I didn't go through trauma, so why do I have MDD? - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T12:44:56Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-didn-t-go-through-trauma-so-why-do-i-have-mdd?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A204206&feed=yes&xn_auth=noDoes anyone know how to incre…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-08:4661400:Comment:2065712015-05-08T19:48:42.333ZSatchi Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SatchiR
<p>Does anyone know how to increase your self-esteem? How does one go about curing this?</p>
<p>Does anyone know how to increase your self-esteem? How does one go about curing this?</p> pretty much same. my maladapt…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-04-08:4661400:Comment:2039862015-04-08T01:46:07.309ZNatasha Manderhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/NatashaMander
<p>pretty much same. my maladaptive daydreaming actually started as a child (i did the pacing thing even as a six year old) and ive never gone through anything even remotely traumatic. i have a very tight-knit group of friends, my family is fine, i keep good grades in school...nothing is wrong with my life. honestly, i just believe that i have a really over active imagination, and i just need to find some way to let it all out :) </p>
<p>pretty much same. my maladaptive daydreaming actually started as a child (i did the pacing thing even as a six year old) and ive never gone through anything even remotely traumatic. i have a very tight-knit group of friends, my family is fine, i keep good grades in school...nothing is wrong with my life. honestly, i just believe that i have a really over active imagination, and i just need to find some way to let it all out :) </p> Like most people here have sa…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-04-07:4661400:Comment:2042062015-04-07T20:17:39.544ZEmmahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Emma499
<p>Like most people here have said, I think it's not a result of trauma. Some people are just prone to it. It so happens, however, that it is also a fantastic way to escape from trauma. Therefore, there are more people with trauma who have problems with too much daydreaming. But the trauma didn't cause it. They were already prone to it. It's just that loads of people without trauma who are prone to it might've eventually outgrown it or might not do it as much.</p>
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<p>Like most people here have said, I think it's not a result of trauma. Some people are just prone to it. It so happens, however, that it is also a fantastic way to escape from trauma. Therefore, there are more people with trauma who have problems with too much daydreaming. But the trauma didn't cause it. They were already prone to it. It's just that loads of people without trauma who are prone to it might've eventually outgrown it or might not do it as much.</p>
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<p>This is just my theory based on the fact that I also had no childhood trauma and yet have daydreamed all my life. But I've noticed that in stressful or traumatic times, I do it a lot more.</p> I started around age 7 withou…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-24:4661400:Comment:2031842015-03-24T18:58:22.160ZCannahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Canna
I started around age 7 without external trauma as well. Turns out I inherited a personality disorder than manifested later in life. Of course children cannot be diagnosed with personality disorders because their personality is still forming. However tendencies are present, and with me MD was a big one - always seeing myself through others eyes because of my own confused sense of self.<br />
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If you also have problems with anxiety, panic attacks etc I would suggest talking to a professional
I started around age 7 without external trauma as well. Turns out I inherited a personality disorder than manifested later in life. Of course children cannot be diagnosed with personality disorders because their personality is still forming. However tendencies are present, and with me MD was a big one - always seeing myself through others eyes because of my own confused sense of self.<br />
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If you also have problems with anxiety, panic attacks etc I would suggest talking to a professional I never went through anything…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-21:4661400:Comment:2030882015-03-21T04:00:10.722ZDizzy Rhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DizzyR
<p>I never went through anything I'd call abuse either. But my parents went through an ugly separation when I was in my early teens, which also happens to be when my main "character" came to be and when I started staying up late to obsessively draw him and craft his ever-changing backstory. So, even though what I was going through (parents splitting up) is pretty common, and a feature of many well-adjusted people's early lives, in hindsight I wonder if this constituted a traumatic period for…</p>
<p>I never went through anything I'd call abuse either. But my parents went through an ugly separation when I was in my early teens, which also happens to be when my main "character" came to be and when I started staying up late to obsessively draw him and craft his ever-changing backstory. So, even though what I was going through (parents splitting up) is pretty common, and a feature of many well-adjusted people's early lives, in hindsight I wonder if this constituted a traumatic period for me. Maybe if I'd had counselling or something at the time, I would have found a better way to cope with life.</p> " I assume that I got it dur…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-08:4661400:Comment:2024702015-03-08T08:20:18.451ZInsomnyachttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Insomnyac
<p>" <span> I assume that I got it during middle school when I had no friends and I was bullied, but looking back on it, the bullying wasn't that severe. " - I'm always skeptic about this kind of self-analysis. Just because you look at someone else who had a " bigger " trauma than you had, it doesn't mean that your trauma is smaller or less powerful. Who is anyone to actually compare one trauma with another one ? There is no point in this. </span></p>
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<p>" <span> I assume that I got it during middle school when I had no friends and I was bullied, but looking back on it, the bullying wasn't that severe. " - I'm always skeptic about this kind of self-analysis. Just because you look at someone else who had a " bigger " trauma than you had, it doesn't mean that your trauma is smaller or less powerful. Who is anyone to actually compare one trauma with another one ? There is no point in this. </span></p>
<p><span>A trauma is always relative to the observer - this being said, abuse is not required to experience a trauma, and actually nothing else is required, because the traumatic event is what YOUR MIND decides to label as one. </span></p>
<p><span>As for your loneliness and personality type : yes , it is possible that an excessive fantasizing ability and an over-active mind is the characteristic of a person like you ( who likes spending time in his/her own mind and likes to write ), but make sure that you are actually happy with your dreaming and it's not the dreaming that is controlling you. This is very important and it makes the difference between healthy fantasizing and MDD, which in my opinion is like a parasite in the mind, that grows only bigger and bigger, creating difficulties in your thinking process and even generating problems in your real life. </span></p>
<p><span>Best wishes ! </span></p> My MD started due to loneline…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-08:4661400:Comment:2027132015-03-08T03:25:14.459ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
My MD started due to loneliness, boredom, and already being predisposed to it (I was a very imaginative and creative kid). I had some minor trauma in my life that made it worse.
