'Dear John Letter' Method - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T08:34:23Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/dear-john-letter-method?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A121457&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI tried doing this when I was…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-01-07:4661400:Comment:1214572013-01-07T07:22:57.185ZMadelynhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Madelyn
I tried doing this when I was 12. I can't remember when I started the daydreaming, perhaps a year or so before then. I have this one friend, the others are great and have always been so great to me in these daydreams, but this one friend is like my soul mate. My best friend, my lover, my protector. He loves me just as I am, which is something that human romantic partners have never been able to do. As a friend he accepts me and our conversations are amazing. anything that I could ever need or…
I tried doing this when I was 12. I can't remember when I started the daydreaming, perhaps a year or so before then. I have this one friend, the others are great and have always been so great to me in these daydreams, but this one friend is like my soul mate. My best friend, my lover, my protector. He loves me just as I am, which is something that human romantic partners have never been able to do. As a friend he accepts me and our conversations are amazing. anything that I could ever need or want. He also actually has personality faults that I created so he would be more realistic. NO ONE has ever been these for me like he has.<br />
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I imagined that we were dancing, and I told him that I couldn't see him anymore. He smiled and was sad, but understood. But he never left me. Now, more than a decade on, he has literally been the longest friendship\relationship of my life (besides immediate family). I have now spent more of my life with him than with out him. Oh the things we have shared together! The places we have been, the adventures we have seen, the fights we have had! I love him more than anyone. I have been feeling more and more like I need to get on with my real (and very very boring and sucky) life, so I tried again. Breaking up with him in fantasy mode was just too painful. I started crying, actually crying. Because I am technically him, I felt his pain also over leaving me. I would advise against, (if this makes sense) going in to your daydream and breaking up with them in character, too real. I am making an effort to call on my sanity and remind myself that he is not, never was and never will be real. I am curious as to whether anyone else has managed to "break up" with their friends, and if they experienced grief. It sounds dumb to grieve over someone not real, but goddamn, he was real to me. Huh. I actually did this once…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-01-05:4661400:Comment:1212112013-01-05T02:21:37.611ZSarah Bethhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SarahBeth
<p>Huh. I actually did this once back in middle school. It helped get rid of my DD characters for a time, but I would still daydream about movies and books and such. I even recently tried intimidating my characters into submission. Yeeeeaaah, didn't go so well. :)</p>
<p>Huh. I actually did this once back in middle school. It helped get rid of my DD characters for a time, but I would still daydream about movies and books and such. I even recently tried intimidating my characters into submission. Yeeeeaaah, didn't go so well. :)</p> I understand that you feel l…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-01-03:4661400:Comment:1207592013-01-03T16:33:57.363ZLeAnn Marcumhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/LeAnnMarcum
<p> I understand that you feel like you need imaginary friends since you have none in reality. But you're making the same mistake I made. You're waiting for someone to come to you, and life doesn't work well that way. You need to get out and make friends yourself, or else you never will. The more time you spend daydreaming about your imaginary friends, the more time you're spending from making real ones.<br></br> <br></br> <cite>Lost soul said:…</cite></p>
<p> I understand that you feel like you need imaginary friends since you have none in reality. But you're making the same mistake I made. You're waiting for someone to come to you, and life doesn't work well that way. You need to get out and make friends yourself, or else you never will. The more time you spend daydreaming about your imaginary friends, the more time you're spending from making real ones.<br/> <br/> <cite>Lost soul said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/dear-john-letter-method#4661400Comment121010"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>You are right about it that it is messing up with the reality. But don't know about other but for me I am into this because I never really got that happy family and friends moment in life. Yes the only time I was ever conscious and in real life was when I got this friend with whom I could share everything and now while he is no more there for me I am back where I was in my dreams. They are my best friends. Atleast they keep me happy. My life is moving atleast its less suicidal that way. I get whatever I want and whoever I want and situations are my puppets! I know its unhealthy but at least at the moment daydreams are my best friends. Only I would want to do is keep them under control and try to control outward reactions so that no one notices. May be someday there will come someone who will take me away from these daydreams but uptill then I need them. Best part about daydreams are they are not they wont be hurt if I dump them if I need them no more. </p>
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</blockquote> Dear Kev. L/Dan. K/Pra. M:
I…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-01-03:4661400:Comment:1209372013-01-03T15:50:59.740Ztafflehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JohnTang
<p>Dear Kev. L/Dan. K/Pra. M:</p>
<p>I would like a clean break from you guys. Please stop haunting me.</p>
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<p>Thanks.</p>
<p>Dear Kev. L/Dan. K/Pra. M:</p>
<p>I would like a clean break from you guys. Please stop haunting me.</p>
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<p>Thanks.</p>