Wild Minds Network: Helping or Hindering?

[LJ]

Hey all my fellow DDers: Does this site help or hinder?  I am conflicted.  I want to stop but, not really.  I hate missing life and feeling unfulfilled, yet I love the escape of real life dding gives me. 

Such conflicting emotions: guilt, confusion and frustration.  I feel like my life is never really one way or the other.  Just a jumble of ups and downs. 

DDing has become some sort of therapy for when everything that is "real" is out of control, it is the one thing I can control.

Some of the blogs on this site help to encourage me to stop while others move me to continue.

Today I am a complete mess! DDing all day then getting frustrated 'cause my "real life" sucks: TODAY.

 

Let me know your thoughts.

[CreativeWriter]

@Iris-I love they way you think. The most beautiful poetic statement, 'I see a big difference between being creative and being forced into a fantasy-world.' That is prophetic and deep. I love seeing others perspectives on MD and how they DD. I never thought of it this way. This site helps to open my eyes to others experience so I can see my own in a different light.

[CreativeWriter]

We each have our own experience with MD. It seems like a fingerprint. We have it and it is unique. This site has helped me tremendously. It has helped because I now know I am not alone, I'm not crazy, I'm not the only person having this experience and the blogs, and discussions, and inboxing makes me feel better because I can identify and know what is going on. I understand and others here understand me. Its a welcoming revelation. As far as stopping. I've tried and found myself wondering what to do. It seemed like nothingness and at the same time when I let it go I know i'm not experiencing the full life I could be. I seems to me that we can have an option that others do not. If there was a way to keep it when we need it and stop it when we don't, then maybe it would work better? I'm not sure.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

Personally, I've found (recently) that DDing seems to be a way of processing emotion, and maybe processing information, too, so going by that I probably shouldn't stop, but I do want more control over it. I want to be able to not DD if I need to do something uninteresting, but not only do I enjoy it, I also need to process things properly.

So the third option, which you didn't post, is to just get it under control. Personally, I think that would be what you should do, but it's your decision what you decide.

[RexFeral]

*this site not sutebis. Sorry, tablet typo...

[RexFeral]

I think that the sutebis what you make it. It can be a hinderance if you are already confused and don't know what you what you want. It can also be a hinderance if you are the type of person that overthinks everything and are easily swayed by others opinions. The truth of the matter is that you have to do what is best for you. If DDing is an issue for you, then you should work in fixing it but if it's not, then just live with it. Life sucks for a lot of people. Many times are lives are boring, full of problems, etc. This is normal for everyone. We have to learn to cope with it. You should look into other issues going on in your life and emotional health, other than DDing, to try and get to the root of your problem.

[Anette Lesley]

@LJ I can sign everything you said, especially "DDing has become some sort of therapy for when everything that is "real" is out of control, it is the one thing I can control".

So i' not really trying to stop it anymore. This site helped (and surprised me) in a way that I'm not the only one doing this, I think all of us thought that at one point. If someone has a nice (real) life, like supporting parents, friends, satisfying job/career... I understand that they want to get out of their heads and fully experience all that they have, but what about those whose story is completely the opposite? and it's not dd to blame, just life circumstances... some situations are complicated and stopping dd would't change much.

I'm using DD as coping device/to entertain myself/to experience things that I crave about, which otherwise I would never experience. Coming to this site comforts me, knowing that many of us are in the same boat and that we can support each other if needed.

[Iris]

The day I found this site, is one of the most important days of my life. I was dding for nearly 40 years, nearly everyday, always thinking I am a freak, having these not-existing people and this not-existing world in my head. I felt guilty dding, and thought it is my own fault, that I don't have my thoughts under control. What a relief it is to know, I am not the only one. It also helps me, feeling less guilty when dding.

I come to this site everyday, because I am so happy about it.

I still dd, less, but I still do. On frustrating days we need comfort, and this is what we are used to do to get comfort: dding. The real life alternative would be to talk with friends about our problems.

I know, that on this website some people really enjoy their dd, I don't. This doesn't mean, that I don't like creativity, like painting and story-writing. But for me I see a big difference between being creative and being forced into a fantasy-world.