I am new here - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T08:35:01Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50542&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI didn't think you were rude.…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-08:4661400:Comment:511022011-09-08T00:19:17.945Zroxannehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/sallyann
I didn't think you were rude. I think it's somewhat confusing, and I know I've posted in the wrong place. Please feel free to tell me. It's too bad they chose to leave as they were such interesting bloggers. I think you have a very hard job.
I didn't think you were rude. I think it's somewhat confusing, and I know I've posted in the wrong place. Please feel free to tell me. It's too bad they chose to leave as they were such interesting bloggers. I think you have a very hard job. I have added some personal ru…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-07:4661400:Comment:506112011-09-07T00:49:52.855ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
<p>I have added some personal rules onto the Terms of Service:</p>
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<p>However, if someone doesn't see them or read them all the way, I'm still going to politely remind them. I even put that in the rules. I need to be able to do my job without people taking it as a personal attack. </p>
<p>I have added some personal rules onto the Terms of Service:</p>
<p><a href="http://wildminds.ning.com/main/authorization/termsOfService?noBack=1">http://wildminds.ning.com/main/authorization/termsOfService?noBack=1</a></p>
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<p>However, if someone doesn't see them or read them all the way, I'm still going to politely remind them. I even put that in the rules. I need to be able to do my job without people taking it as a personal attack. </p> Thanks. I've read my respons…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-07:4661400:Comment:507162011-09-07T00:30:52.380ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
Thanks. I've read my response a thousand times, and I don't see a single thing about it that seems even remotely reproachful. Everyone says they want people to be honest with them.......but when we do, people act like it's an attack. It's my job to tell people what I want around here. I was very hurt by Gloriana's anger towards me. I felt like it was an unfair attack. I'm not sad she left after that. I understand people are sensitive around here, but it's pretty bad when I can't even do…
Thanks. I've read my response a thousand times, and I don't see a single thing about it that seems even remotely reproachful. Everyone says they want people to be honest with them.......but when we do, people act like it's an attack. It's my job to tell people what I want around here. I was very hurt by Gloriana's anger towards me. I felt like it was an unfair attack. I'm not sad she left after that. I understand people are sensitive around here, but it's pretty bad when I can't even do my job as a moderator without being attacked. Well…that was surprising. I f…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-07:4661400:Comment:507142011-09-07T00:12:47.951ZLailahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/LailaTaylor
<p>Well…that was surprising. I feel sad when people who were big contributors to the forum and blog section suddenly leave without a trace. Missing both Julia and Gloriana already. I loved reading their posts, and I even felt a little close to them, given that this is such a small community. I need to start asking for emails to keep in contact with people… D: ~le sigh~</p>
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<p>I didn’t interpret what you said to be inappropriate either. At least you included warm words at the end like…</p>
<p>Well…that was surprising. I feel sad when people who were big contributors to the forum and blog section suddenly leave without a trace. Missing both Julia and Gloriana already. I loved reading their posts, and I even felt a little close to them, given that this is such a small community. I need to start asking for emails to keep in contact with people… D: ~le sigh~</p>
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<p>I didn’t interpret what you said to be inappropriate either. At least you included warm words at the end like “you’re welcome here” and “I hope you can find some comfort.” But people are going to react to it differently, like they'd feel better if the warm words were spoken first. I also thought that Gloriana had great suggestions. I especially like the idea of using a sticky. It’s too bad about the site’s limitations. =/</p>
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<cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:</cite><br />
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here#4661400Comment50709"><div>Gloriana has chosen to send me an angry message and then leave. Do you all feel that my little response was so inappropriate? What else was I supposed to do? Is everyone so fragile that I simply can't respond and say "Please post those in blogs" without everyone feeling assaulted?</div>
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lizzy Maslow said:…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-06:4661400:Comment:505442011-09-06T23:00:49.938ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
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<cite>lizzy Maslow said:</cite><br />
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50542&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment50542"><div><br></br>no no, you were right in doing so. Of course you werent trying to be rude or anything you were just clarifying how this website works to a person who is new to it. It needs to be said. You made a major point saying important topics could be buried if things about more personal…</div>
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<cite>lizzy Maslow said:</cite><br />
