It's happening again. How can I prevent it? - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T10:16:33Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/it-s-happening-again-how-can-i-prevent-it?feed=yes&xn_auth=nooptimistic said:
:-((( It's…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2017-03-17:4661400:Comment:2540792017-03-17T01:15:34.875ZB L Carlsonhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/BLCarlson
<p><br></br> <br></br> <cite>optimistic said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/it-s-happening-again-how-can-i-prevent-it#4661400Comment254075"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>:-((( It's hard when you feel like you're in love with someone from your daydream. I'm going through the same exact thing. I always fall in love with celebrities and it screws me over because the feeling of indulging in our made-up relationship is such a delicious feeling.... I just have…</p>
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<p><br/> <br/> <cite>optimistic said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/it-s-happening-again-how-can-i-prevent-it#4661400Comment254075"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>:-((( It's hard when you feel like you're in love with someone from your daydream. I'm going through the same exact thing. I always fall in love with celebrities and it screws me over because the feeling of indulging in our made-up relationship is such a delicious feeling.... I just have to keep telling myself that I don't need anyone else to feel whole. I don't need to have this made-up person in my life to be me and to be happy.. I allow myself to think about him, but I'm getting better at keeping the fantasy from running too deep. I need to love myself before I love anyone else- especially somebody that I don't know.<br/> Also stress, loneliness, and gaming could definitely trigger daydreams. When the brain gets stressed, it tries to escape reality because stress can be so painful to deal with. Daydreaming is one way of denying/escaping reality. And oftentimes daydreams give us what we really need in our lives- if you're in love with someone in your daydreams, it probably shows that you are feeling lonely and need more people to love. Gaming, I think, pulls you out of reality so you just switch from being immersed in one false reality to another. <br/><br/><br/> I truly think real-life can snap you out of daydreams if you pay enough attention to reality. It's hard to stay mindful of the things around you and what really exists. But I can remember a few specific times when I was completely present in real life, and it was a feeling that was wayyyy better than any daydream. I felt whole and comfortable with myself. No anxiety. I was really confident that everything was gonna be okay and content with my life, even though my life is usually full of problems.<br/><br/> I'm sorry it's been hard for you. Just take it day-by-day and moment-by-moment. You have no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday, earlier today, one second ago...You can always change</p>
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<div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>Thanks for the words--I think most of it is over. I can feel... myself oscillitating in this split between the worlds. An urge to jump back into reality, hard to explain. The next time my friend wants to hang out, I should definitely jump into it to solidify it. I feel weird from the lack of sleep, but this night should set me back.</p>
<p>I should try meditation or something... or go back to writing as a form of therapy or something...</p>
<p>*SIGH*</p>
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</div> :-((( It's hard when you feel…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2017-03-17:4661400:Comment:2540752017-03-17T00:37:27.496Zoptimistichttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/KimBoyle
<p>:-((( It's hard when you feel like you're in love with someone from your daydream. I'm going through the same exact thing. I always fall in love with celebrities and it screws me over because the feeling of indulging in our made-up relationship is such a delicious feeling.... I just have to keep telling myself that I don't need anyone else to feel whole. I don't need to have this made-up person in my life to be me and to be happy.. I allow myself to think about him, but I'm getting better at…</p>
<p>:-((( It's hard when you feel like you're in love with someone from your daydream. I'm going through the same exact thing. I always fall in love with celebrities and it screws me over because the feeling of indulging in our made-up relationship is such a delicious feeling.... I just have to keep telling myself that I don't need anyone else to feel whole. I don't need to have this made-up person in my life to be me and to be happy.. I allow myself to think about him, but I'm getting better at keeping the fantasy from running too deep. I need to love myself before I love anyone else- especially somebody that I don't know.<br/>
Also stress, loneliness, and gaming could definitely trigger daydreams. When the brain gets stressed, it tries to escape reality because stress can be so painful to deal with. Daydreaming is one way of denying/escaping reality. And oftentimes daydreams give us what we really need in our lives- if you're in love with someone in your daydreams, it probably shows that you are feeling lonely and need more people to love. Gaming, I think, pulls you out of reality so you just switch from being immersed in one false reality to another. <br/>
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I truly think real-life can snap you out of daydreams if you pay enough attention to reality. It's hard to stay mindful of the things around you and what really exists. But I can remember a few specific times when I was completely present in real life, and it was a feeling that was wayyyy better than any daydream. I felt whole and comfortable with myself. No anxiety. I was really confident that everything was gonna be okay and content with my life, even though my life is usually full of problems.<br/>
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I'm sorry it's been hard for you. Just take it day-by-day and moment-by-moment. You have no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday, earlier today, one second ago...You can always change</p>