Wishing with all my heart that my daydream becomes reality - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T15:03:42Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/wishing-with-all-my-heart-that-my-daydream-becomes-reality?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A197510&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI'm not present in my daydrea…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-12-17:4661400:Comment:1976532014-12-17T15:13:52.446ZEmmahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Emma499
<p>I'm not present in my daydreams, so I don't long for their life. But I have found myself wishing I had some of the kinds of relationships that I've built for my characters. But here's the thing, in real life things don't work out the way they do in fantasy. In fantasy, my characters can form very close and intimate relationships with one another that are wholly fullfilling. In real life, those same sorts of relationships are going to be full of inconsistencies and complications because…</p>
<p>I'm not present in my daydreams, so I don't long for their life. But I have found myself wishing I had some of the kinds of relationships that I've built for my characters. But here's the thing, in real life things don't work out the way they do in fantasy. In fantasy, my characters can form very close and intimate relationships with one another that are wholly fullfilling. In real life, those same sorts of relationships are going to be full of inconsistencies and complications because that is how people are and also because life is hard and everyone has their own stresses that interfere with them doing the things they want to do. So while I desperately wish I had a friendship like the ones in my fantasy, in real life my own friendships are very meaningful- but not nearly so neat or intimate or devoted. So what I find is that the day dream makes me dissatisfied with something that is good and real in favor of something that is impossible and fake. That is never a good thing. </p>
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<p>I assume this same logic would apply to imagined scenarios or dream lives. Whatever it is you are doing in your fantasy would not be nearly so cool in real life if it were to come true because real life is complicated and stressful. For example, if it is a job you wish you had, then maybe it would be fulfilling, but also it would be stressful and there would be a trade-off plus work politics etc. I'm not saying you shouldn't strive towards creating some sort of more fulfilling life for yourself. By all means do that! And if your daydream helps inspire you, then use that inspiration. But you should not torture yourself that your life is not like your daydream because it is absolutely impossible that it ever could be. Even if you get what you want, it won't be like it is in your daydream because you control your daydream. You don't control real life.</p>
<p><br/>Here's another example. Even when I daydream about bad things happening to my characters, I've found that it is satisfying in a way because of the drama, the way other characters respond, the way my characters use their strengths to pull through, the way their failures make them vulnerable and this allows them to receive help and form tighter bonds with others or sometimes how it allows others to be kinky or heroic or loyal or whatever. But in real life, when horrible things have happened to me, typically life just falls apart. Relationships pull through, but they are changed and damaged. There is no silver lining, no heroes, no sense of accomplishment. When you survive something horrible, you are just surviving- and you pull through but you are drained, exhausted, then have to rebuild. This is real life. It's not at all satisfying like it is in fantasy.</p>
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<p>Likewise with very happy things. I have a very happy marriage. We have a wonderful time together, but we can't devote ourselves to one another constantly. We have different interests, we argue about dishes/laundry, our hearts get tugged in different directions by family commitments, friendships, dreams, etc. We have to balance finances against work goals against quality of life and hobbies/dreams. In the end, we are compromising constantly. It's nothing like the intensity of love and loyalty of my characters for whom the boring tedium of stresses in real life never affect. Their cars don't break down in boring ways in boring places on the way to work in the morning, and if it does, the impact on their lives usually doesn't involve things like how to get laundry done while making up the work they missed in the morning. </p>
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<p>See what I mean? </p> Yep it messes with me everyda…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-12-16:4661400:Comment:1975572014-12-16T22:13:22.912ZLt Chttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/LtC
Yep it messes with me everyday. Since it's impossible for it to ever happen or be true I just want to stop daydreaming and continue with this boring life but I've been doing this since I was a little kid. It's just part of me now. I don't think I can get rid of it.