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50542&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment50542"><div><br/>no no, you were right in doing so. Of course you werent trying to be rude or anything you were just clarifying how this website works to a person who is new to it. It needs to be said. You made a major point saying important topics could be buried if things about more personal questions and comments are posted in the forum section. I hope cortney now knows where things like this belong and it was an honest mistake. NOBODY is at fault here<br/><br/><cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:</cite><blockquote><div>Gloriana has chosen to send me an angry message and then leave. Do you all feel that my little response was so inappropriate? What else was I supposed to do? Is everyone so fragile that I simply can't respond and say "Please post those in blogs" without everyone feeling assaulted?</div>
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</blockquote> no no, you were right in doin…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-06:4661400:Comment:505422011-09-06T22:52:12.259ZSkylar Greyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/lizzyMaslow
<br></br>no no, you were right in doing so. Of course you werent trying to be rude or anything you were just clarifying how this website works to a person who is new to it. It needs to be said. You made a major point saying important topics could be buried if things about more personal questions and comments are posted in the forum section. I hope cortney now knows where things like this belong and it was an honest mistake. NOBODY is at fault here<br></br><br></br><cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose…</cite>
<br/>no no, you were right in doing so. Of course you werent trying to be rude or anything you were just clarifying how this website works to a person who is new to it. It needs to be said. You made a major point saying important topics could be buried if things about more personal questions and comments are posted in the forum section. I hope cortney now knows where things like this belong and it was an honest mistake. NOBODY is at fault here<br/><br/><cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:</cite>
<blockquote><div>Gloriana has chosen to send me an angry message and then leave. Do you all feel that my little response was so inappropriate? What else was I supposed to do? Is everyone so fragile that I simply can't respond and say "Please post those in blogs" without everyone feeling assaulted?</div>
</blockquote> Gloriana has chosen to send m…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-06:4661400:Comment:507092011-09-06T22:27:05.868ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
Gloriana has chosen to send me an angry message and then leave. Do you all feel that my little response was so inappropriate? What else was I supposed to do? Is everyone so fragile that I simply can't respond and say "Please post those in blogs" without everyone feeling assaulted?
Gloriana has chosen to send me an angry message and then leave. Do you all feel that my little response was so inappropriate? What else was I supposed to do? Is everyone so fragile that I simply can't respond and say "Please post those in blogs" without everyone feeling assaulted? P.S. You didn't look when yo…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-06:4661400:Comment:501712011-09-06T05:18:16.519ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
P.S. You didn't look when you first got here; you looked today. I know that because I was watching the site at the time. <br></br>
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<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50411&xg_source=activity#4661400Comment50411"><div><p>Cordelia,</p>
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<p>Is there a list somewhere on this site of your personal rules and guidelines, or FAQs? I looked when I first got here, but I didn't find anything…</p>
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P.S. You didn't look when you first got here; you looked today. I know that because I was watching the site at the time. <br/>
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<cite>Gloriana Soho said:</cite><br />
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50411&xg_source=activity#4661400Comment50411"><div><p>Cordelia,</p>
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<p>Is there a list somewhere on this site of your personal rules and guidelines, or FAQs? I looked when I first got here, but I didn't find anything but the generic terms of service buried at the bottom of the front page.</p>
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<p>If they're here somewhere, maybe it would be good to feature them on the front page or sticky them to the top of the forum section. If you haven't made one, I personally think it's unfair to go post-by-post reprimanding brand new people like this when you haven't even given them a chance to peruse a set of your rules. You have every right to make them, you're the creator here, I'm not arguing that. If you want certain things put in certain places, let people know. If you want things done a certain way, let people know. </p>
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<p>I just think it's alienating and rather undiplomatic to do it this way when you could have contacted them all privately and just made a separate "Please Read" section to address the problem with everyone else at large, seeing as you can't even guarantee everyone here will be looking at these posts anyhow. </p>
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<p>I'm not looking to start gratuitous trouble here, I hope you know that. Like I said, I do completely understand and respect your initial concerns, it's just I feel handling it this way was rather harsh toward brand new folks.</p>
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First of all, I f…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-09-06:4661400:Comment:501702011-09-06T05:13:03.532ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
<p>Gloriana,</p>
