Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Hello all! First off, I have to say that finding this website has been an incredible experience for me. Reading these forum entries makes me feel not so alone, so thank you!
Has anyone ever experienced a sudden intrusion of daydreaming content into their real life? I'll provide my embarassing real-life experience as an example. I had just started dating a new guy when this incident occurred. He had many of the qualities I was looking for in a boyfriend, my friends thought we were a great match, and most importantly, he really, really liked me. One night I invited him over to my apartment to watch a movie. We started to fool around, and right in the middle of things I suddenly had a startling realization: this man was not, nor would he ever be the man from my daydreams. I was not daydreaming at the time, and I hadn't even daydreamed at all that day. The realization was jarring to say the least and a profound sadness swept over me. It felt like I'd had the wind knocked out of me! I began to cry and couldn't stop myself. My boyfriend honestly thought they were tears of happiness, if you can you believe that. Rest assured, he came to this conclusion on his own with no influence from me. After an awkward moment that seemed to last an eternity, I asked him to leave saying I had to get up in the morning and he respectfully did so. After he left, I cried uncontrollably for a good ten minutes. This instance happened over two years ago and it still has a profound impact on me. I have dated since that time, and this type of intrusion has not occurred again.