How many of you are/were an outcast? - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T22:30:22Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/how-many-of-you-are-were-an-outcast?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A188062&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI didn't have many friends wh…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-26:4661400:Comment:1963202014-11-26T00:04:22.881ZThierryhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/ThierryMorrigan
<p>I didn't have many friends when I was a small child, and blame the shit out of my mom for it. Never been to kindergarden, never brought back kids home to play. Had one family friend who was 8 years older than me and mentally challenged (not using it as an insult, she actually was.) I sincerely think had I been encouraged to make friends I'd not have MD or have it significantly less because...</p>
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<p>I was a loner in grade 7. Outcast, totally. Not poor-poor but definitely didn't dress…</p>
<p>I didn't have many friends when I was a small child, and blame the shit out of my mom for it. Never been to kindergarden, never brought back kids home to play. Had one family friend who was 8 years older than me and mentally challenged (not using it as an insult, she actually was.) I sincerely think had I been encouraged to make friends I'd not have MD or have it significantly less because...</p>
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<p>I was a loner in grade 7. Outcast, totally. Not poor-poor but definitely didn't dress in stylish clothes. Introverted to the nth degree. And, not to toot my own horn or anything, much smarter than most of the class. So all of that got me made fun of, isolated.</p>
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<p>So in lieu of having real friends I made some up. Started out as just two, then it grew over the years. Even as I made real life friends and got into relationships, the MD characters stayed.</p> I was an outcast. The main re…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-25:4661400:Comment:1965092014-11-25T17:53:09.688ZTigerTailhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Ashleymw
<p>I was an outcast. The main reason was because my daydreaming was near constant as a child, and it caused me to become behind in my social skills since I made very few connections with others. I can't remember a time in school that I wasn't daydreaming. To me, school was a prison that forced me to sit still when all I wanted to do was pace around and daydream. It was all about going in and getting out as fast as possible, so I never put a ton of effort into making friends even though I was…</p>
<p>I was an outcast. The main reason was because my daydreaming was near constant as a child, and it caused me to become behind in my social skills since I made very few connections with others. I can't remember a time in school that I wasn't daydreaming. To me, school was a prison that forced me to sit still when all I wanted to do was pace around and daydream. It was all about going in and getting out as fast as possible, so I never put a ton of effort into making friends even though I was very friendly and loved having them. I mostly played with children that lived in my neighborhood instead.</p>
<p>In middle school I made a few friends, but only one or two that I actually ever hung outside of school with. I was bullied every day by everyone else because of how quiet I was and the fact that I had to wear big glasses.</p>
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<p>High school the bullying died down a lot, though freshman year had it moments...I made a lot of friends.</p>
<p>However most of these were also kids who were considered weird. Many of them had social problems and I remember times when they treated me pretty crappy. The good thing is many of my closest friends are people I still text and hang out with today.</p>
<p>I'm in college now, and I know my social skills still aren't perfect, but they are much better than they were before. I also exchanged my glasses for contacts, learned how to use makeup, got work experience, and despite the social anxiety that is still with me from being bullied, I put myself in situations to purposely meet people.</p>
<p>I think there definitely is a connection between being an outcast and MDD. People who are outcasts are often introverts,and introverts are sensitive to stessors in the outside world. I think this inability to deal with a ton of outside stimulation is what causes some of these people to relax through daydreaming, which may become addictive and develop into MD. This is why I think I've become addicted to daydreaming.</p> I'm 15, and am definitely an…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-22:4661400:Comment:1958602014-11-22T07:36:48.011ZFunAtmospherehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/FunAtmosphere
<p>I'm 15, and am definitely an outcast. I have friends and all, they're just not people i can connect to, or relate to at all.</p>
<p>So i just like to keep quiet, and keep to my own thoughts and observe situations instead of getting involved. Usually when I'm alone at school I'll read, or daydream while listening to music. :/</p>
<p>I was also severely bullied in primary school, sooo I'm guessing that's what triggered my daydreams to begin with.</p>
<p>I'm 15, and am definitely an outcast. I have friends and all, they're just not people i can connect to, or relate to at all.</p>
<p>So i just like to keep quiet, and keep to my own thoughts and observe situations instead of getting involved. Usually when I'm alone at school I'll read, or daydream while listening to music. :/</p>
