Does anyone else feel like this about real life? - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T22:28:41Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/does-anyone-else-feel-like?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A31928&feed=yes&xn_auth=noYes! me too! Sometimes when I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-07-26:4661400:Comment:386892011-07-26T10:10:41.056Zgreyartisthttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CarolMotsinger
<p>Yes! me too! Sometimes when I'm walking laps for exercise I am DDing and I have started to cry when the characters of the DD where in distress.</p>
<p>Carol</p>
<blockquote>"And one of these times is when daydreaming, I tend to feel the characters emotions as though they were my own. And these emotions can be even stronger then those I feel in response to actual events." Marie</blockquote>
<p>Yes! me too! Sometimes when I'm walking laps for exercise I am DDing and I have started to cry when the characters of the DD where in distress.</p>
<p>Carol</p>
<blockquote>"And one of these times is when daydreaming, I tend to feel the characters emotions as though they were my own. And these emotions can be even stronger then those I feel in response to actual events." Marie</blockquote> I think I have this problem..…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-07-26:4661400:Comment:390012011-07-26T02:16:07.215ZMariehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/MarieN
<p>I think I have this problem... Of something like it. I have trouble caring about people and feeling as emotional as "normal" people do. But then there are times when I feel like I am WAY more emotional about things then I should be. And one of these times is when daydreaming, I tend to feel the characters emotions as though they were my own. And these emotions can be even stronger then those I feel in response to actual events.</p>
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<p>And I feel like, after an initial emotion burst,…</p>
<p>I think I have this problem... Of something like it. I have trouble caring about people and feeling as emotional as "normal" people do. But then there are times when I feel like I am WAY more emotional about things then I should be. And one of these times is when daydreaming, I tend to feel the characters emotions as though they were my own. And these emotions can be even stronger then those I feel in response to actual events.</p>
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<p>And I feel like, after an initial emotion burst, I can kind of detach myself from situations that make me unhappy in some way.</p>
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<p>I spent a lot of my preteen/early teen years angsting over one or two things that happened. Until I realized that it wasn't really worth letting it ruin my life, I think from then on I was kind of able to get away from bad emotion with the mentality "I get over it soon." (I think this was actually around the time my daydreaming became a big part of my life, and when I decided I want to be an artist) I've always thought of this as an advantage, but I think this gives me a disconnect with people who don't think this way...</p>
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<p>I think I also have a problem with caring about things, witch defiantly causes a lot of problems... Something will happen and my initial reaction will be "Aaaand... Why should I care¿" But then there are times when I care way to much about things. The same goes for a lot of other emotions too now that I think about it. It's kind of a comfort to know that other people with MD have this. I've never connected it with my MD, but now that I think about it it makes sense.</p> Yes I totally don't feel emot…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-07-24:4661400:Comment:379762011-07-24T16:24:07.238ZNicolahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Nicola
Yes I totally don't feel emotion as I should. I have found that in situations where I should be sad, I feel an urge to laugh, which is completely inappropriate.<br />
I also seem to detach myself emotionally from awkward situations. For example, when my day dreaming becomes excessive, to the point where I need to take time from work to accommodate it, I never feel guilty. Countless times I have let people down, providing no explanation and simply being absent. In these times I should feel some…
Yes I totally don't feel emotion as I should. I have found that in situations where I should be sad, I feel an urge to laugh, which is completely inappropriate.<br />
I also seem to detach myself emotionally from awkward situations. For example, when my day dreaming becomes excessive, to the point where I need to take time from work to accommodate it, I never feel guilty. Countless times I have let people down, providing no explanation and simply being absent. In these times I should feel some element of guilt but I feel none at all.<br />
My emotions are somewhat backwards and it's interesting to read that this is something a lot of ppl with MD are experiencing.<br />
MD appears to be extremely complex and it really needs looking into, to provide us with explanations of our characteristics and to make MD more widely known in society. I am learning so much from this site. I have discovered many of my attributes are actually a result of MD, which makes very interesting learning.<br />
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Nic xx I too am very emotional in my…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-07-24:4661400:Comment:380512011-07-24T02:56:42.344ZHarryhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Haller
I too am very emotional in my daydreams but indifferent in real life. Does every one with MD have this problem? Then MD could be because of something do with our brain and not a habit we have developed. Or perhaps brain uses different areas for expressing in dreams and different areas while expressing in real life.<br></br>
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<cite>greyartist said:…</cite>
I too am very emotional in my daydreams but indifferent in real life. Does every one with MD have this problem? Then MD could be because of something do with our brain and not a habit we have developed. Or perhaps brain uses different areas for expressing in dreams and different areas while expressing in real life.<br/>
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<cite>greyartist said:</cite><br />
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/does-anyone-else-feel-like?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A38301&xg_source=activity#4661400Comment38301"><div>This very interesting that MDers have similar coldness issues. I have always considered myself a "broken soul" because I didn't seem to feel things like other people. The strange thing is that I'm much more emotional IN the daydreams. I guess it's the me I wish I could be.</div>
</blockquote> This very interesting that MD…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-07-23:4661400:Comment:383012011-07-23T14:50:44.635Zgreyartisthttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CarolMotsinger
This very interesting that MDers have similar coldness issues. I have always considered myself a "broken soul" because I didn't seem to feel things like other people. The strange thing is that I'm much more emotional IN the daydreams. I guess it's the me I wish I could be.
