Im new here:) a little a bout me... - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T05:32:33Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/im-new-here-a-little-a-bout-me?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A2466&feed=yes&xn_auth=noyep thats me too. except my d…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-29:4661400:Comment:26652010-10-29T03:13:03.000ZSophia Millerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SophiaMiller
yep thats me too. except my daydreams are more based on adventure with some sweet innocent romance sometimes (more often now because i am older) also i do have a hard time concentrating and i am terribly clumsy and forgetful. i never realized it was even a problem untill here lately. well welcome to our community. like you i love to daydream too. i just want to function better and not slip into daydreams so easily. this has been going on all my life. ever since i had the ability to daydream…
yep thats me too. except my daydreams are more based on adventure with some sweet innocent romance sometimes (more often now because i am older) also i do have a hard time concentrating and i am terribly clumsy and forgetful. i never realized it was even a problem untill here lately. well welcome to our community. like you i love to daydream too. i just want to function better and not slip into daydreams so easily. this has been going on all my life. ever since i had the ability to daydream basically. i still tend to want to stay in my dreams. for me i have some methods that help me personally the one i like to use is simply acknowledging the reality of things. like i will look at my surroundings and try to focus on the physical appearance and touch things to feel the texture. and then i say in my mind "this is real" for some odd reason this brings me temporarily out of my daydreams. but i still slip back into them. i wish you the best with this and hope we can help you out some :)<br />
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by the way i know everyone is different but a doctor tried putting me on ritalin once. i went crazy, kicking and screaming and hitting. i had never done this before i was put on it and after being taken off i was fine. also i was put on some new medication for seizures last year that have some upsetting side affects like depression and anxiety so i am thinking of looking for an alternative if i can. not saying what your on is bad, i am just sharing my experiences. lamira said:oh I wanted to…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-28:4661400:Comment:26562010-10-28T22:31:46.000ZMagentahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennIsaac
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<cite>lamira said:</cite><blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/im-new-here-a-little-a-bout-me#4661400Comment2469"><div>oh I wanted to add someting about ritalin, I have been thinking of quitting too. It sets my imagination overdrive too but I feel exactly as you say overwhelmed, especially on the down side, everyhting irritates me noise, light and my mind is like a tv station, the ones with bad connection (you know grrrrchhh) I dont know how to say it, my english is not my mother tongue but I think you know what I mean.</div>
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In reading about your experiences with Ritalin, I was reminded of my own with Adderall. Adderall was prescribed to me to help deal with the side effects of another drug I'm taking. Since the other drug was working so well, my doctor was reluctant to stop it, and prescribed Adderall instead of exploring other options. I only take the Adderall when I have class (I'm a grad student) or when I have my internship to help me focus. When I do take it, I am quick to anger, irritable, and noise sensitive. These are all common side effects of the drug, and for me, the benefits outweigh the cost for the most part. However, I find it difficult at times to daydream while on Adderall, and this can cause me to avoid taking it. I only have one semester of college left before I graduate, and I anticipate discontinuing my Adderall at that time. oh I wanted to add someting a…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-26:4661400:Comment:24692010-10-26T22:25:42.000Zlamirahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/yasminatassi
oh I wanted to add someting about ritalin, I have been thinking of quitting too. It sets my imagination overdrive too but I feel exactly as you say overwhelmed, especially on the down side, everyhting irritates me noise, light and my mind is like a tv station, the ones with bad connection (you know grrrrchhh) I dont know how to say it, my english is not my mother tongue but I think you know what I mean.
oh I wanted to add someting about ritalin, I have been thinking of quitting too. It sets my imagination overdrive too but I feel exactly as you say overwhelmed, especially on the down side, everyhting irritates me noise, light and my mind is like a tv station, the ones with bad connection (you know grrrrchhh) I dont know how to say it, my english is not my mother tongue but I think you know what I mean. Hi Libby
Thanks for your nice…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-26:4661400:Comment:24682010-10-26T22:19:03.000Zlamirahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/yasminatassi
Hi Libby<br />
Thanks for your nice thoughts. You made an interesting point that although ‘we MDs perhaps don’t fully experience life non-MDS don’d fully experience thought’. It just reminds us that there is no absolute right or wrong in the way of our being, and it’s just a bit more subjective than that.<br />
I think the key thing is just a bit of discipline. As long as we can run our lives and accomplish our goals we can find our own right balance. There is no perfect balance, I think I even heard that…
Hi Libby<br />
Thanks for your nice thoughts. You made an interesting point that although ‘we MDs perhaps don’t fully experience life non-MDS don’d fully experience thought’. It just reminds us that there is no absolute right or wrong in the way of our being, and it’s just a bit more subjective than that.<br />
I think the key thing is just a bit of discipline. As long as we can run our lives and accomplish our goals we can find our own right balance. There is no perfect balance, I think I even heard that everybody suffers from some form of mental illness in varying degrees. That’s why I can admit that despite feeling lost sometimes, and not being sure whether I am being productive enough, still in many ways Im glad that I can have access to this fantasy world. Now I feel that Im romanticizing Md, lol but it’s true that I cant really imagine HOW my mind would otherwise be occupied, or whether I would even be in the field which I love today. I also get easily bored and I need to retreat.<br />
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I would’t feel guilty if I feel fulfilled that I have accomplished more things, and I understand that feeling of guilt or shame about it. I think it is great that you feel satisfied and manage well other parts of your life like your career and family, while on the side a bit of harmless daydreaming…well why not : ))It also gives me hope, in fact in joining here I already feel much less alone :))) Hi Oxalis,
