Does Anyone Daydream about Negative Scenarios? - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T13:47:33Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/does-anyone-daydream-about?groupUrl=negativedaydreamers&commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A60823&groupId=4661400%3AGroup%3A31280&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI have daydreams about people…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2021-09-20:4661400:Comment:4195582021-09-20T00:13:28.483ZElaine Steelehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/ElaineSteele
<p>I have daydreams about people doing horrible things to each other, too, but I wouldn’t call myself a masochist—or a sadist. The fact that I have masochistic daydreams (or sadistic daydreams—depending on whether I identify more with the person being harmed or the person causing the harm) doesn’t mean I’m masochistic or sadistic in real life—or in my heart of hearts. It just means that, like all human beings, I have the potential to be a masochist or a sadist. Whether or not I <i>will</i> be…</p>
<p>I have daydreams about people doing horrible things to each other, too, but I wouldn’t call myself a masochist—or a sadist. The fact that I have masochistic daydreams (or sadistic daydreams—depending on whether I identify more with the person being harmed or the person causing the harm) doesn’t mean I’m masochistic or sadistic in real life—or in my heart of hearts. It just means that, like all human beings, I have the potential to be a masochist or a sadist. Whether or not I <i>will</i> be either of those things is my choice.</p> I tend to daydream about nega…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2021-04-01:4661400:Comment:4125032021-04-01T02:56:58.593ZAlexa H Allbrighthttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/AlexaHAllbright
<p>I tend to daydream about negative scenarios all the time. I don't know why, but I always have, even when I was a kid. </p>
<p>I tend to daydream about negative scenarios all the time. I don't know why, but I always have, even when I was a kid. </p> One of the very first daydrea…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-10-31:4661400:Comment:1947802014-10-31T13:16:17.586ZHeavenhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Heaven
One of the very first daydreams I ever had involved this character that was my best friend because at the time I was alone and didn't really had anyone, so I made a friend in my mind. Over time, her story got rather dark and she is no longer in my daydreams. Some of the first daydreams I ever had were very violent and depressing. I had a world where my mother died from cancer and my father was very abusive. I've always wondered why my MDD experience started out with such negative daydreams.…
One of the very first daydreams I ever had involved this character that was my best friend because at the time I was alone and didn't really had anyone, so I made a friend in my mind. Over time, her story got rather dark and she is no longer in my daydreams. Some of the first daydreams I ever had were very violent and depressing. I had a world where my mother died from cancer and my father was very abusive. I've always wondered why my MDD experience started out with such negative daydreams. I've never had any trauma in real life that I would escape from. yes mine get worse and worse…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-17:4661400:Comment:1793502014-04-17T22:14:56.921ZBeccahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Becca962
<p>yes mine get worse and worse always like being kidnapped or like tortured or somethign and i have no clue why because ive experienced like no trauma at all in my life & i cant even think of what i'd be using it as an escape for.</p>
<p>yes mine get worse and worse always like being kidnapped or like tortured or somethign and i have no clue why because ive experienced like no trauma at all in my life & i cant even think of what i'd be using it as an escape for.</p> She also had to balance going…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-03-31:4661400:Comment:1780922014-03-31T04:59:18.838ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
She also had to balance going to 2 schools at once. Her parents make her go to a regular Earth high school, but at one point she had to go to night school to learn about military strategy. She also had 2 near-death experiences that kind of led to each other (almost getting killed by a bomb during a war, then getting captured by the enemy because she was unconscious and almost being executed).
She also had to balance going to 2 schools at once. Her parents make her go to a regular Earth high school, but at one point she had to go to night school to learn about military strategy. She also had 2 near-death experiences that kind of led to each other (almost getting killed by a bomb during a war, then getting captured by the enemy because she was unconscious and almost being executed). My characters have tragic bac…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-03-31:4661400:Comment:1780912014-03-31T04:54:17.728ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
My characters have tragic back stories. They were genetically engineered as part of an experiment. They messed up the experiment on purpose so the scientists would be forced to end it, but even though the experiment is over the scientists are still trying to control them. A lot of them are orphans. One was brainwashed into becoming a serial killer but snapped out of it and regretted his actions. Another one got mad at his family and ran away from home and was hunted by some people who were…
My characters have tragic back stories. They were genetically engineered as part of an experiment. They messed up the experiment on purpose so the scientists would be forced to end it, but even though the experiment is over the scientists are still trying to control them. A lot of them are orphans. One was brainwashed into becoming a serial killer but snapped out of it and regretted his actions. Another one got mad at his family and ran away from home and was hunted by some people who were trying to kill him. He came back home but then realized his family was in danger because of him (everything was okay later, though). My character has parents who are great people but are never home and pay hardly any attention to her or her siblings. She practically has to raise her younger siblings all by herself (while the whole experiment thing is still going on, mind you). Eventually, along with some family friends, she took control of several planets and set up an intergalactic empire. It was determined that her family should be the ruling family, but her parents don't like the idea of the whole space empire thing very much at all and leave all the responsibility of ruling an empire to her (and she is only 14 at this point). Keep in mind that she STILL has to raise her very difficult younger siblings, because even though her family is obviously very rich by now her parents refuse to hire a nanny. I've had to deal with a lot o…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-03-24:4661400:Comment:1775422014-03-24T02:36:57.071ZThe1andonlyAbberhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/The1andonlyAbber
I've had to deal with a lot of anger and stress in my life (as in other kids deliberately making me mad and then laughing at me for being mad every single school day, LITERALLY 6 HOURS of homework PER NIGHT in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, moving twice--both times to a different state, parents being overprotective, just to name a few). I think that's why my daydreams are violent and depressing sometimes.
