Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Is there a link between the two?
Limerence is described as
“an involuntary interpersonal state that involves an acute longing for emotional reciprocation, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and emotional dependence on another person.”
• Idealization of the other person’s characteristics (positive and negative)
• Uncontrollable and intrusive thoughts about the other person
• Extreme shyness, stuttering, nervousness and confusion around the other person
• Fear of rejection and despair or thoughts of suicide if rejection occurs
• A sense of euphoria in response to real or perceived signs of reciprocation
• Fantasizing about or searching obsessively for signs of reciprocation (“reading into things”)
• Being reminded of the person in everything around you
• Replaying in your mind every encounter with the other person in great detail
• Maintaining romantic intensity through adversity
• Endlessly analyzing every word and gesture to determine their possible meaning
• Arranging your schedule to maximize possible encounters with the other person
• Experiencing physical symptoms such as trembling, flushing, weakness or heart palpitations around the other person
Can you relate? Have you experienced this?
I have suffered with both maladaptive daydreaming and limerence for a long time. I can remember my first bout of maladaptive daydreaming around 8th/9th grade, and limerence in 10th grade. They seem to be connected somehow.
I can definitely relate. I knew what limerence was because I've had a few of the symptoms and I looked them up awhile ago to see if I had a problem. I don't know if I would label myself as having limerence, but I've experienced something very similar to it for a very long time. My main/favorite character is my daydream boyfriend, and I know I daydream about him because I'm extremely boy crazy and think about guys at all hours of the day. I feel like there's a link between the two for a lot of people.