I find it interest…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-26:4661400:Comment:24662010-10-26T20:28:00.000Zlamirahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/yasminatassi
Hi Oxalis,<br />
I find it interesting that whatever the subject of our ‘daydreams’ is, we share similar fears, that of not really advancing the way we would like to in our lives. Maybe through our idealistic daydreams, we simply build up such high expectations for ourselves therefore exaggerating the illusion in us that we are not advanced enough, I don’t know but I think that regardless of our real circumstances, it plays a little role. I really like how you reconciliate your MD, because I totally…
Hi Oxalis,<br />
I find it interesting that whatever the subject of our ‘daydreams’ is, we share similar fears, that of not really advancing the way we would like to in our lives. Maybe through our idealistic daydreams, we simply build up such high expectations for ourselves therefore exaggerating the illusion in us that we are not advanced enough, I don’t know but I think that regardless of our real circumstances, it plays a little role. I really like how you reconciliate your MD, because I totally agree that by surrounding ourselves with people we care about, who inspire us, who guide us, we are better able to stay grounded, we can better evaluate WHERE we are at, and where we are going. We are after all social beings and it is through our interactions with others that we create our reality. Thanks for sharing :) Hi Lamira
I have also been di…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-26:4661400:Comment:24622010-10-26T05:00:45.000ZLibbyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Libby
Hi Lamira<br />
I have also been diagnosed with ADD. I gave up my ritalin. It's helps me in so many ways, but it makes my creative juices flow like Niagr Falls and it's too much to bear. I know that sounds crazy, but it's somehow true.<br />
Also, I have some noise sensitivity issues and ritalin exemplifies this issue to the nth degree. I could go back for different meds, but i don't even think i have ADD to be honest. I have MD, but my doctor just doesn't know what it is or how to help me. I'm thinking…
Hi Lamira<br />
I have also been diagnosed with ADD. I gave up my ritalin. It's helps me in so many ways, but it makes my creative juices flow like Niagr Falls and it's too much to bear. I know that sounds crazy, but it's somehow true.<br />
Also, I have some noise sensitivity issues and ritalin exemplifies this issue to the nth degree. I could go back for different meds, but i don't even think i have ADD to be honest. I have MD, but my doctor just doesn't know what it is or how to help me. I'm thinking ADD is some kind of default diagnosis.<br />
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I know you feel silly and immature sharing your story, but I certainly don't think you are. I can relate, so thanks for sharing. I have somehow managed to get the family and the career in spite of it, so it is possible. I feel satisfied with my life and still can't stop the daydreams, so i don't buy that it's escapists behavior. I have an active fantasy life that I'm either fully engaged in (when alone) or maintaining alongside my reality when I'm not alone. I don't seem to have control over it no more than I have control over my lungs breathing. I don't have that sense of urgency that you seem to convey about getting my life together. I can only imagine how scary that would be. What I struggle most with is shame. Shame about how I spend/waste my time. Shame about how I constantly imagine I'm somebody else and surrounded by people that aren't real when I actually like myself and adore my family. Shame that every hobby I have somehow feeds my daydreaming by building the details that i fixate on.<br />
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You seem like you would be scared to let it go, me too. This is my mind, this is how it works. What do other minds do if they don't daydream... and by daydream, i mean complicated, plot oriented, character driven, novel material daydreams? I can't fathom it. It can't be task oriented thought all the time, so what about those down times? What would my thoughts be when not engaged in tasks?<br />
I think MDs don't fully experience life and nonMDs don't fully experience thought. Just my opinion.<br />
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My hopes? to experience life more. The reality, the tangible, the happenings. Experience it vs. going through the motions. How to get there is a mystery to me and I feel more likely to sit down right now and solve a rubik's cube.<br />
Still, it is my hope. In the meantime, I'm trying to use MD as one might use a trait considered as a gift to help me accomplish daily goals. Thanks for sharing Hi Lamira,
I identify with s…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2010-10-25:4661400:Comment:24582010-10-25T20:15:23.000ZOxalis Woodhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/OxalisWood
Hi Lamira,<br />
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I identify with so much of what you say. I was so happy to find this site too - and amazed, after having wondered what it is and why for most of my life. I've asked so many people, including my doctor and no one had anything to say on it - either they didn't know what i was talking about, or just thought it didn't matter.<br />
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I too have trouble concentrating on everyday tasks - but that isn't surprising when there's a whole other life going on inside our heads. My daydreams are much…
Hi Lamira,<br />
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I identify with so much of what you say. I was so happy to find this site too - and amazed, after having wondered what it is and why for most of my life. I've asked so many people, including my doctor and no one had anything to say on it - either they didn't know what i was talking about, or just thought it didn't matter.<br />
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I too have trouble concentrating on everyday tasks - but that isn't surprising when there's a whole other life going on inside our heads. My daydreams are much more career orientated - it's always been important to me to contribute in my field and i'm really dissapointed with my lack of progress. Lately i've tried to curb my daydreaming my reminding myself about some of the people i admire - people who work steadily at their aims. I tell myself that i need to be someone who works hard for a long term reward rather than someone who gets a cheap hit through a daydream. A bit harsh may be, but it works sometimes.<br />
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Thanks for sharing your experiences - I think everybody (including non MD people) have thoughts that seem immature if you really get them out and look at them, so don't feel bad about that.