I've had to deal with a lot of anger and stress in my life (as in other kids deliberately making me mad and then laughing at me for being mad every single school day, LITERALLY 6 HOURS of homework PER NIGHT in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, moving twice--both times to a different state, parents being overprotective, just to name a few). I think that's why my daydreams are violent and depressing sometimes. Makes sense...but I always wa…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-02:4661400:Comment:1423802013-06-02T20:12:05.356ZDeeDee Stensenghttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DeeDeeStenseng
<p>Makes sense...but I always want to be "rescued" but never am<br></br> <br></br> <cite>Rebecca said:</cite></p>
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<p>Makes sense...but I always want to be "rescued" but never am<br/> <br/> <cite>Rebecca said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/does-anyone-daydream-about?groupUrl=negativedaydreamers&commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A142377&groupId=4661400%3AGroup%3A31280#4661400Comment113759"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>Yes, a lot of my daydreams seem to involve some type of negative scenario. These scenarios often involve overcoming terrible loss and struggling with emotional wounds. On occasion, I've become so caught up in the story that I feel an intense sadness, at times to the point of tears. It took me a while to realize I was using these daydreams to work through the loss and abuse I went through in my younger years, even though the stories in my daydreams weren't the same as my real life. One thing I really got concerned about was that I'd often have a rescuer in the negative daydream and, even though I understood why that kept coming up, I didn't want to sink into the role of victim and have that feeling carry over into my real life. Does that make sense? I've been making a conscious effort to shift toward more empowered daydreams, but I tend to go back to negative daydreams when I'm really stressed.</p>
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</blockquote> How do you just come out and…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-02:4661400:Comment:1423772013-06-02T20:09:00.502ZDeeDee Stensenghttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DeeDeeStenseng
<p>How do you just come out and say it? I have never told anyone. I am glad to know I am not alone but I have yet to see someone do the same thing(s) I have done. </p>
<p>How do you just come out and say it? I have never told anyone. I am glad to know I am not alone but I have yet to see someone do the same thing(s) I have done. </p> Yes, most of my daydreams are…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-05-30:4661400:Comment:1419602013-05-30T01:34:54.664ZElaine Fitzgeraldhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/ElaineFitzgerald
<p>Yes, most of my daydreams are negative daydreams. I had a "Cosby Show" childhood. My parents were never abusive (physically or emotionally) I had siblings who loved me, and a big extended family who loved me. So why do I daydream? And why are my daydreams so negative? Even though my siblings loved me, they did not like me. They only hung out with me when they were forced to or bored. They often made me feel unwelcome in my own home. I used to say it was one think not to be popular…</p>
<p>Yes, most of my daydreams are negative daydreams. I had a "Cosby Show" childhood. My parents were never abusive (physically or emotionally) I had siblings who loved me, and a big extended family who loved me. So why do I daydream? And why are my daydreams so negative? Even though my siblings loved me, they did not like me. They only hung out with me when they were forced to or bored. They often made me feel unwelcome in my own home. I used to say it was one think not to be popular school and another not to be popular at home. I think they just saw me as this little immature little pest who was a complete wimp and pushover. I don’t think I would have minded so much but there was only 5 years between the oldest and myself and there were only 4 of us.</p>
<p>So, when I started the obsessive daydreaming in 5<sup>th</sup> grade I created scenarios that mirrored my life. Like me, my character, is kindhearted little girl who has a very old soul. She has a hard time with making friends and spends a lot of time at home. Unlike me, her older brothers adore their sister. They are very proud of her and don’t understand why her classmates don’t like her. Unlike me, my character has had a very violent life and had to overcome things that I have only seen on Law and Order. As a result, her brothers think she is one of the toughest and bravest people they know. They will still pick on her, fight with her, and even take her for granted sometimes, but there is no denying that they like her. Her brothers’ friends protect and defend as well something my siblings’ friends never did for me.</p>
<p>My daydreams are my "Bizzero World". Now I am seeing that my "Bizzero World" is turning into my real world so do I need my daydreams now? No. I realize that. But they have been with me so long I don’t know how to live without them. I can’t seem to stop. Sometimes I think it is just a habit. When it is difficult for me to think of a daydream but I feel I need to do it, that’s when I think it’s a habit. Other times I know it’s more than that. When I have such a great story going on in my head I don’t want to go to sleep. Or when I am at work and people ask, “what’s wrong?” That is when I know something else must be happening.</p>