ADHD - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T13:24:50Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/adhd?commentId=4661400%3AComment%3A207467&feed=yes&xn_auth=noWell, I’m 14 and have maladap…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-08-09:4661400:Comment:3127172018-08-09T19:46:32.341ZJamiehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Jamie98
Well, I’m 14 and have maladaptive daydreaming, but I’ve never really looked into any medication. And that’s because I can control it, to an extent. I have straight As, can pay attention in church, and I’m fine with socializing. I just create for myself certain times to do it. Like instead of doing in class, I do in on the bus and in the hallways. I don’t have ADHD, I don’t think. I don’t have depression or OCD, which a lot of people who have MD seem to have. I just pace around listening to…
Well, I’m 14 and have maladaptive daydreaming, but I’ve never really looked into any medication. And that’s because I can control it, to an extent. I have straight As, can pay attention in church, and I’m fine with socializing. I just create for myself certain times to do it. Like instead of doing in class, I do in on the bus and in the hallways. I don’t have ADHD, I don’t think. I don’t have depression or OCD, which a lot of people who have MD seem to have. I just pace around listening to music while I daydream intensely. I think of it as more of a hobby, and honestly, a way for me to get exercise. If its more severe for you, then yes, getting medication is just fine. But I think some of us just don’t struggle with it as much as you do First off, I'm not saying tha…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-07-29:4661400:Comment:2121442015-07-29T15:55:16.071ZShadow Cat Samhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/ShadowCatSam
<p>First off, I'm not saying that YOU don't have ADHD and that Adderall isn't right for YOU. From the little you mention of behavioral issues it may well be. </p>
<p>Just be aware of a few things: Adderall is one of the most over prescribed meds on the planet, and not without side effects. Even more than you are relieved, parents get freaky relieved to have "the answer" to why their little darling is acting up. And finally, if you take your car to a brake shop, the problem with the car will be…</p>
<p>First off, I'm not saying that YOU don't have ADHD and that Adderall isn't right for YOU. From the little you mention of behavioral issues it may well be. </p>
<p>Just be aware of a few things: Adderall is one of the most over prescribed meds on the planet, and not without side effects. Even more than you are relieved, parents get freaky relieved to have "the answer" to why their little darling is acting up. And finally, if you take your car to a brake shop, the problem with the car will be brakes every time.</p>
<p>So, while it is a lot to lay on you at 14, I would suggest that you take more responsibility and control of your meds and your treatment than your parents and doc are expecting. I'm not saying don't take them by any means. But do work on coping strategies in addition to the meds. </p>
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<li>Ask your doc and research your self (in case the doc is a tool) how food allergies can affect ADHD.</li>
<li>Try and have a seminormal sleep schedule. </li>
<li> Body maintenance and self monitoring. Stay hydrated, don't let your blood sugar crash, don't hold your pee.</li>
<li>Make to-do lists and maybe even use a daily planner. </li>
<li>Find some kind of hobby that burns calories AND forces you to not completely space out (skateboarbing, karate).</li>
<li>Don't let your living space (bedroom) get to cluttery. That can be very overwhelming to ADHD people.</li>
<li>Say "no". ADHD people tend to be "people pleaser" and overcommitting can send you into a downward spiral.</li>
<li>Say "no" to your parents. Parents get freaky happy that you are all "normal now" and push you into to much stuff.</li>
<li>Check out online forums and such for ADHD people.</li>
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<p>While some of the bullet list above might not have been possible before it may well be now that you are on meds. Also the meds are not magick, they are a tool; and not without side effects. Coping strategies + meds will let you use less meds.</p>
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<p>*Bonus thought: the skateboarding/karate/whatever thing isn't BS, that can really help. If the meds are helping enough that you and your parents can see a difference and you have always wanted to get into "whatever" but your parents are against it? Now is the time, lol. Pitch it as ADHD treatment and even get your doc onboard. ;)</p>
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<p></p> you mentioned how people "suf…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-06-02:4661400:Comment:2080312015-06-02T18:53:07.506Zgonerhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/mychemicalromance
<p>you mentioned how people "suffer" from daydreaming, but... did it ever occur to you that maybe some people actually like it? therefore, they wouldn't take medication or look for help. that's how it is for me, anyway.</p>
<p>you mentioned how people "suffer" from daydreaming, but... did it ever occur to you that maybe some people actually like it? therefore, they wouldn't take medication or look for help. that's how it is for me, anyway.</p> i didn't say maladaptive day…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-29:4661400:Comment:2076142015-05-29T18:55:55.772ZLexihttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Lexi
