Who has been able to quit MD for good? - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T05:31:35Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/who-has-been-able-to-quit-md-for-good?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A179951&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noWell it def didn't happen soo…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-25:4661400:Comment:1799512014-04-25T06:08:31.673ZMevvehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mevve
<p>Well it def didn't happen soon, it took me personally a year or so. But that doesn't mean we spend a year talking about my fantasies, it was mostly about my past (excluding the fantasies). I saw my therapist once a week, somethings once in two weeks. So yeah... It took a while ;-).</p>
<p>Well it def didn't happen soon, it took me personally a year or so. But that doesn't mean we spend a year talking about my fantasies, it was mostly about my past (excluding the fantasies). I saw my therapist once a week, somethings once in two weeks. So yeah... It took a while ;-).</p> Once you started therapy, how…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1795762014-04-22T23:00:29.382Zwriterspeakhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/writerspeak
<p>Once you started therapy, how long did it take to see 'results' of some sort with DD? After a month, did it decrease?</p>
<p>Once you started therapy, how long did it take to see 'results' of some sort with DD? After a month, did it decrease?</p> It's def possible, don't give…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1797542014-04-22T19:04:55.916ZMevvehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mevve
<p>It's def possible, don't give up! :-)</p>
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<p>BTW: the quick answer to your question is: if you know the underlying cause you can go into therapy and talk about it. (Or if you have close friends/family who you can talk to, that could also be very helpful).</p>
<p>Work through your issues and you will become empowered to deal with the real world. Your need to live in a perfect fantasy world will decrease. It will always be a decision to quit- it's not like someone else can make you…</p>
<p>It's def possible, don't give up! :-)</p>
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<p>BTW: the quick answer to your question is: if you know the underlying cause you can go into therapy and talk about it. (Or if you have close friends/family who you can talk to, that could also be very helpful).</p>
<p>Work through your issues and you will become empowered to deal with the real world. Your need to live in a perfect fantasy world will decrease. It will always be a decision to quit- it's not like someone else can make you quit. But if you are empowered through therapy, you will feel much stronger to be able to make that decision. That's how it worked for me, at least!</p> Thx so much! I want to stop M…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1797532014-04-22T18:59:10.150ZSatchi Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SatchiR
<p>Thx so much! I want to stop MD so bad</p>
<p>Thx so much! I want to stop MD so bad</p> I have written quite a lot ab…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1798342014-04-22T18:57:53.921ZMevvehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mevve
<p>I have written quite a lot about that in my other topic here:</p>
<p><a href="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/my-md-is-allllmost-gone-some-tips" target="_blank">http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/my-md-is-allllmost-gone-some-tips</a></p>
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<p>And not just in that first message, but if you scroll through all of the messages you can read many more of mine.</p>
<p>Hopefully it will help you understand it better!</p>
<p>I have written quite a lot about that in my other topic here:</p>
<p><a href="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/my-md-is-allllmost-gone-some-tips" target="_blank">http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/my-md-is-allllmost-gone-some-tips</a></p>
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<p>And not just in that first message, but if you scroll through all of the messages you can read many more of mine.</p>
<p>Hopefully it will help you understand it better!</p> But once you know the underly…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1798332014-04-22T18:52:55.815ZSatchi Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SatchiR
<p>But once you know the underlying cause, then what? Like for me I think it's a number of things but primarily low self-esteem.Like how do you work on that?</p>
<p>But once you know the underlying cause, then what? Like for me I think it's a number of things but primarily low self-esteem.Like how do you work on that?</p> Hi Satchi, well I had tried…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1795672014-04-22T06:44:05.983ZMevvehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mevve
<p>Hi Satchi, well I had tried pure determination before (twice) and I could last 2 and 7 days without fantasizing. After going into therapy it now has lasted 1,5 years and counting. I think therapy only works because there is an underlying cause why you started to fantasize. If you just quit fantasizing by pure determination, or using medicine, etc. you haven't dealt with that underlying cause. And I believe it will be very hard to keep yourself from fantasizing again.</p>
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<p>Hi Satchi, well I had tried pure determination before (twice) and I could last 2 and 7 days without fantasizing. After going into therapy it now has lasted 1,5 years and counting. I think therapy only works because there is an underlying cause why you started to fantasize. If you just quit fantasizing by pure determination, or using medicine, etc. you haven't dealt with that underlying cause. And I believe it will be very hard to keep yourself from fantasizing again.</p>
<p>Just like with depression, if you take medicine for depression you don't deal with the underlying cause that makes you depressed. You just treat the chemicals in your brain. But a depression is so much more than that. Same with MD.</p> IS therapy the only thing tha…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-22:4661400:Comment:1798162014-04-22T06:11:34.429ZSatchi Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SatchiR
<p>IS therapy the only thing that works? Isn't there anything at all? OR is it just pure determination?</p>
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<p>IS therapy the only thing that works? Isn't there anything at all? OR is it just pure determination?</p>
<p></p> Thanks for the feedback Mynx!…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-01-08:4661400:Comment:1694492014-01-08T20:54:21.141ZMevvehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mevve
<p>Thanks for the feedback Mynx!:-)</p>
<p>Thanks for the feedback Mynx!:-)</p> Mevve said:
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And I a…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-01-06:4661400:Comment:1693012014-01-06T16:34:57.753ZMynxhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Mynx
<p><br></br> <br></br> <cite>Mevve said:</cite></p>
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<p>And I am glad to read that!<br></br>I think, because MD doesn't really have a clear definition, discussing it can be difficult sometimes. Maybe we all view it differently. But it's good to know you can relate to what…</p>
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<p><br/> <br/> <cite>Mevve said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/who-has-been-able-to-quit-md-for-good?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A168895&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment169128"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>@ Mynx</p>
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<p>And I am glad to read that!<br/>I think, because MD doesn't really have a clear definition, discussing it can be difficult sometimes. Maybe we all view it differently. But it's good to know you can relate to what I am saying.</p>
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<p>You hit the nail right on the head when you said "I understand you have no desire to end your MD. I'm not here to convince you to do so, but I hope that you understand that for most of us MD is a burden; a cope mechanism that developed after something negative. We want to stay creative, but we don't want to live in a made up world anymore. We don't just want to "dominate/control" MD (as you put it); we want to get rid of it. " basically 98% of the people on this board summed up in a nutshell! :)</p>
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