ROOT CAUSE OF MD - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T15:43:44Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?id=4661400%3ATopic%3A134947&feed=yes&xn_auth=noNo, I don't think I have low…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-03:4661400:Comment:1425792013-06-03T23:44:59.102ZEsmee Simonehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/EsmeeSimone
No, I don't think I have low self esteem, I'm pretty happy with who I am. Though I am very introverted and a little shy.<br />
My DD are fairly intrusive nowadays, but they didn't start out that negatively. I remember daydreaming frequently in kindergarten, instead of playing with other kids at recess I'd sit on the swing set and day dream.<br />
My daydreaming is likely the result of ADHD and high sensitivity combined with very few emotional outlets in my life; I don't have much of a social life due to my…
No, I don't think I have low self esteem, I'm pretty happy with who I am. Though I am very introverted and a little shy.<br />
My DD are fairly intrusive nowadays, but they didn't start out that negatively. I remember daydreaming frequently in kindergarten, instead of playing with other kids at recess I'd sit on the swing set and day dream.<br />
My daydreaming is likely the result of ADHD and high sensitivity combined with very few emotional outlets in my life; I don't have much of a social life due to my introversion and shyness, so daydreaming is (or was) one of my only sources for emotional release. yes
I've always had low self…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-02:4661400:Comment:1425252013-06-02T20:02:47.736ZKathy Chttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/KathyC
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<p>I've always had low self esteem.....but sometimes my daydreams start off with having low self esteem but by the end I am stronger and feeling better about my self.</p>
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<p>I've always had low self esteem.....but sometimes my daydreams start off with having low self esteem but by the end I am stronger and feeling better about my self.</p>
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<p></p> hey try meditation ,,,,,,,,,,…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-02:4661400:Comment:1423542013-06-02T02:23:41.837Zsky highhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/skyhigh
<p>hey try meditation ,,,,,,,,,,,,,it will b difficult to meditate in the starting because your mind is not use to concentrate on one thing but with each try u will become better with this ,,,,,,i have started meditation my self<br></br> <br></br> <cite>Satchi R said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142316&xg_source=activity#4661400Comment142316"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>It's so weird. I can spend…</p>
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<p>hey try meditation ,,,,,,,,,,,,,it will b difficult to meditate in the starting because your mind is not use to concentrate on one thing but with each try u will become better with this ,,,,,,i have started meditation my self<br/> <br/> <cite>Satchi R said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142316&xg_source=activity#4661400Comment142316"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>It's so weird. I can spend hours and hours alone perfectly content just daydreaming.It's definitely a problem but it feels so euphoric. I wonder what will help it go away.It's like being out of this world</p>
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</blockquote> It's so weird. I can spend h…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-31:4661400:Comment:1423162013-05-31T21:05:39.934ZSatchi Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SatchiR
<p>It's so weird. I can spend hours and hours alone perfectly content just daydreaming.It's definitely a problem but it feels so euphoric. I wonder what will help it go away.It's like being out of this world</p>
<p>It's so weird. I can spend hours and hours alone perfectly content just daydreaming.It's definitely a problem but it feels so euphoric. I wonder what will help it go away.It's like being out of this world</p> I agree. This is the same fo…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-30:4661400:Comment:1420752013-05-30T19:23:13.912ZTinkerbellhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/ShareenaClarke
<p>I agree. This is the same for me also and I think this is why my MD started.<br></br> <br></br> <cite>LordXephere said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md#4661400Comment136573"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>I think the root cause of MD is being highly imaginative and having to be subjected to a hostile or uncomfortable environment along with feeling unhappy, and alone in real life. In my case I was always kind of dreamy and absent-minded to…</p>
