Quick Question. [I know it's wierd but... eh.] - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T05:14:31Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/quick-question-i-know-its?feed=yes&xn_auth=noMy daydream is centered aroun…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-23:4661400:Comment:88632011-02-23T22:40:23.991ZPseudo Lifehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/pseudo
<p>My daydream is centered around my relationship with a made-up man. And the thought of giving him up sounds like a real death. </p>
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<p>I've even talked with my made-up husband about how I need to get back to my real life. See you later.</p>
<p>My daydream is centered around my relationship with a made-up man. And the thought of giving him up sounds like a real death. </p>
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<p>I've even talked with my made-up husband about how I need to get back to my real life. See you later.</p> Absolutely! In all of my day…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-20:4661400:Comment:81442011-02-20T20:50:10.517ZMagentahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennIsaac
<p>Absolutely! In all of my daydream scenarios I have a love interest and I develop very deep feelings for them. Like several others have previously mentioned in this thread, my characters are all flawed in some fashion, and this makes them more "real" to me. I've never been someone who envisions the stereotypical perfect white knight who comes and rescues me from the doldrums of my life. That just doesn't work for me because it's not believable (yes, I fully recognize the irony in using…</p>
<p>Absolutely! In all of my daydream scenarios I have a love interest and I develop very deep feelings for them. Like several others have previously mentioned in this thread, my characters are all flawed in some fashion, and this makes them more "real" to me. I've never been someone who envisions the stereotypical perfect white knight who comes and rescues me from the doldrums of my life. That just doesn't work for me because it's not believable (yes, I fully recognize the irony in using the word "believable" when referencing a daydream). </p>
<p>Sometimes I become quite despondent when reality sets in and I am forced to acknowledge that the man I love isn't real. Over the years, I've endured several painful break-ups (I know - who hasn't?) and as a result have become more withdrawn; less trusting. I figure if I don't put myself out there, I won't have to have that constant anxiety that my partner will hurt me. Yes, I realize this logic is neither helpful nor productive, but it's where I'm at right now. At this time, I feel like the men in my daydreams are enough, although I don't believe I'd turn away a flesh and blood man if they presented themselves. </p> All the time! They're never p…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-19:4661400:Comment:80092011-02-19T10:32:44.146ZMelaniehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/MelLithgow
<p>All the time! They're never perfect, but they're mine, you know? But it makes me wonder how it will effect my relationships in the future. How is anyone supposed to live up to my wild imagination? :P</p>
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<p>All the time! They're never perfect, but they're mine, you know? But it makes me wonder how it will effect my relationships in the future. How is anyone supposed to live up to my wild imagination? :P</p>
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<p> </p> Yes. I have 6 daydreams that…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-17:4661400:Comment:83022011-02-17T23:28:31.451ZTomhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Tom
Yes. I have 6 daydreams that I "visit" on a regular basis, and one of them is me, a made-up girlfriend, her family, and the friends that we would have. In this daydream we start a counterculture together (similar to the grunge culture) that alters the zeitgeist of America. The person that I'm in love with has changed dramatically a few times over the years, but she is always a non-white (I'm white, and I have a few semi-racist relatives, so I always feel a sense of vindication thinking that my…
Yes. I have 6 daydreams that I "visit" on a regular basis, and one of them is me, a made-up girlfriend, her family, and the friends that we would have. In this daydream we start a counterculture together (similar to the grunge culture) that alters the zeitgeist of America. The person that I'm in love with has changed dramatically a few times over the years, but she is always a non-white (I'm white, and I have a few semi-racist relatives, so I always feel a sense of vindication thinking that my girlfriend would be non-white). When I was younger, I definit…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-17:4661400:Comment:79112011-02-17T05:11:32.663ZStephhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/S
When I was younger, I definitely did. I daydreamed about book or movie characters when I was younger, like in middle school and into high school, and I became so obsessed with this one character that it scares me to think about it now. I don't really know what went on or how it happened, but I spent all my time wishing he was real and feeling miserable because he wasn't. This went on for a few years. It's faded now, I have real relationships.
