Are you able to share the contents of your daydreams?

When I used to have theraphy years ago my therapist tried hard and pushed me a little to spill the contents of my daydreams. But I never could. 

I felt a strange mixture of discomfirt and resistance for no reason at all. I couldn't share my daydreams with anybody close to me too when they asked me out of concern. There is always some resistance which I'm unable to understand what it actually is.  

Do others feel this? Are you able to share the contents of your daydreams with people you know comfirtably? 

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Nobody's gonna understand it unless more people start speaking about it ;)

good point who are better teachers than us who knows more about it? we are the best teachers . Its good to think about what knowledge we have and can change in the world with that and not focus on what we dont have or missed - for everything we missed we gained knowledge in something else and we should share that with the world we just need to find the courage to do that and the internet makes it easier

I'm new to the group. I have no difficulty talking in detail about my thoughts/daydreams with my analyst. (He's my lifeline and knows more about me than I do. I have no secrets from him, as that would undermine our work.)

My therapy of choice is classical Freudian psychoanalysis. I have complex symptoms (a wide variety of symptoms, which can change over time).  

My recent symptoms include intrusive and distracting thoughts, which somewhat resemble Maladaptive Daydreaming.  

But there are some differences: 

I have about 20 different themes or scenarios, and they repeat with some variations, like reruns of a TV show. With some effort I can often use analytic technique to figure out what caused the intrusive thought / daydream.

I do not experience any pleasure from these, while Dr Somer uses pleasure as a defining criteria. If I'm doing something fun, the thought/daydream can spoil the fun, by distracting.

My recent symptoms are close to MD, but not exactly the same. I'm very interested in reading discussions on the website, and learning more about MD.

I wish to be supportive of all participants here, and thank you for the opportunity to share, to learn, to feel supported, and not to feel alone and alienated.

First, I just want to say hi-- I'm a new member and this is the first time I'm saying anything.

The only person I told about having this compulsive fantasy life is a doctor I've been seeing for years. She was interested and as soon as she asked for more information, I shut it down. It feels extremely private to me. I don't think I'd ever want to share the contents of these daydreams.

I think it's pretty clear what's going on --why I fantasize what I fantasize, what I get out of the particular content and why I do it at all. I don't want to share this content--but I do appreciate having found this group and knowing other people do the same thing. I was surprised when, a couple of years ago, I finally went online trying to find something about this--so surprised to find it had a name, so comforted to know other people had the same or similar thing going on as I do.

So thanks to everyone in this forum.

Hi there, Klein. Welcome! I can relate to how you're feeling. I was kind of releived when I found this website and resources to help me understand what I'm going through. 

I highly recommend reading thorugh Eli Somer's papers as well as a 5 part blog from Eretaia titled - A Guide to Maladaptive Daydreaming. Personally the latter provided a lot of insights when it comes to knowing what I need to do to recover. 

Hi Cain--

Thanks for replying!

Thanks too for the recommendations. Where do I find Eli Somer's papers? and also the other you recommend?

I don't think of MDD as an illness from which I need to recover; I don't think it's helpful to pathologize it. It's a response to pain in one's life; a way of escape. So it's a question of getting help in your life or finding a way yourself. But yes, I find MD addictive, like sugar. Sugar addiction is not an illness, it's a symptom of a problem.

I think it's one response of countless responses (drinking, doing drugs, eating compulsively, etc.) to times when life feels unbearable. Being a creative person, I create stories in my head as escape and compensation for what's missing in my life.

As a youth, when music came on, I used to dance to my daydreams. Visuals in my head would flow and compose to the beat and sensation of the rhythm. They'd structure into a sequential world accompanied with the song, giving me this warm and fuzzy, and misty feeling in my head and body. It fooled me to believe that my life was going to be amazing and happy. Regards, on the outside I looked dazed and out of it, and people have wondered if I was quite alright. 

It all changed when I arrived home after a job interview, and my mom screamed at me, when I didn't do something reasonable for her that was very important. She assumed my head was "on mars" and I wasn't paying attention in life. As the years past, I didn't achieve all my future goals and licked up to my mom, who constantly bickered that she wanted me in psychiatry. She was so firm, and even warned me about screwing up in all my jobs, as she could tell I was always dreaming. So I never got far and whatever dreams I experienced in my youth was total bogus. 

Let's be frank. I started MDD when I was 12, and it grew on me. And why, because I was a lonely misfit who didn't have a place in adolescent society. It grew on me, and lead me to a problematic adulthood. I had no idea what I was doing was so harmful!

Sometimes, I still feel myself cracking up at funny thoughts when I'm working and brushing my teeth. Luckily, nobody is in the same room as me. 


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