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<p>I agree. This is the same for me also and I think this is why my MD started.<br/> <br/> <cite>LordXephere said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md#4661400Comment136573"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>I think the root cause of MD is being highly imaginative and having to be subjected to a hostile or uncomfortable environment along with feeling unhappy, and alone in real life. In my case I was always kind of dreamy and absent-minded to begin with, but around the 5th grade, I was starting to get severely teased, bullied and ridiculed. This was seemingly endless and would continue all the way until around my junior year in high school. I was very depressed and started to feel that the world was a cruel and hostile place where no matter where I went people hated me. This is what caused my daydreams to get stronger and all-encompassing. When I felt rejected, unloved and worthless, I just wanted to escape into a world where I had everything I wanted. I wanted to fantasize about what it was like actually to be respected and liked by people.</p>
<p>As a teen, I had extremely low self esteem and felt quite worthless and inferior. I felt like I wanted to be someone else. I would fantasize about being a fantasy version of myself who is an important positive, inspirational and influential figure in society like an activist, musician, or writer. I also created a character based on this fantasy self, who is a magical knight with mystical powers who goes on quests to fight against evil.</p>
<p>By the time I started college I basically created an entire world of characters, situations and ideas that is basically existing as a parallel universe that I can visit at any time. This is when I was at my worst. I felt even more empty than I had ever felt. I had more and more anxiety and fear around people that I would avoid having anything to do with them altogether, which caused me to be completely alone and friendless once again.</p>
<p>So basically MD is what happens to people with overactive minds, who are subjected to the worst things in life and become so depressed, frustrated and fearful of the world that they begin to create their own.</p>
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I don't have high or low…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-30:4661400:Comment:1419732013-05-30T10:44:55.931Zlittleschrodinger'scathttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/littleschrodingerscat
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<p>I don't have high or low self-esteem. I think MD can be cause by a lot of different things such as, trauma, low-self esteem, a lack of friends, etc. I don't think that there is one, single cause.</p>
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<p>I don't have high or low self-esteem. I think MD can be cause by a lot of different things such as, trauma, low-self esteem, a lack of friends, etc. I don't think that there is one, single cause.</p> me too i have daydreams that…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-30:4661400:Comment:1418422013-05-30T00:33:11.865Zsky highhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/skyhigh
<p>me too i have daydreams that r self centered ,,,,,,i dont think it is true that even if u try with yur full heart u cant achieve it (what ever u want to),,,,,if it does not work in one way try another way till u get it ,,,,,,,i have not given up i think i can stop daydreaming and live my life to full extend and be a successful person in life,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the things u told about yur self J PETERS i feel i had the same opinion about my self few years back,,,,, ,,,,,,BUT now i…</p>
<p>me too i have daydreams that r self centered ,,,,,,i dont think it is true that even if u try with yur full heart u cant achieve it (what ever u want to),,,,,if it does not work in one way try another way till u get it ,,,,,,,i have not given up i think i can stop daydreaming and live my life to full extend and be a successful person in life,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the things u told about yur self J PETERS i feel i had the same opinion about my self few years back,,,,, ,,,,,,BUT now i know giving up is not a option try try again or die trying these are the only two option in life no other option exist ,,,,<br/> <cite>J Peters said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?page=3&commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142039&x=1#4661400Comment142039"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p><br/> <br/> <cite>Gianna Deloro said:</cite></p>
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<div class="xg_user_generated"><strong><em>Don't hang your head, hon. I am the same way - I am self-centered in my DDs, too and like you, it's from feeling invisible in real life. I am nothing special in reality - I am not good at anything no matter how hard I try or practice, and I am the only one in the family who has absolutely zero talent and/or beauty. I can't compete in real life. But in my DDs I am extraordinary. </em></strong></div>
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Yes! I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-29:4661400:Comment:1420392013-05-29T23:43:43.397ZJ Petershttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JPeters
