Maladaptive daydreams specifically about one person (a real person) Does anyone else do this? - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T12:58:19Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/maladaptive-daydreams-specifically-about-one-person-a-real-person?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A204315&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=nobasically my entire middle sc…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-04-08:4661400:Comment:2043152015-04-08T01:52:10.756ZNatasha Manderhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/NatashaMander
<p>basically my entire middle school.....</p>
<p>basically my entire middle school.....</p> I have always had problems wi…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-31:4661400:Comment:2036672015-03-31T01:37:25.297ZJenniferhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JenniferNorton
<p>I have always had problems with obsessive crushes ever since I was a little kid: real people, celebrities, and even fictional characters. I'm the only person I know in real life that will actually get crushes on book and anime characters. LOL! Every time I get a crush on a guy in real life, I'll totally lose touch with reality and daydream about them constantly. These crushes sometimes last for years. I find them extremely painful.</p>
<p>My dad was a very emotionally abusive person as well-…</p>
<p>I have always had problems with obsessive crushes ever since I was a little kid: real people, celebrities, and even fictional characters. I'm the only person I know in real life that will actually get crushes on book and anime characters. LOL! Every time I get a crush on a guy in real life, I'll totally lose touch with reality and daydream about them constantly. These crushes sometimes last for years. I find them extremely painful.</p>
<p>My dad was a very emotionally abusive person as well- a narcissist.</p>
<p>There's a form of love addiction, and the addicts are known as "torch bearers." These are people who suffer from fantasy crushes. Usually they're on romantic interests who are somehow unavailable. They even have a forum for it:</p>
<p><a href="http://loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/board/99/torchbearers" target="_blank">http://loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/board/99/torchbearers</a></p> I've done this too. Although,…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-29:4661400:Comment:2038072015-03-29T22:12:23.120Znichttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/nic
<p>I've done this too. Although, every time I do, I try to remind myself that any of the conclusions I've come to about people I DD about, or any characteristics I've attached to them aren't based in reality, so I shouldn't act as if they are. DD can take one event or moment and turn it into a DD, which means you take the characteristics they expressed in one moment and think about them over and over, making it feel like you've seen them be that way 100 times. People are much more complicated…</p>
<p>I've done this too. Although, every time I do, I try to remind myself that any of the conclusions I've come to about people I DD about, or any characteristics I've attached to them aren't based in reality, so I shouldn't act as if they are. DD can take one event or moment and turn it into a DD, which means you take the characteristics they expressed in one moment and think about them over and over, making it feel like you've seen them be that way 100 times. People are much more complicated than what you see in one interaction, and you need to try and remind yourself that your DDs are distorted.</p>
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<p>Whenever I go into a conversation with a person i've DD'd about, I try to clear my mind and have nothing planned to say, I find the conversation always goes much much better when I'm just reacting instead of planning. It's also important that afterwards, you don't be hard on yourself about a thing you could've said that would have been <em>perfect</em>. There's no perfect thing to say, you wont be judged by any one thing you say, it's about your overall personality.</p> Yeah, it's kind of sucks when…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-12:4661400:Comment:2028242015-03-12T22:26:10.075Zroxy123https://wildminds.ning.com/profile/roxy123
<p>Yeah, it's kind of sucks when that happens, because I personally tend to almost make up information and personality traits that the person has in my daydream image of them, and it means i feel like i know the person a lot more than i actually do. And in another sense, this seems to make it more difficult to get rid of or at least tone down those feelings toward that person. Do you find that too?</p>
<p>Yeah, it's kind of sucks when that happens, because I personally tend to almost make up information and personality traits that the person has in my daydream image of them, and it means i feel like i know the person a lot more than i actually do. And in another sense, this seems to make it more difficult to get rid of or at least tone down those feelings toward that person. Do you find that too?</p> I do too, since I started hav…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-04:4661400:Comment:2023782015-03-04T11:41:27.042ZKay Mhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/KayleighMonks
<p>I do too, since I started having crushes, I would daydream a lot about them.</p>
<p>My current daydream is about me and someone I have a crush on, married with kids.</p>
<p>I do too, since I started having crushes, I would daydream a lot about them.</p>
<p>My current daydream is about me and someone I have a crush on, married with kids.</p> I have always daydreamed abou…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-04:4661400:Comment:2023692015-03-04T04:00:48.551ZTrue Blue Dreamerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SamanthaMunoz
I have always daydreamed about a guy I like, which probably explains why I fell for him so fast and hard and was so broken when I realized how he never felt the same way.
I have always daydreamed about a guy I like, which probably explains why I fell for him so fast and hard and was so broken when I realized how he never felt the same way. Yeah, I had the same situatio…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-03:4661400:Comment:2024112015-03-03T16:17:08.108ZAlisonhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Alison592
<p>Yeah, I had the same situation last year. You know my DD are very different - my own imaginary worlds, movies and computer games' plots, celebrities, people from my real life. Last year I had a crush on a guy, and I also couldn't talk to him about it. I daydreamed about him all the time and it lasted for a few months. I imagined him telling me that he was in love with me, dating him, different places we could visit together, etc. At that time I didn't even think that this daydreaming could…</p>
<p>Yeah, I had the same situation last year. You know my DD are very different - my own imaginary worlds, movies and computer games' plots, celebrities, people from my real life. Last year I had a crush on a guy, and I also couldn't talk to him about it. I daydreamed about him all the time and it lasted for a few months. I imagined him telling me that he was in love with me, dating him, different places we could visit together, etc. At that time I didn't even think that this daydreaming could be a problem. Then it was like 'out of sight, out of mind' - I didn't see him for some time, and my DD changed its direction again. </p>