be too much for them. Also they keep me from drifting into bad DDs, and stress. I'm still struggling with SA since nothing happens overnight and in philosophy it's really an arena where we always debate, it's hard. MD on the other hand, is not much of a problem except the mini daydreams that I can't control, i'm accepting that i'm a prolific daydreamer.
Now, to the question of ever doubting my existence. I have actually it's probably because of Descartes and the post I read here further about OCD, that they sometimes doubt if they're real. I still think I am, at the end of the day :) BOW.

P. S In my philoophy class we talked about the 3 fundamental questions of Philosophy, if you don't know about this yet maybe you can answer.
I. WHO AMI? (self-discovery into finding the fact)
II. WHAT SHOULD I LIVE FOR? (e.g for pleasure, food, etc; the essense of life is to a. physical b. survival)
III. WHERE AM I GOING? (this is something beyond)
Hey thanks ! :) for reading.