This very interesting that MDers have similar coldness issues. I have always considered myself a "broken soul" because I didn't seem to feel things like other people. The strange thing is that I'm much more emotional IN the daydreams. I guess it's the me I wish I could be. My daydreaming use to be ment…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-23:4661400:Comment:317422011-06-23T06:19:57.583ZHeinriech Heisnerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/HeinriechHeisner
<p>My daydreaming use to be mentally and emotionally exhausting - would tire me out, but now I have even gone numb in that area. Now I view everything logically (when I am not being mentally lazy) and time is different somehow. After experiencing my depression in college, I recognize that all events will pass eventually and I can take hard times more easily now. Everything is just drops in a bucket. After all that though, I began noticing the emotions of others, especially of those who I…</p>
<p>My daydreaming use to be mentally and emotionally exhausting - would tire me out, but now I have even gone numb in that area. Now I view everything logically (when I am not being mentally lazy) and time is different somehow. After experiencing my depression in college, I recognize that all events will pass eventually and I can take hard times more easily now. Everything is just drops in a bucket. After all that though, I began noticing the emotions of others, especially of those who I thought had control of them. I am amazed at how easily some people let their emotions, like fear and anger, control them. I always thought my brother was really rational, but then I saw the bursts surge through him, irrationally. They are just little every day occurances that I would not have noticed before. I no longer understand why people let other people's opinions get to them. Everyone has their own thoughts about everything. Is what some random stranger or even a colleague says, that important to upset you and cause you to create an emotionally charged argument? I find myself just taking things as they are and asking more questions to get a broader sense of where this person is coming from. I find emotions can be distractors of the simplest things.</p>
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<p>But I do have a lazy mind. Lately I have been noticing that where I use to let my mind wander, I think of nothing now. To get over my daydreaming, I practiced for over a half of a year going to this clearing in my mind and now I find myself just resting in that spot, sometimes just focusing on my breathing. I guess that's what meditation is. It is strange to think that no thought is what is replacing my daydreams - as it's a complete opposite for the mind. Very peaceful though. I also use the clear spot to refocus my mind when I am distracted. I have found that I can sort of change my personality, but it takes a lot of focus to get there. Normally I am quiet and somewhat shy, but I can get to this place where I feel like I own the world and can do anything I want (not like a dream, I do not feel invincible) socially - I just drop everything that normally inhibits me and I am free, I am the man! But like I said, my mind is lazy and I don't stay there for more than a few days. I guess practicing it more might make it more regular. Hm, I did not think I was going to write this much in this post - but perhaps this information might aid someone else that is trying to reorganize the connections in their brains.<br/> <br/>
<cite>Angel said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/does-anyone-else-feel-like?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A31922&xg_source=msg_com_forum#4661400Comment31917"><div><p>For me its more a feeling of numbness than a general lack of emotion. I'm a survivor of child abuse. In our house if you did any thing that was perceived as wrong punishments were severe. They were worse if you protested or showed any kind of emotion. I learned to go numb, physically and emotionally. When you do that you begin to forget how to feel and express emotion. I day dreamed continuously as a way to escape. Eventually, Mom (who was also a victim) got my brother and me out of that situation. My goal then was to learn how to feel again and how not to shut down. Its taken many years, but I'm doing alright. Except when I binge on day dreaming. Too much day dreaming is emotionally and mentally exhausting, there is nothing left for anyone else. My goal now is balance day dreaming. If I repeat that many times perhaps it will work!</p>
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</blockquote> Visualisation helps. Like, I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-23:4661400:Comment:319282011-06-23T05:29:03.682ZDelorean Joneshttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DeloreanJones
<p>Visualisation helps. Like, I imagine the static, cloudy foggy feelings as a sort of costume I can separate myself from at least temporarily, look at and analyze, then attack properly.</p>
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<p>Visualisation helps. Like, I imagine the static, cloudy foggy feelings as a sort of costume I can separate myself from at least temporarily, look at and analyze, then attack properly.</p>
