do I have maladaptive daydreaming? (newbie) - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T12:24:22Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/do-i-have-maladaptive-daydreaming-newbie?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A319773&xg_source=activity&feed=yes&xn_auth=noEric, i have not long been se…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-10-09:4661400:Comment:3203622018-10-09T13:39:29.909ZDr Pepperhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DrPepper
<p>Eric, i have not long been separated from my husband and have been doing the same as you for last two years, daydreaming about finding happiness with someone else. I actually think i may have found happiness which is great. I hope you sort things out, if you are being abused maybe it is time to move on and start a new adventure. <br></br> <br></br> <cite>Erik said:…</cite></p>
<p>Eric, i have not long been separated from my husband and have been doing the same as you for last two years, daydreaming about finding happiness with someone else. I actually think i may have found happiness which is great. I hope you sort things out, if you are being abused maybe it is time to move on and start a new adventure. <br/> <br/> <cite>Erik said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/do-i-have-maladaptive-daydreaming-newbie?xg_source=activity#4661400Comment320072"><div><div class="xg_user_generated">I would say you and I are in a similar situation Pepper. Been trying to figure this out for a while and I've really just now realized I've been doing this for years. Doesn't affect my work, relationships or social life, but it is a constant in my life.<br/> I guess in some ways, it's helped me visualize things I want and I always tend to get them, so maybe that's a positive.<br/> <br/> My marriage has been a disaster in the last 2 years though and I found myself way more immersed in my daydreams than ever before. I suppose it's a coping mechanism, finding happiness in my head for now. It really doesn't solve anything though and can't fix real world problems.<br/> <br/> Trying to figure out now if I want to continue with my wife. God she's gorgeous, but she's verbally and mentally abusive and I can do better. Just hard to let go of 20 years and hard to accept this as my life I guess. Pretty scary stuff.</div>
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</blockquote> Sorry everyone, I didn't real…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-10-05:4661400:Comment:3198422018-10-05T17:34:49.530ZDr Pepperhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/DrPepper
<p>Sorry everyone, I didn't realise anyone had responded. From what you say it does look like im more a <span>Immersive Daydreamer but i do stop what I am doing to daydream and I do think i am daydreaming all the time. it's good to know im not alone though. thanks for your responses. </span></p>
<p>Sorry everyone, I didn't realise anyone had responded. From what you say it does look like im more a <span>Immersive Daydreamer but i do stop what I am doing to daydream and I do think i am daydreaming all the time. it's good to know im not alone though. thanks for your responses. </span></p> I totally agree with everythi…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-10-05:4661400:Comment:3201072018-10-05T10:53:37.234ZJudyhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Judy66
<p>I totally agree with everything Finrod said. He diagnosed you pretty well. </p>
<p>My daydreaming is worse than you. I have to push myself to do my chords and I sometimes don't listen to my husband because of it. I also smile or smile like something is funny. I have to lie to my husband why I smile, pretending it is sometimes else. He is the only one that have noticed me smiling for no reasons. A few times, people told me I looked so sad. I know I should't daydream in public, but I can't…</p>
<p>I totally agree with everything Finrod said. He diagnosed you pretty well. </p>
<p>My daydreaming is worse than you. I have to push myself to do my chords and I sometimes don't listen to my husband because of it. I also smile or smile like something is funny. I have to lie to my husband why I smile, pretending it is sometimes else. He is the only one that have noticed me smiling for no reasons. A few times, people told me I looked so sad. I know I should't daydream in public, but I can't help it. </p>
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<p>I hate to go to work. Daydreaming helps me going through my day. Nobody knows I'm daydreaming in a obssessive way. I guess I'm not too bad at not showing it, only few leaks every now and then.</p> The keyword you need to consi…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-10-03:4661400:Comment:3197762018-10-03T20:56:33.031ZFinrod Felagundhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/FinrodFelagund
<p>The keyword you need to consider here is "maladaptive". Daydreaming by itself is totally good and totally normal, until it becomes so much that it interferes with your normal scope of life, which would make it maladaptive. You state that you don't neglect responsibilities or relationships. This, by itself, is a really good sign that you're daydreaming in a healthy manner. You might be more of an Immersive Daydreamer rather than a Maladaptive one. You also mentioned that you have a full…</p>
<p>The keyword you need to consider here is "maladaptive". Daydreaming by itself is totally good and totally normal, until it becomes so much that it interferes with your normal scope of life, which would make it maladaptive. You state that you don't neglect responsibilities or relationships. This, by itself, is a really good sign that you're daydreaming in a healthy manner. You might be more of an Immersive Daydreamer rather than a Maladaptive one. You also mentioned that you have a full social life with good friends and family. This is yet another great sign. Most maladaptive daydreamers wouldn't make the necessary time to carve out such a social life, as they would prefer to be more absorbed in their inner world. Although, you did say you find it (daydreaming) exhausting and wish you didn't do it. This would play into the maladaptive model. Do I personally think you are full blown maladaptive daydreamer, no. If anything, you are more of an immersive daydreamer with minor maladaptive traits. </p> Hey. I am exactly the same. A…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-10-03:4661400:Comment:3197732018-10-03T16:09:57.670ZFergus McRobsonhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/FergusMcRobson
Hey. I am exactly the same. As long as hou can discriminate between reality and dreams it is not harmful. Personally i wish i could kick out reality and life the day dream life. But unfortunatly cant.<br />
I find that i just have to remind myself i am in public and its not time for deaming its ok. Any way my fay dreaming keeps my from going totaly loopy.
Hey. I am exactly the same. As long as hou can discriminate between reality and dreams it is not harmful. Personally i wish i could kick out reality and life the day dream life. But unfortunatly cant.<br />
I find that i just have to remind myself i am in public and its not time for deaming its ok. Any way my fay dreaming keeps my from going totaly loopy.