<p><br></br> i didn't say maladaptive daydreaming was a chemical imbalance (or maybe i did) but i certainly didn't mean it like that. I honestly think that maladaptive daydreaming is caused by a bigger problem, not necessarily a chemical imbalance. but i feel that it's like that for me. Also i have both daydreams, I run back and forth, while fantasying about my "perfect" world or whatever, and i do zone out, not necessarily daydreaming but i'm "out". Both have caused huge problems in my life. It…</p>
<p><br/> i didn't say maladaptive daydreaming was a chemical imbalance (or maybe i did) but i certainly didn't mean it like that. I honestly think that maladaptive daydreaming is caused by a bigger problem, not necessarily a chemical imbalance. but i feel that it's like that for me. Also i have both daydreams, I run back and forth, while fantasying about my "perfect" world or whatever, and i do zone out, not necessarily daydreaming but i'm "out". Both have caused huge problems in my life. It just makes me mad that i, and other people have to go through this. That i have to live with this for the rest of my life, i just want a cure not necessarily to end the daydreams because i feel like that's impossible. But something, possibly medicine, that helps me not daydream so much. Because i can't help myself, it's too hard, because everything i do, triggers them, and me having depression and social anxiety doesn't help. i need something to help me.<br/> <cite>Eretaia said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/adhd?xg_source=activity#4661400Comment207510"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>Sorry kid but you got almost everything wrong. You're pretty young and I have no idea what your psychiatrist told you before putting you on ADHD medication but you'll need much more than <span class="st">amphetamine fix to deal with an issue like MD - if you have MD in the first place. </span></p>
<p><span class="st"><br/>First of all, saying that maladaptive daydreaming is a consequence of a chemical imbalance is like saying heartbreak is a chemical imbalance. Sure, both mess up your brain on a chemical level just as everything in this world alters brain chemistry but the cause is <em>somewhere else</em>. Far, far away from where you think it is. <span class="st">MD is a coping mechanism and you don't solve those with drugs. You may treat underlying illness with drugs but MD is something that has to be dealt with by you and only you.</span></span> Second, MD and ADHD daydreams are two completely different <em>types</em> of daydreaming, different types of disorders. ADD daydreams are zoning out caused by a lack of stimulation - maladaptive daydreams are stimulants. Third, yes, you can work against your brain. If a meth addict can come clean, then why can't your regular maladaptive daydreamer do it too? If ADHD medication works for you, perfect. But ADHD is not MD, keep that in mind.</p>
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</blockquote> I was justing saying that if…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-29:4661400:Comment:2074922015-05-29T18:31:32.360ZLexihttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Lexi
<p><br></br> I was justing saying that if i was normal (if something wasn't wrong with my brain), i wouldn't daydream. That's just my theory. But i don't feel like it's a coping mechanism for me, i mean at one point in my life it probably was, most definitely, but now it's apart of me, i wouldn't be me if i didn't daydream. But sometimes i wonder, if i didn't have what i have, would i be a normal person. <br></br> <cite>Tara Lynn said:…</cite></p>
<p><br/> I was justing saying that if i was normal (if something wasn't wrong with my brain), i wouldn't daydream. That's just my theory. But i don't feel like it's a coping mechanism for me, i mean at one point in my life it probably was, most definitely, but now it's apart of me, i wouldn't be me if i didn't daydream. But sometimes i wonder, if i didn't have what i have, would i be a normal person. <br/> <cite>Tara Lynn said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/adhd#4661400Comment207562"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>I would suggest not saying "something is wrong with your brain." It's a coping mechanism for lots of people, not necessarily a chemical imbalance.</p>
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<p>For me, it's just a trait. For some, it is or becomes a coping mechanism, but it isn't that way for everyone. Some people I've run across on here say they've had great lives and nothing to "cope" with. Some are just creative, and our fantasy can be our art. Like anything in this world, it can have positives and negatives. For me, I've come so far with it on my own journey that it's become just a way to exercise my brain. </p>
<p>For me, it's just a trait. For some, it is or becomes a coping mechanism, but it isn't that way for everyone. Some people I've run across on here say they've had great lives and nothing to "cope" with. Some are just creative, and our fantasy can be our art. Like anything in this world, it can have positives and negatives. For me, I've come so far with it on my own journey that it's become just a way to exercise my brain. </p> I would suggest not saying "s…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-29:4661400:Comment:2075622015-05-29T02:34:20.777ZTara Lynnhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/TaraLynn
<p>I would suggest not saying "something is wrong with your brain." It's a coping mechanism for lots of people, not necessarily a chemical imbalance.</p>
<p>I would suggest not saying "something is wrong with your brain." It's a coping mechanism for lots of people, not necessarily a chemical imbalance.</p> my therapist says i daydream…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-28:4661400:Comment:2074672015-05-28T22:24:48.274ZLexihttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Lexi