My MD started due to loneliness, boredom, and already being predisposed to it (I was a very imaginative and creative kid). I had some minor trauma in my life that made it worse. Maybe my tone was not the rig…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-07:4661400:Comment:2025372015-03-07T18:16:06.178ZBlairhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Blair
<p>Maybe my tone was not the right one for my reply. I'm not describing my own views, I'm describing what 'normal' people around me think whenever anyone mentions 'their issues'. I know a lot of people that would never take MDD seriously because to them it would just sound like a set of excuses wrapped in a Psychology acronym. My wife is a doctor and she hates it when she gets people coming into to her surgery who have made a self diagnosis based on something they have only just heard of. Wen I…</p>
<p>Maybe my tone was not the right one for my reply. I'm not describing my own views, I'm describing what 'normal' people around me think whenever anyone mentions 'their issues'. I know a lot of people that would never take MDD seriously because to them it would just sound like a set of excuses wrapped in a Psychology acronym. My wife is a doctor and she hates it when she gets people coming into to her surgery who have made a self diagnosis based on something they have only just heard of. Wen I raise the issue of my own past and current psychological state I get no traction at all: "We talked about all this years ago. Why are you bringing this up now all of a sudden?" </p>
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<p>Perhaps 'martyr' would have been the better term in reference to the 'no one likes a victim' bit. And the line itself was too broad sweeping and wrongly phrased as an absolute. It was (supposed to be) an idiomatic way to express frustration with mainstream viewpoints, not a literal depiction of my on view. </p>
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<p>It was a commentary on what the general social view of mental illnesses is; not mine and I certainly wasn't speaking for or about anyone here. I've always had a hard time convincing people around me that I even needed to see professional psychological help. They always seemed to say: "Well that's just part of growing up." or "What about so and so down the road? He's had it ten times worse and he's perfectly normal." It's difficult for otherwise well adjusted people to feel sympathetic towards people who in their view are trying to use their relatively unremarkable past as an excuse. I'm speaking from the experience of not getting sympathy if you put something down to 'Shit that happened to me in my life'. My point is to do with the societal perception of anything that is caused by what others might have gone through and not been overly affected by. </p>
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<p>I, like others here, have MDD as we define it. But I wouldn't say I experienced a level of trauma that demands I bring it up around people. While I went through difficult experiences, I don't like the term 'victim'. To me, it doesn't feel very empowering. I just went through an unfortunate accumulation of events (some unavoidable, some man made) that have played their part in getting to the point I am now. If I were to go into detail, I would just become the very thing many people don't want to listen to; a self proclaimed martyr, distinct from a victim. A martyr seeks to gain from the fact that they have suffered, a victim is nothing like that. Victims do not choose their situation or use it for anterior motives like winning an argument or garnering credibility. </p>
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<p>Like you, I hate it when people blame the victim. That is not what I was doing in my earlier post. It might have read that way, but it wasn't. </p>
<p></p> Are you serious? Why would it…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-07:4661400:Comment:2025322015-03-07T02:44:18.889ZS.D.https://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SD
<p>Are you serious? Why would it be taken more seriously if it wasn't trauma induced? Many mental disorders are caused by trauma or a chemical imbalance in the brain. Traumas should not be over looked, no matter how big or small. Now MDD is not necessarily a mental disorder but some view it as a mental disorder and I have heard more times than not it being somewhat caused by loneliness, trauma, bullying etc. Would you say someone who is depressed is just using there trauma as an excuse and…</p>
<p>Are you serious? Why would it be taken more seriously if it wasn't trauma induced? Many mental disorders are caused by trauma or a chemical imbalance in the brain. Traumas should not be over looked, no matter how big or small. Now MDD is not necessarily a mental disorder but some view it as a mental disorder and I have heard more times than not it being somewhat caused by loneliness, trauma, bullying etc. Would you say someone who is depressed is just using there trauma as an excuse and depression would be taken more seriously if they didn't use their trauma as an excuse?</p>
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<p>Also, no one likes a victim? Plenty of people are victims to terrible things that happen to them they cannot control. There is nothing wrong with being a victim and to over look someones problems because they are being a "victim" is plain ridiculous. It doesn't matter how bad someone had it, to them their feelings, emotions and pains are real, big or small and they do affect people in a large way. One things that affects one type of person may have no impact on another person but that doesn't mean it should be over looked.</p>
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<p>I really hate when someone says there is something wrong with being a victim. There is nothing wrong with feeling hurt or having problems because of something that has happened to you. I suggest you read up on some psychology and how the mind really works in relation to trauma.</p> I think the less we think of…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-03-07:4661400:Comment:2024632015-03-07T02:31:33.792ZBlairhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Blair
<p>I think the less we think of MDD as something trauma induced the more it will be seen by others as something to view seriously. By 'others' I mean mostly mean friends and family. No one likes a victim, especially a victim who hasn't really had it that bad. </p>
<p>I think the less we think of MDD as something trauma induced the more it will be seen by others as something to view seriously. By 'others' I mean mostly mean friends and family. No one likes a victim, especially a victim who hasn't really had it that bad. </p>