Yep it messes with me everyday. Since it's impossible for it to ever happen or be true I just want to stop daydreaming and continue with this boring life but I've been doing this since I was a little kid. It's just part of me now. I don't think I can get rid of it. Same here, friend. Unfortunat…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-12-13:4661400:Comment:1975102014-12-13T20:34:25.926ZMachelle Irbyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/MachelleIrby
<p>Same here, friend. Unfortunately, my dreams are impossible to fulfil. And, besides, my dreams are so taboo that even telling people i wish it'd come true can lead them to make questions over the integrity of my personality. It seems strange to them that I'd like to be less than others, have to rely completely on them. They see it as a sexual fantasies, which it isn't. </p>
<p>Same here, friend. Unfortunately, my dreams are impossible to fulfil. And, besides, my dreams are so taboo that even telling people i wish it'd come true can lead them to make questions over the integrity of my personality. It seems strange to them that I'd like to be less than others, have to rely completely on them. They see it as a sexual fantasies, which it isn't. </p> Absolutely not. I love when I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-12-06:4661400:Comment:1970272014-12-06T01:21:22.489ZRichard Questhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/RichardQuest
<p>Absolutely not. I love when I lucid dream and I step in the realm of my daydreams and everything is <em>so </em>perfect there. I think you can learn from what this world has to offer. Try to act like your character would, and slowly it can merge with reality. Be bold and do what your character did. Maybe give it new life in a form of a movie or book, so in a sense it will become real.</p>
<p>Absolutely not. I love when I lucid dream and I step in the realm of my daydreams and everything is <em>so </em>perfect there. I think you can learn from what this world has to offer. Try to act like your character would, and slowly it can merge with reality. Be bold and do what your character did. Maybe give it new life in a form of a movie or book, so in a sense it will become real.</p> Come to think of it, my daydr…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-12-02:4661400:Comment:1967612014-12-02T03:45:50.174ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
Come to think of it, my daydream life would be terrible if it was real. In my daydreams my character has to do some pretty insane things that would be terrifying if I really had to do them (my life and the lives of others would actually be in danger if I failed), not to mention I would lose my ability to control other people and events that happen in the universe. Maybe I enjoy my daydreams so much simply BECAUSE they're not real.<br />
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Getting to fly and having such awesome friends in real life…
Come to think of it, my daydream life would be terrible if it was real. In my daydreams my character has to do some pretty insane things that would be terrifying if I really had to do them (my life and the lives of others would actually be in danger if I failed), not to mention I would lose my ability to control other people and events that happen in the universe. Maybe I enjoy my daydreams so much simply BECAUSE they're not real.<br />
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Getting to fly and having such awesome friends in real life would still be very cool, though. I wish that my daydreams coul…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-30:4661400:Comment:1964922014-11-30T03:11:11.142ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
I wish that my daydreams could become reality, too. I know they never will. They're WAY too unrealistic. (I don't mean me-being-a-movie-star unrealistic, I mean me-being-an-alien-and-ruling-a-space-empire unrealistic.) But one can always hope, right?
I wish that my daydreams could become reality, too. I know they never will. They're WAY too unrealistic. (I don't mean me-being-a-movie-star unrealistic, I mean me-being-an-alien-and-ruling-a-space-empire unrealistic.) But one can always hope, right? Wow. I wish that meditation…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-21:4661400:Comment:1958412014-11-21T05:31:20.933ZNot 2 Crazyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/AdrianeAlessandrini
<p>Wow. I wish that meditation could take me there.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, when I try to meditate, I cannot rid my mind of anything. If I'm not daydreaming its thoughts about normal stuff. Or sounds. I can't seem to not concentrate.</p>
<p>Wow. I wish that meditation could take me there.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, when I try to meditate, I cannot rid my mind of anything. If I'm not daydreaming its thoughts about normal stuff. Or sounds. I can't seem to not concentrate.</p> The thing is, regretting the…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-13:4661400:Comment:1955312014-11-13T19:18:01.378ZCamoranhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Source
The thing is, regretting the past won't help at all, and a life of regrets is by far the worst thing I can imagine. I know I didn't say anything helpful, but I have no advice that could fit someone who's 50 (I'm not even 20, so it's impossible for me to even imagine life at that age). Maybe there's some detail of your life that you can control to improve the situation a bit?
The thing is, regretting the past won't help at all, and a life of regrets is by far the worst thing I can imagine. I know I didn't say anything helpful, but I have no advice that could fit someone who's 50 (I'm not even 20, so it's impossible for me to even imagine life at that age). Maybe there's some detail of your life that you can control to improve the situation a bit? Yes, I am! :) I love stuff li…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-12:4661400:Comment:1955222014-11-12T20:06:29.025ZKay Mhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/KayleighMonks
<p>Yes, I am! :) I love stuff like that. I actually do my own investigations, they just aren't on TV and I have to settle for dreams that I can reach. I wish I could do ghost hunting as a job though, it would be so cool. <br></br> <br></br> <cite>Not 2 Crazy said:</cite></p>
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<p>Wouldn't that be the greatest?? …</p>
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<p>Yes, I am! :) I love stuff like that. I actually do my own investigations, they just aren't on TV and I have to settle for dreams that I can reach. I wish I could do ghost hunting as a job though, it would be so cool. <br/> <br/> <cite>Not 2 Crazy said:</cite></p>
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<p>Wouldn't that be the greatest?? Waking up to find out THIS is all a dream and the alternate me is reality. I love that you said that.</p>
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<p>(I take it you're a Ghost Hunter's fan?)</p>
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</blockquote> I have created an ideal self…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-12:4661400:Comment:1955182014-11-12T08:54:44.359ZCamoranhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Source
I have created an ideal self that would be deliberately impossible in this reality, who lives in a world that is the opposite of this one, to make sure that reality and dream world can't merge at all. Still, it would be the greatest thing ever if I woke up from a dream into that world and that world had become reality in the process. I mean, it's not something that happens every day, waking up and be a demigod with the power to teleport people and make mountains float in the air
I have created an ideal self that would be deliberately impossible in this reality, who lives in a world that is the opposite of this one, to make sure that reality and dream world can't merge at all. Still, it would be the greatest thing ever if I woke up from a dream into that world and that world had become reality in the process. I mean, it's not something that happens every day, waking up and be a demigod with the power to teleport people and make mountains float in the air