When I was younger, I definitely did. I daydreamed about book or movie characters when I was younger, like in middle school and into high school, and I became so obsessed with this one character that it scares me to think about it now. I don't really know what went on or how it happened, but I spent all my time wishing he was real and feeling miserable because he wasn't. This went on for a few years. It's faded now, I have real relationships. Yes, I am also in love with a…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-16:4661400:Comment:72352011-02-16T04:40:25.597ZFenghttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/FengLiang
Yes, I am also in love with a character that I made up. In my mind I created this girl who is the most beautiful girl in the world (to me). I created her years ago and I have never let her go since. Funny thing is, I don't image myself being with her because I feel so ashamed of myself. Every time I tried to imagine myself I always think of this sad pathetic loser who don't deserve to be with anyone really, let alone the most beautiful girl in the world. Yes, I know, I have low self-esteem.…
Yes, I am also in love with a character that I made up. In my mind I created this girl who is the most beautiful girl in the world (to me). I created her years ago and I have never let her go since. Funny thing is, I don't image myself being with her because I feel so ashamed of myself. Every time I tried to imagine myself I always think of this sad pathetic loser who don't deserve to be with anyone really, let alone the most beautiful girl in the world. Yes, I know, I have low self-esteem. But on the other hand, I can't imagine her being with someone else either, because I would feel "hurt" by it. lol. I know, I'm such a weirdo. yes, i havent had a daydream…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-15:4661400:Comment:76152011-02-15T21:48:28.863ZSkylar Greyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/lizzyMaslow
<p><em>yes, i havent had a daydream where i HAVENT loved somebody since.. well puberty! haha i guess that makes sense! but yes for the past 3 years about my daydreams have consisted of the same 2 or 3 people ive made up where were ALWAYS in love... what does this mean? i guess im lonely. or maybe subconciously i think ill never find somebody.. meh.</em></p>
<p><em>yes, i havent had a daydream where i HAVENT loved somebody since.. well puberty! haha i guess that makes sense! but yes for the past 3 years about my daydreams have consisted of the same 2 or 3 people ive made up where were ALWAYS in love... what does this mean? i guess im lonely. or maybe subconciously i think ill never find somebody.. meh.</em></p> Yes.
Well, not "in love". I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-15:4661400:Comment:70562011-02-15T18:18:18.832ZAnaahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Ana
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<p>Well, not "in love". I know that he (the one I keep going back too / most common "RL" universe) isn't real, but, to quote Cordelia, I do have the perfect present/future relationship with him. He isn't perfect and has evident faults (which is fine, because I also have them), and sometimes we fight and things screw up, but at the same time my "other-self" loves him, because she loves to talk with him, be with him and he complements her very well.</p>
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<p>Well, not "in love". I know that he (the one I keep going back too / most common "RL" universe) isn't real, but, to quote Cordelia, I do have the perfect present/future relationship with him. He isn't perfect and has evident faults (which is fine, because I also have them), and sometimes we fight and things screw up, but at the same time my "other-self" loves him, because she loves to talk with him, be with him and he complements her very well.</p>
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<p>In real life I've never been fortunate enough to find someone like that. Not that I care (much!) , because it would be unfair to expect someone to be like my "ideal" (even though my "ideal" also has faults) though I do have hope that some approximation might exist and that someday I might find it. Then I'll convince it that I'm the best thing that ever happened to it (well, <em>he</em>, not, <em>it</em>!), and he'll learn to accept my crazy self.</p>
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<p>*sigh* Yes, I'm too much of a hopeless romantic. But then if you're going to dream, dream big. ^__~</p> I have done this so many time…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-15:4661400:Comment:64502011-02-15T07:45:24.834ZLordXepherehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/lordxephere
<p>I have done this so many times over the years that it's not even funny. In high school, I was desperate for love and I just wished that for just once I would be able to experience a meaningful relationship with a girl. It wasn't happening. Girls in school were just not interested in me, which was frustrating and saddening. </p>
<p>There were various anime/cartoons that I was watching at the time, and there were quite a few characters that I found very attractive. I would get so romantically…</p>
<p>I have done this so many times over the years that it's not even funny. In high school, I was desperate for love and I just wished that for just once I would be able to experience a meaningful relationship with a girl. It wasn't happening. Girls in school were just not interested in me, which was frustrating and saddening. </p>
<p>There were various anime/cartoons that I was watching at the time, and there were quite a few characters that I found very attractive. I would get so romantically obsessed with them that I would constantly daydream about going on dates with these different characters. This was literally the only thing I would think about. Even when I went out somewhere with my family, I would pretend in my mind that one of them is right there with me. However, this daydreaming would involve staring at their pictures to keep their images fresh in my mind. I would have to keep going to google images and searching for them.</p>
<p>In the recent years I have started to create my own characters, and still continue to do the same thing with them from time to time. Doing this makes me feel a euphoric, blissful happiness for a moment, only to eventually be reminded that in reality none of it was real.</p>
<p>It is beyond words how embarrassed I feel about all of this...</p>
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Hmm...I am sort of voyeuris…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-02-14:4661400:Comment:69112011-02-14T09:02:59.150ZTilahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JaneZK
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<p>Hmm...I am sort of voyeuristically in love with this couple in my daydreams. Since I don't exist in my daydreams, it's impossible for "me" to be in love with a character. But I often project ideas about love onto this couple, and whats even better (or not!) is that I can alter their status anytime I want.....some days I want them to get married, other days they are just living together. </p>
<p>I can also tell you that I am in crazy lust with the father of my main character. Haha! I…</p>
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<p>Hmm...I am sort of voyeuristically in love with this couple in my daydreams. Since I don't exist in my daydreams, it's impossible for "me" to be in love with a character. But I often project ideas about love onto this couple, and whats even better (or not!) is that I can alter their status anytime I want.....some days I want them to get married, other days they are just living together. </p>
<p>I can also tell you that I am in crazy lust with the father of my main character. Haha! I hope that isn't too strange :P</p>