<p>I was also severely bullied in primary school, sooo I'm guessing that's what triggered my daydreams to begin with.</p> I was an outcast as a child,…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-22:4661400:Comment:1958522014-11-22T00:06:37.105ZLizzie Wanderlusthttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/LizzieMarie
<p>I was an outcast as a child, and it seems I still am. When I was young, I didn't speak often or bother to make friends. I was the kid who sat in the back of class, and who, when I did finally speak up and say something, everyone would turn to and gawk at or say "I didn't know she could speak!"</p>
<p>I'm still a bit like that… I don't speak often, but I do make an effort to have friends. Sadly, as an adult, making friends has become a lot harder… and it seems I have missed the chance I had…</p>
<p>I was an outcast as a child, and it seems I still am. When I was young, I didn't speak often or bother to make friends. I was the kid who sat in the back of class, and who, when I did finally speak up and say something, everyone would turn to and gawk at or say "I didn't know she could speak!"</p>
<p>I'm still a bit like that… I don't speak often, but I do make an effort to have friends. Sadly, as an adult, making friends has become a lot harder… and it seems I have missed the chance I had to do so as a child. I'm surrounded by amazing people, but I don't hold the same interests as them. I've gotten to the point where I have 'friends' who will stop to say hi to me in the hall, but won't bother to invite me to the big party on Friday night. <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">I guess those are what we call acquaintances? </span></p>
<p></p> Yes, I was bullied and had no…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-13:4661400:Comment:1955252014-11-13T06:48:36.197ZTrue Blue Dreamerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SamanthaMunoz
Yes, I was bullied and had no friends in middle school and highschool. I just don't understand how that can cause MDD. A lot of kids around that age don't have friends or are bullied so I don't understand how that can be so Trumatic to people like us to cause MDD. I guess I expected a bigger Trumatic event abused or to cause in MDD. Does anyone have any ideas why?
Yes, I was bullied and had no friends in middle school and highschool. I just don't understand how that can cause MDD. A lot of kids around that age don't have friends or are bullied so I don't understand how that can be so Trumatic to people like us to cause MDD. I guess I expected a bigger Trumatic event abused or to cause in MDD. Does anyone have any ideas why? yuptag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-08:4661400:Comment:1950662014-11-08T12:31:40.400Zgigglycharmhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/gigglycharm
<p>yup</p>
<p>yup</p> All I can say is that no frie…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-11-07:4661400:Comment:1952542014-11-07T19:30:43.211ZCamoranhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Source
All I can say is that no friends is better than fake, idiot, exploiting friends. Still, it's quite an extreme situation
All I can say is that no friends is better than fake, idiot, exploiting friends. Still, it's quite an extreme situation I did feel like a social outc…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-10-19:4661400:Comment:1943732014-10-19T17:36:25.417ZAurynhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Auryn
<p>I did feel like a social outcast in elementary and middle school, when my daydreaming was the strongest. It was a powerful coping mechanism.</p>
<p>I did feel like a social outcast in elementary and middle school, when my daydreaming was the strongest. It was a powerful coping mechanism.</p> I got social anxiety I won't…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-10-17:4661400:Comment:1941812014-10-17T13:20:10.879ZJayhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JaylanAhmed
I got social anxiety I won't talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, that's why I don't have friends at school cause no one came to me and spoke to me first when I first started my new school. And idk if being anti social started my md or not cause I started doing it when I was 5 yrs old and I'm 15 now
I got social anxiety I won't talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, that's why I don't have friends at school cause no one came to me and spoke to me first when I first started my new school. And idk if being anti social started my md or not cause I started doing it when I was 5 yrs old and I'm 15 now I was an outcast and I think…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-10-15:4661400:Comment:1942522014-10-15T18:42:56.076ZHeavenhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Heaven
I was an outcast and I think that's kind of how it started for me. I didn't have any friends in my reality so I escaped to a fantasy world where I did. I have a small group of friends now and I love them. I've only told two of them about my MDD. They were both completely supportive. But there are still some days where I feel left out and It's possible that my daydreaming can be more intense on those days.
I was an outcast and I think that's kind of how it started for me. I didn't have any friends in my reality so I escaped to a fantasy world where I did. I have a small group of friends now and I love them. I've only told two of them about my MDD. They were both completely supportive. But there are still some days where I feel left out and It's possible that my daydreaming can be more intense on those days.