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<p>First of all, I find your response to be confrontational and unnecessary. You may say that you respect me on here, but you didn't go searching all over my site to find an argument against my post out of respect. I think that being honest and forthcoming is the exact right thing to do in this situation. People should be strong enough to handle my simply telling them how I feel. It's the kind of respect that I would want from my site moderator. I don't expect…</p>
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<p>First of all, I find your response to be confrontational and unnecessary. You may say that you respect me on here, but you didn't go searching all over my site to find an argument against my post out of respect. I think that being honest and forthcoming is the exact right thing to do in this situation. People should be strong enough to handle my simply telling them how I feel. It's the kind of respect that I would want from my site moderator. I don't expect people to read my mind, and no, I don't have rules posted. </p>
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<p>Second of all, there's not a lot of place to add text on here. I had to delete things just to add more text boxes already. Ning has its limits. I'm not even sure if there's room for me to add a page with rules. Plus, I don't have a lot of rules aside from a few things that I think are obvious, like being respectful. I know some people on here are sensitive. I'm sensitive, too, but I also expect that they're grown-up enough to handle simply being told how I feel. I don't think I was rude or belittling at all. I'm just telling them because they're not mind-readers. I do think it's common knowledge in forums that you should check to be sure a topic hasn't been brought up before you start a new discussion. I really don't think that needs saying, but when someone forgets, I think it's my job and my prerogative to remind them. That's what site moderation is, in part. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. </p>
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<p>If you dislike the above or feel incapable of being politely told how I feel, then you don't have to stay here. I don't really like being told off like that on my own site. Sensitive as I am, I think I'm a pretty nice and honest person. I don't think I deserve being spoken to in this way. I hope you'll reconsider your response and whether it was called for. I think it wasn't. </p>
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<p><br/> <cite>Gloriana Soho said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50411&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment50411"><div><p>Cordelia,</p>
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<p>Is there a list somewhere on this site of your personal rules and guidelines, or FAQs? I looked when I first got here, but I didn't find anything but the generic terms of service buried at the bottom of the front page.</p>
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<p>If they're here somewhere, maybe it would be good to feature them on the front page or sticky them to the top of the forum section. If you haven't made one, I personally think it's unfair to go post-by-post reprimanding brand new people like this when you haven't even given them a chance to peruse a set of your rules. You have every right to make them, you're the creator here, I'm not arguing that. If you want certain things put in certain places, let people know. If you want things done a certain way, let people know. </p>
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<p>I just think it's alienating and rather undiplomatic to do it this way when you could have contacted them all privately and just made a separate "Please Read" section to address the problem with everyone else at large, seeing as you can't even guarantee everyone here will be looking at these posts anyhow. </p>
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<p>I'm not looking to start gratuitous trouble here, I hope you know that. Like I said, I do completely understand and respect your initial concerns, it's just I feel handling it this way was rather harsh toward brand new folks.</p>
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<div>I welcome introductions. I'm just stating that I'd rather they be done in blogs because if we all make a new discussion to introduce ourselves, then we'll bury important topics. I also think that people don't always understand where to put things, so I thought I'd clarify. If I don't speak up, then no one will know how I feel about this. </div>
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<div>I welcome introductions. I'm just stating that I'd rather they be done in blogs because if we all make a new discussion to introduce ourselves, then we'll bury important topics. I also think that people don't always understand where to put things, so I thought I'd clarify. If I don't speak up, then no one will know how I feel about this. </div>
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<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50325&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment50326"><div><p>Well I believe the new people that sign up, want to get it off their chest what they are dealing with, to see if there is anyone on this website that understands or can give advice. That is all it is. This forum seems to be about the situation I and others are explaining. If you didn't want it to be about just that, then maybe label the forum about something else, so people don't get the wrong idea.</p>
<p><br/> <br/> <cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/i-am-new-here?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A50164&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment50323"><div><div>I noticed a lot of people are doing this again, so I'm going to speak up. Every time we start a new discussion, we bury old discussions that might have relevant info to someone looking at this site. Out of 10 discussions, 3 are just people sharing about themselves. When you're just sharing, I think it belongs more in a blog. You're welcome here, and I hope you can find some comfort. Just please be mindful about starting new discussions. Look through the old ones first and add on if it's the same type of thing. Thanks. </div>
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