Real simple, yes or no question - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T12:46:57Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/real-simple-yes-or-no-question?feed=yes&xn_auth=noDefinitely. I managed to stop…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-02-18:4661400:Comment:2245372016-02-18T23:00:20.608ZTee Ahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/TeeAziz
<p>Definitely. I managed to stop once for a period of around three months and lost 10kg. When I started again, I gained all that weight back and then some. My University work is also suffering. I have zero motivation to go to lectures and have been getting emails from the Uni about missing lectures. Kinda putting that into the back of mind for now - gotten good at that tbh. I used to be a good student, like perfect scores across the board but I just did my University exams and I know they went…</p>
<p>Definitely. I managed to stop once for a period of around three months and lost 10kg. When I started again, I gained all that weight back and then some. My University work is also suffering. I have zero motivation to go to lectures and have been getting emails from the Uni about missing lectures. Kinda putting that into the back of mind for now - gotten good at that tbh. I used to be a good student, like perfect scores across the board but I just did my University exams and I know they went horribly. </p>
<p>So the answer to your question is a big fat yes. </p> Yeah, I know what I'm going t…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-02-17:4661400:Comment:2242222016-02-17T00:52:24.004ZFallen Messengerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/fallenmessenger
Yeah, I know what I'm going to be cause I don't have much of a choice, but I can see the motivational aspect a little but, but not a whole lot.
Yeah, I know what I'm going to be cause I don't have much of a choice, but I can see the motivational aspect a little but, but not a whole lot. Yes Yes and Yes!tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-02-16:4661400:Comment:2239882016-02-16T18:03:44.333ZFireBoltzhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Janet738
<p>Yes Yes and Yes!</p>
<p>Yes Yes and Yes!</p> I've heard the same about day…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-02-14:4661400:Comment:2238552016-02-14T00:12:31.269ZMatthewRhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/MatthewR147
<p>I've heard the same about daydreaming. If you do it too much, you forgo working toward your dreams because you feel like you've already experienced them, that is, emotionally, inside your head. I know i have motivational problems stemming from low self-esteem and anxiety.</p>
<p>I've heard the same about daydreaming. If you do it too much, you forgo working toward your dreams because you feel like you've already experienced them, that is, emotionally, inside your head. I know i have motivational problems stemming from low self-esteem and anxiety.</p> No, though I'm a daydreamer I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-02-13:4661400:Comment:2234882016-02-13T23:13:51.829ZValeria Francohttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/valeria_franco
<p>No, though I'm a daydreamer I've done quite a lot of different things in my life, I'm happily married etc. That makes me feel even guiltier. My life is quite fine, still I daydream a lot, why? It's sort of unrespectful towards people around me and towards people with really difficult lives who are justified to dream another, better life. I wonder, what's wrong with me?</p>
<p>I know, I had (have?) depression, which have deep roots in the past or in my kind of personality, and yes, maybe I am…</p>
<p>No, though I'm a daydreamer I've done quite a lot of different things in my life, I'm happily married etc. That makes me feel even guiltier. My life is quite fine, still I daydream a lot, why? It's sort of unrespectful towards people around me and towards people with really difficult lives who are justified to dream another, better life. I wonder, what's wrong with me?</p>
<p>I know, I had (have?) depression, which have deep roots in the past or in my kind of personality, and yes, maybe I am justified to dream a depression-free, care-free, undesirable-people-free life. But still, I feel guilty. The guilt feeling is linked to depression, so I will daydream more (a guilt-free life!). It's a vicious circle.</p>
<p>Maybe I should just accept my MDD and break it.</p> Yes.
