Comments - Possibilities... - Wild Minds network2024-03-29T12:04:49Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profiles/comment/feed?attachedTo=4661400%3ABlogPost%3A132471&xn_auth=noDear Lauren,
you just discpri…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-03-26:4661400:Comment:1327282013-03-26T12:11:13.282ZIrishttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Iris
<p>Dear Lauren,</p>
<p>you just discpribed the main reason why we daydream: we fear the world. And the world is like this, unjust, betraying, cruel, but also loving and caring. The secret is to live in this world, even though you know that something bad can and will happen to you and your loved ones. I also went through these fears. I've got three daughters, that I love and wish that nothing bad happens to them, but I can't protect them from life.</p>
<p>But please Lauren, try to see your…</p>
<p>Dear Lauren,</p>
<p>you just discpribed the main reason why we daydream: we fear the world. And the world is like this, unjust, betraying, cruel, but also loving and caring. The secret is to live in this world, even though you know that something bad can and will happen to you and your loved ones. I also went through these fears. I've got three daughters, that I love and wish that nothing bad happens to them, but I can't protect them from life.</p>
<p>But please Lauren, try to see your unreal magical thinking. Your daydreams have nothing to do with the well-being of your family! Good and bad will happen to them whether you are daydreaming or not. If you stop daydreaming and something bad happens to your family it is not your fault!</p>
<p>Be kind and friendly to yourself - you have suffered enough, don't be the next, who is cruel to you.</p> I think its very admirable th…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-03-26:4661400:Comment:1326332013-03-26T04:42:48.572ZSky with Diamondshttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/SkyD
<p>I think its very admirable that your dreams are about how the world should be different. Mine are much more selfish, theyre all about how i wish my life were different. Sometimes i pitcure a stuation that is actually much worse than my reality, but i am able to handle and overcome them. I can totally relate to the fear of having this forever. That scares me the most. I first developed that fear as a very young child. And we can be each others motivators. Its probably the best any of us have,…</p>
<p>I think its very admirable that your dreams are about how the world should be different. Mine are much more selfish, theyre all about how i wish my life were different. Sometimes i pitcure a stuation that is actually much worse than my reality, but i am able to handle and overcome them. I can totally relate to the fear of having this forever. That scares me the most. I first developed that fear as a very young child. And we can be each others motivators. Its probably the best any of us have, being able to talk to people that go through our unique problems. as far as being secretive goes, thats something everyone can relate to. But I guess the old saying is true; youre only as sick as your darkest secrets.</p> Thanks, Pascale. I'm also the…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-03-25:4661400:Comment:1322952013-03-25T10:36:16.595ZLauren Mhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/LaurenM
<p>Thanks, Pascale. I'm also the youngest of 3 girls. I had a rough time establishing self-esteem prior to developing MD. My siblings were always stronger than me. I learned to accept the position of "underdog" early on because when I was defensive or stood up for myself, it would be met with verbal attacks from my siblings, which always led to physical fights which I always lost-and they were always the judges of these fights. So, I stopped desiring to be an aggressive girl. Sometimes I just…</p>
<p>Thanks, Pascale. I'm also the youngest of 3 girls. I had a rough time establishing self-esteem prior to developing MD. My siblings were always stronger than me. I learned to accept the position of "underdog" early on because when I was defensive or stood up for myself, it would be met with verbal attacks from my siblings, which always led to physical fights which I always lost-and they were always the judges of these fights. So, I stopped desiring to be an aggressive girl. Sometimes I just feel so weak. I feel horrible that I've never won a fight. It makes me feel like the worst person in the world. I don't understand why I became their target. Even at school, I was the target of students who were losers themselves. It's as if people knew I would make good sport for bullying. I think I developed a bit of Stockholm syndrome along the way, but deep down inside I know they're wrong for mistreating me. In my daydreams, harm always comes to them. So, it's clear that I want revenge when daydreaming. In real life it's not so clear. I become submissive because I don't want to interrupt their lives.</p> I understand exactely what yo…tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-03-25:4661400:Comment:1324832013-03-25T09:16:06.467ZPascalehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Pascale
<p>I understand exactely what you mean. Yet some years ago I just began to turn everything the other way. Waiting for world to change is the most stupid thing you can do. The word needs change makers and if you don't choose to be one why will you wait for anybody else to be.</p>
<p>I guess you are not Jesus or Supermann, neither am I, so we are not going to save the wold, that do not mean we cannot make a difference.</p>
<p>Today I stoped to minutes at the homless lady at the corner of the…</p>
<p>I understand exactely what you mean. Yet some years ago I just began to turn everything the other way. Waiting for world to change is the most stupid thing you can do. The word needs change makers and if you don't choose to be one why will you wait for anybody else to be.</p>
<p>I guess you are not Jesus or Supermann, neither am I, so we are not going to save the wold, that do not mean we cannot make a difference.</p>
<p>Today I stoped to minutes at the homless lady at the corner of the street. She is just happy when I am passing because I just smile and say hello. Most often I do not give her money but I smile to her. And I just feel a complete stranger is just happy I'm existing. In my DD I could certainly help her getting a job and a home but my DD are not helping her, my smile does.</p>
<p>My motivation is my faith, faith in God but also faith in human beeing. Most people are good people and socity exist because we are so good at helping each other. In evry war and catastrophy survivors are telling stories of friendship and people risking their life to help other.</p>
<p>Evil exists, but if evil was the most important the human race could not survive.</p>
<p>By the way you have to begin by stoping to beat yourself. You do not deserve <span class="hps alt-edited">punishment</span> for DD. If not you but another person would tell you about his/her daydreaming would you criticise or would you be suportive? Be you own friend. If a good person like you does realise her full potential only good thinks can results.</p>
<p>I know about the feer of flying, I call it martyr complex. That beliving at your suffering makes the wold better. Mine is coming from me beeing my parents third girl, in less than three year. Wrong time and wrong sex, but my parents loved me anyway, quite confusing. Where does yours come from?</p>
<p>Its unselfish giving that makes the wold a better place not suffering. That some people are able to give their life can be quite inspiring. Anyway the smile you can give today is the most important.</p>