<p><br></br> <br></br> <cite>Gianna Deloro said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142106&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment141919"><div><div class="xg_user_generated">Yes! I have extreme low self esteem, but I've been doing this since I was a kid. Kids can't have low self esteem, right? I'm not sure. And now that I think about it, I tend to daydream less when I'm in a good mood, but that doesn't stop be from…</div>
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<p><br/> <br/> <cite>Gianna Deloro said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/root-cause-of-md?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142106&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment141919"><div><div class="xg_user_generated">Yes! I have extreme low self esteem, but I've been doing this since I was a kid. Kids can't have low self esteem, right? I'm not sure. And now that I think about it, I tend to daydream less when I'm in a good mood, but that doesn't stop be from daydreaming when I'm all alone with nothing to do.<br/> My daydreams are very self-centered *hangs head* but I think that comes from me being ignored by many people, or feeling ignored at least.</div>
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<div class="xg_user_generated"><strong><em>Don't hang your head, hon. I am the same way - I am self-centered in my DDs, too and like you, it's from feeling invisible in real life. I am nothing special in reality - I am not good at anything no matter how hard I try or practice, and I am the only one in the family who has absolutely zero talent and/or beauty. I can't compete in real life. But in my DDs I am extraordinary. </em></strong></div>
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</blockquote> Hi, brand new here. I think s…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-29:4661400:Comment:1421062013-05-29T23:36:16.779ZJosiehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Josie
<p>Hi, brand new here. <br></br><br></br>I think self-esteem is a big part of it. <br></br><br></br>More specifically, and at least in my case, I think it's to do with desperately wanting acceptance from people. Not only that, but it's about wanting so desperately to be successful in life. However, the anxiety caused by thinking about just <em>how</em> to go about achieving your goals, not to mention being terrified of failing at them, is just sooo great that it is utterly <em>paralyzing.</em> So you avoid…</p>
<p>Hi, brand new here. <br/><br/>I think self-esteem is a big part of it. <br/><br/>More specifically, and at least in my case, I think it's to do with desperately wanting acceptance from people. Not only that, but it's about wanting so desperately to be successful in life. However, the anxiety caused by thinking about just <em>how</em> to go about achieving your goals, not to mention being terrified of failing at them, is just sooo great that it is utterly <em>paralyzing.</em> So you avoid confronting reality, and go back to daydreaming obsessively instead. It is much easier to just <em>imagine</em> that you have the great, perfect life that you want, than to actually attempt to take the many real, tangible, challenging, and time-consuming steps in order to attain said life. In your fantasy world, you can just erase or magically work around any obstacles that you would certainly face in real life, and you can get to your (probably unrealistic) goals in light speed.<br/><br/>I think this avoidance/anxiety factor is more central to maladaptive daydreaming than self esteem is. But, this avoidance/anxiety creates a vicious cycle which ultimately leads to low self esteem. I think daydreaming for people like us is a defense mechanism our psyche employs to combat the perpetual existential angst we feel about our lives, and how we're kind of really sucking at them.<br/><br/>Yup... I'm familiar with this maladaptive daydreaming stuff. Still utterly shocked and amazed that so many other people are too. For many, many years I <em>truly</em> thought I was alone. Thank you all for existing and making me feel a lot better. :)</p> Yes! I have extreme low self…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-29:4661400:Comment:1419192013-05-29T02:59:22.264ZGianna Delorohttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/GiannaDeloro
Yes! I have extreme low self esteem, but I've been doing this since I was a kid. Kids can't have low self esteem, right? I'm not sure. And now that I think about it, I tend to daydream less when I'm in a good mood, but that doesn't stop be from daydreaming when I'm all alone with nothing to do.<br />
My daydreams are very self-centered *hangs head* but I think that comes from me being ignored by many people, or feeling ignored at least.
Yes! I have extreme low self esteem, but I've been doing this since I was a kid. Kids can't have low self esteem, right? I'm not sure. And now that I think about it, I tend to daydream less when I'm in a good mood, but that doesn't stop be from daydreaming when I'm all alone with nothing to do.<br />
My daydreams are very self-centered *hangs head* but I think that comes from me being ignored by many people, or feeling ignored at least.