<p> </p> Its the same way for me. When…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-23:4661400:Comment:319222011-06-23T02:59:15.133Zlaurellestarzhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/laurellestarzzz
<p>Its the same way for me. When I got my green card I was like "well, that's good..."</p>
<p>Anyone else would have cried tears of joy or squeal in delight.</p>
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<p>I'm not very emotional and in the end I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome.</p>
<p>I'm not sure if AS caused the MD or the other way around.</p>
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<p>Lets face it, most of us who live inside our heads won't develop great communication skills and MD is all about living within one's self. Don't beat yourself up…</p>
<p>Its the same way for me. When I got my green card I was like "well, that's good..."</p>
<p>Anyone else would have cried tears of joy or squeal in delight.</p>
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<p>I'm not very emotional and in the end I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome.</p>
<p>I'm not sure if AS caused the MD or the other way around.</p>
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<p>Lets face it, most of us who live inside our heads won't develop great communication skills and MD is all about living within one's self. Don't beat yourself up about it too much.</p>
<p> </p> For me its more a feeling of…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-23:4661400:Comment:319172011-06-23T00:12:25.668ZAngelhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Phaedra
<p>For me its more a feeling of numbness than a general lack of emotion. I'm a survivor of child abuse. In our house if you did any thing that was perceived as wrong punishments were severe. They were worse if you protested or showed any kind of emotion. I learned to go numb, physically and emotionally. When you do that you begin to forget how to feel and express emotion. I day dreamed continuously as a way to escape. Eventually, Mom (who was also a victim) got my brother and me out of…</p>
<p>For me its more a feeling of numbness than a general lack of emotion. I'm a survivor of child abuse. In our house if you did any thing that was perceived as wrong punishments were severe. They were worse if you protested or showed any kind of emotion. I learned to go numb, physically and emotionally. When you do that you begin to forget how to feel and express emotion. I day dreamed continuously as a way to escape. Eventually, Mom (who was also a victim) got my brother and me out of that situation. My goal then was to learn how to feel again and how not to shut down. Its taken many years, but I'm doing alright. Except when I binge on day dreaming. Too much day dreaming is emotionally and mentally exhausting, there is nothing left for anyone else. My goal now is balance day dreaming. If I repeat that many times perhaps it will work!</p> "I am a rock, I am an island…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-22:4661400:Comment:316542011-06-22T18:21:47.753ZJuliehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Julie
<p> "I am a rock, I am an island. And the rock feels no pain. And the island never cries". Or "The man machine, pseudo human being, super human being". This would be about me. I thought, I'm a poor Aspie, unable to recognize and express emotions. I thought, this could be because of day-dreaming as all my emotions went there. And I felt terribly guily because of zero empathy. Then it stopped. I'm not worse than the others. The fact I can't cry just because your (stupid) boyfriend left you or…</p>
<p> "I am a rock, I am an island. And the rock feels no pain. And the island never cries". Or "The man machine, pseudo human being, super human being". This would be about me. I thought, I'm a poor Aspie, unable to recognize and express emotions. I thought, this could be because of day-dreaming as all my emotions went there. And I felt terribly guily because of zero empathy. Then it stopped. I'm not worse than the others. The fact I can't cry just because your (stupid) boyfriend left you or because you were fired (because of being lazy) doesn't mean I have zero empathy. I'm just different. I'm not trying to act the emotions as I respect others too much to act. <em>There is a more important things than emotions - it's being fair. And really, I couldn't care less what the others think - I'm not a politician, so I don't try to please everyone.</em></p>
<p>Trying to make it clear to my friends and, surprisingly they understand, what the below words mean:</p>
<p><em>I can put myself in your shoes. If I can't, I have vivid enough imagination to try so. I can drive through the city at night and pick you up drunk from the party. I can do some of your job, if you're sick, stressed or tired. I can offer a loan. I can sit with you and analyze the reasons for failure. I will be fair. I will be non-biased. I believe that almost any mistake can be forgiven for the first time but almost no mistake can be forgiven for the second time. I won't cry with you. I won't say it's not your fault if it's yours (and you know this, so why do you ask?). I won't say you did a good job if you didn't (and you know this, so why do you ask?). And I don't expect you to do these things to me. I'm not saying that crying, acting and lyiing for good reason is wrong, but find someone else.</em></p>