<p>my therapist says i daydream because of my ADHD and therefore doesn't help with my daydreaming, in fact she doesn't believe that it's maladaptive she thinks its adaptive and thinks its a great coping mechanism. And i do have real daydreams not just zoning out (ADHD "daydreams") but i do have that too. but i too have been daydreaming for as long as could remember. there hasnt been a time in my life where i havent daydream. i would run back and forth while dreaming about a different world if…</p>
<p>my therapist says i daydream because of my ADHD and therefore doesn't help with my daydreaming, in fact she doesn't believe that it's maladaptive she thinks its adaptive and thinks its a great coping mechanism. And i do have real daydreams not just zoning out (ADHD "daydreams") but i do have that too. but i too have been daydreaming for as long as could remember. there hasnt been a time in my life where i havent daydream. i would run back and forth while dreaming about a different world if that makes sense. I, now, have characters that i daydream about. i could never let them go. i could never stop daydreaming ever and i dont want too. my characters are apart of me. but medicine helps me forget about them for a while, to do productive things and to focus, so i was just suggesting that if medicine works the same for me as it does for a person that has to work really hard to stop daydreaming. then why do they go through all the trouble and years of working, when i can just take a pill and be fine. And im not saying i stop daydreaming completely but its like i don't think about it, if that makes sense.<br/> <br/> <cite>Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:</cite></p>
<blockquote cite="http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/adhd#4661400Comment207462"><div><div class="xg_user_generated"><p>I don't have ADHD. I was tested. I have other issues, but I know this is different. MD BECAME a coping mechanism at points in my life when I needed it, however it was/is not always one. I've been daydreaming since birth. I have not needed to cope since birth. After years of self-discovery, I have grown to be part of the outer world more, but is my daydreaming gone? Nope. Have I always used it to cope? Certainly not! In fact, in my worst moments, I CANNOT daydream. I can't. I'm too obsessed with resolving the issue at hand. Now that I've grown a lot, I live in both worlds. The outer world is hard, but still I can't escape to my inner world when I'm struggling. In fact, it is only when I'm relatively calm and at peace that I can even get into my elaborate fantasy world, and I do it because I enjoy it and to add some enrichment. It no longer takes away from my life, but it is a way to inwardly stimulate myself. My characters get into great debates and feel a range of emotions that just make me stronger. </p>
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<p>Your theory may be correct for some, but it is definitely not correct for all. Be careful about generalizing. Lots of people try, and the fact is, it just doesn't work. </p>
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</blockquote> I don't have ADHD. I was tes…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-28:4661400:Comment:2074622015-05-28T18:44:16.507ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
<p>I don't have ADHD. I was tested. I have other issues, but I know this is different. MD BECAME a coping mechanism at points in my life when I needed it, however it was/is not always one. I've been daydreaming since birth. I have not needed to cope since birth. After years of self-discovery, I have grown to be part of the outer world more, but is my daydreaming gone? Nope. Have I always used it to cope? Certainly not! In fact, in my worst moments, I CANNOT daydream. I can't. I'm too…</p>
<p>I don't have ADHD. I was tested. I have other issues, but I know this is different. MD BECAME a coping mechanism at points in my life when I needed it, however it was/is not always one. I've been daydreaming since birth. I have not needed to cope since birth. After years of self-discovery, I have grown to be part of the outer world more, but is my daydreaming gone? Nope. Have I always used it to cope? Certainly not! In fact, in my worst moments, I CANNOT daydream. I can't. I'm too obsessed with resolving the issue at hand. Now that I've grown a lot, I live in both worlds. The outer world is hard, but still I can't escape to my inner world when I'm struggling. In fact, it is only when I'm relatively calm and at peace that I can even get into my elaborate fantasy world, and I do it because I enjoy it and to add some enrichment. It no longer takes away from my life, but it is a way to inwardly stimulate myself. My characters get into great debates and feel a range of emotions that just make me stronger. </p>
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<p>Your theory may be correct for some, but it is definitely not correct for all. Be careful about generalizing. Lots of people try, and the fact is, it just doesn't work. </p> I am sure everyone who MDDs d…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2015-05-25:4661400:Comment:2075212015-05-25T17:53:26.579ZAlta Mordenhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/AltaMorden
<p>I am sure everyone who MDDs does not necessarily have ADD or ADHD, I certainly do not and have MDD'd since a very young child and am now in my late 60's. Other posts here have made me think that while certainly it does happen, it is not the sole factor. As Eretaia expressed above, the two might not even be related.</p>
<p>I am sure everyone who MDDs does not necessarily have ADD or ADHD, I certainly do not and have MDD'd since a very young child and am now in my late 60's. Other posts here have made me think that while certainly it does happen, it is not the sole factor. As Eretaia expressed above, the two might not even be related.</p>