Wild Minds network2024-03-29T05:15:11ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylorhttps://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/3145251991?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1https://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?groupUrl=without-friends&user=3qpqoocba34pq&feed=yes&xn_auth=noMy DD storytag:wildminds.ning.com,2018-08-04:4661400:Topic:3114032018-08-04T23:19:33.311ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>Hello there!</p>
<p>So, I am a MD, I have been a MD for so long, longer than I can remember, at one point I decided to google my symptoms and found out that I am a MD.</p>
<p>I was disappointed, I thought something is wrong with me, I am not normal, and it bothered me so much.</p>
<p>It took me such a long time and extensive reading about Maladaptive daydreaming, to finally accept that I am different, and it was my way to cope with stress, to live a luxurious imaginary life I cannot afford…</p>
<p>Hello there!</p>
<p>So, I am a MD, I have been a MD for so long, longer than I can remember, at one point I decided to google my symptoms and found out that I am a MD.</p>
<p>I was disappointed, I thought something is wrong with me, I am not normal, and it bothered me so much.</p>
<p>It took me such a long time and extensive reading about Maladaptive daydreaming, to finally accept that I am different, and it was my way to cope with stress, to live a luxurious imaginary life I cannot afford in real life, to satisfy my needs.</p>
<p>I read an article about changing bad habits and that the latest what science discovered is that instead of fighting the bad habit, create a good alternative habit and implement it. This piece of information helped me a lot, so instead of focusing on not to daydream, and fighting daydreaming, I started to focus to be connected to reality and present moment (e.g: meditation).</p>
<p>I was not consistent with this, I was supposed to continue with this for 21 days. It is scientifically proven that humans’ brains need 21 days of consistently leaving your comfort zone and implementing the good habit, to finally really establish the good habit. You will no longer need to leave your comfort zone at the end of 21 days.</p>
<p>I tried the 21-day challenge and relapsed twice, I thought about different thing that I am willing to share with you people today. I watched video on you tube and decided to use the most powerful thing we humans have, the unconscious mind, to convince myself that I strong, I can live without daydreaming.</p>
<p>I am going to record myself saying things like: I am connected to reality more than ever, I live in the moment, I am aware and mindful of the present moment…. etc. and put the audio on repeat when I go to bed until I wake up again next morning the audio will still be playing. The idea of the whole thing is that when we go to sleep our conscious mind shuts down and our unconscious mind dominates the most, and this is the perfect time to make it listen to some talk that would help people get rid of something or develop a good habit.</p>
<p>But if you want to try this, you better avoid things like: I will NOT daydream, because your unconscious mind does not comprehend things like (no, not), so if you said I will not daydream, your unconscious mind will translate it to this: I will daydream.</p>
<p>Let me know what do you think below, I would love to read what you people think.</p>
<p> </p> Intro: Only ever had one friend.tag:wildminds.ning.com,2017-01-24:4661400:Topic:2514742017-01-24T00:02:33.643ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>Hi,</p>
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<p>I go by Andi. The last friend I had was in 4th grade I think. I started with MD before then, though, but it was mostly confined to recess at school, and when I was alone at home.</p>
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<p>My friend (we'll call her Eliza) liked to "play" with me, like I was her toy. I remember being confused about the things she wanted to do and talk about, but I went along with them because I enjoyed the attention she gave me, as I had no one else.</p>
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<p>After she left…</p>
<p>Hi,</p>
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<p>I go by Andi. The last friend I had was in 4th grade I think. I started with MD before then, though, but it was mostly confined to recess at school, and when I was alone at home.</p>
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<p>My friend (we'll call her Eliza) liked to "play" with me, like I was her toy. I remember being confused about the things she wanted to do and talk about, but I went along with them because I enjoyed the attention she gave me, as I had no one else.</p>
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<p>After she left for a private school, I withdrew further. That's when it really took off. My mind filled with fascinating people who loved to spend time with me, and over the years, through high school, "my world" grew exponentially. Soon I was there more often than I was "here".</p>
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<p>This is still often the case. I have had trouble holding down a job over the years, have dropped out of school multiple times, and have ruined several potential friendships with people.</p>
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<p>If you can relate, message me. I'd be glad to have someone to talk to who can relate, if we can relate. That seems to be the problem for us.</p>
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<p>-Andi</p> Some helptag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-12-31:4661400:Topic:2499592016-12-31T02:17:08.155ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
There is anyone want to speak with me , I am now in new countary , it is really hard to find friends , since I was child , I have maladaptive daydreaming , now I have no friends and my situation is getting worse everyday , I can speak Arabic , german, englich ...
There is anyone want to speak with me , I am now in new countary , it is really hard to find friends , since I was child , I have maladaptive daydreaming , now I have no friends and my situation is getting worse everyday , I can speak Arabic , german, englich ... Jobstag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-08-14:4661400:Topic:2383292016-08-14T20:56:11.907ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>What type of occupation would suit for people like us ? . I would really like to do a job where communication skills are not much required. Any suggestions</p>
<p>What type of occupation would suit for people like us ? . I would really like to do a job where communication skills are not much required. Any suggestions</p> my llifetag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-06-20:4661400:Topic:2340382016-06-20T22:16:00.581ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>I spent most of my time in my home itself. I try to avoid people as much as i can. I know it is because of my fear and daydreaming problem.But everyone in the society thinks i have a big ego.</p>
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<p>Do u people face the same situation</p>
<p>I spent most of my time in my home itself. I try to avoid people as much as i can. I know it is because of my fear and daydreaming problem.But everyone in the society thinks i have a big ego.</p>
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<p>Do u people face the same situation</p> confusedtag:wildminds.ning.com,2016-06-20:4661400:Topic:2337352016-06-20T22:09:27.921ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>I am confused about what to do in life. I can't get concentration to read or do a work properly My college life is almost over. I don't have friends and the worst part is that everyone makes fun of me. Thinking about my future makes me feel sad.</p>
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<p>I am confused about what to do in life. I can't get concentration to read or do a work properly My college life is almost over. I don't have friends and the worst part is that everyone makes fun of me. Thinking about my future makes me feel sad.</p>
<p></p> I don't feel so alone?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-06-01:4661400:Topic:1837222014-06-01T02:05:50.789ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>is it only me or do you feel a little better knowing that somewhere out there are other dreamers too?</p>
<p>is it only me or do you feel a little better knowing that somewhere out there are other dreamers too?</p> Are You Socially Awkward?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-06-28:4661400:Topic:1457432013-06-28T19:06:40.940ZJenn Taylorhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/JennTaylor
<p>I don't have any friends. I proberly have one but we proberly talk once every year or so. I have tried time and time again to interact with other people but I have found that there is something off about me. I always say the wrong things, or am too shy to speak up in discussions. Online it's fine, I can say what I feel and express myself clearly and confidently. The rejection I get from people just makes me withdraw into myself more and MD like crazy but I know that's not really healthy…</p>
<p>I don't have any friends. I proberly have one but we proberly talk once every year or so. I have tried time and time again to interact with other people but I have found that there is something off about me. I always say the wrong things, or am too shy to speak up in discussions. Online it's fine, I can say what I feel and express myself clearly and confidently. The rejection I get from people just makes me withdraw into myself more and MD like crazy but I know that's not really healthy but I just feel so much happier in my head.</p>
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<p>I know for many people their situation is different. Are you socailly awkward?</p>