I have a warped sense of…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-01-14:4661400:Comment:2225232016-01-14T02:33:18.869ZMonkeyManhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/FireCloud
<p>Yes.</p>
<p>I have a warped sense of reality in my day dreams. I also feel that in these dreams a lot of it has to do with me coping with problems in other parts in my life. This doesn't motivate me it just lets me carry out a scenario where I can relieve the stress.</p>
<p>Yes.</p>
<p>I have a warped sense of reality in my day dreams. I also feel that in these dreams a lot of it has to do with me coping with problems in other parts in my life. This doesn't motivate me it just lets me carry out a scenario where I can relieve the stress.</p> I'm glad that someone brought…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-01-09:4661400:Comment:2221792016-01-09T23:12:29.008ZPathfinderhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Vamp
<p>I'm glad that someone brought this up finally. I've been wondering for a time and very happy now, thanks, Penguin! :D</p>
<p>From my part it's a massive YESSS. Especially career-wise. Relationships, marriage (and love!) are a whole different type of thing.</p>
<p>But career...for a long time I had excessive DD, to an extent that it made me extremely depressed that no matter how vividly I picture my alternative reality, it can be so lifelike, it can feel so real that I can almost touch the…</p>
<p>I'm glad that someone brought this up finally. I've been wondering for a time and very happy now, thanks, Penguin! :D</p>
<p>From my part it's a massive YESSS. Especially career-wise. Relationships, marriage (and love!) are a whole different type of thing.</p>
<p>But career...for a long time I had excessive DD, to an extent that it made me extremely depressed that no matter how vividly I picture my alternative reality, it can be so lifelike, it can feel so real that I can almost touch the characters - it will never, ever become true. I felt heartbroken. Devastated. Lost. And betrayed.</p>
<p>Later in my life, when I had to step up and 'level up my game', sell myself on jobsites - I found myself lying on the bed for hours on no end and was so demotivated I could not get up until late afternoon. I have very big problems with feeling demotivated all the time. I just...I don't feel, and never felt, that I belonged to this life. I don't dream that excessively any longer. I do think it's a curse. Yet...I think for people like me...life might not offer (ever) enough to satisfy our ever-hungry and sensitive brains.</p>
<p>Something's always missing. Can't figure out what...I don't know how non-MD-s do it. If anyone has any advice on demotivation, please let me know.</p>
<p>Also: I am very creative, intelligent, curious and special, yet...life has never gone towards my expectations. I am a big pile of regret over poor me (self-ironic smile :) ) It is so hard to give up DD when no-one's around you to assure you every day that it is ok to be who you and what you are.</p> That would be a solid YES to…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-12-07:4661400:Comment:2201762015-12-07T16:15:13.054ZRoelhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Roel
<p>That would be a solid YES to all of these.</p>
<p>And also not having the motivation to adapt your routine towards a healthy normal one like you should activly do whene you have autism and have trouble with that. But after being on this world for 18 years I still haven't learned myself basic routine things like brushing my theeth and washing in time. Having meals whene no one asks me to. Getting out of my bed. Getting into my bed. Getting anywhere. Applying daily treatment that the doctor…</p>
<p>That would be a solid YES to all of these.</p>
<p>And also not having the motivation to adapt your routine towards a healthy normal one like you should activly do whene you have autism and have trouble with that. But after being on this world for 18 years I still haven't learned myself basic routine things like brushing my theeth and washing in time. Having meals whene no one asks me to. Getting out of my bed. Getting into my bed. Getting anywhere. Applying daily treatment that the doctor prescriped. Shaving (I started growing a beard just to get rid of that one) So yeah... :/ I'm gross... and I don't have the motivation to change it. Even though I go like "Aaargh damn I forgot again!" every single time whene I realise I should have done one of these things. I should do it every day automaticly. I just don't learn.</p>
<p>Of course there's also homework :p but you can guess how that is going for me</p> My daydream world has turned…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-12-07:4661400:Comment:2203042015-12-07T03:41:42.697ZOhMyMagentahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/OhMyMagenta
My daydream world has turned into a safety net for me. The characters are safe, therefore there's no pressure to be 'on' all the time & I know I won't be rejected. When I have my awkward social moments & botch an interaction, my MDD is there to soothe my wounded ego and calm my over anxious mind. I like to think about it like positive self-talk. My MDD has certainly hindered me as well, causing me to run late for absolutely everything. Course, the ADHD doesn't help
My daydream world has turned into a safety net for me. The characters are safe, therefore there's no pressure to be 'on' all the time & I know I won't be rejected. When I have my awkward social moments & botch an interaction, my MDD is there to soothe my wounded ego and calm my over anxious mind. I like to think about it like positive self-talk. My MDD has certainly hindered me as well, causing me to run late for absolutely everything. Course, the ADHD doesn't help Ni lot dahrin. It doesn't hav…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-12-06:4661400:Comment:2204032015-12-06T23:19:17.142ZCamoranhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Source
<p>Ni lot dahrin. It doesn't have to be a complicated reason in order to cripple you in reality. Sometimes the only difference between reality and hahnu-himdah, dreamland, is one little detail. In my own dream world, the only difference is that I have the power to remedy past mistakes, which I don't in the real world.</p>
<p>Ni lot dahrin. It doesn't have to be a complicated reason in order to cripple you in reality. Sometimes the only difference between reality and hahnu-himdah, dreamland, is one little detail. In my own dream world, the only difference is that I have the power to remedy past mistakes, which I don't in the real world.</p>