Why every girl have to look beautiful?

[Samidha]

  I am more profession oriented. I always want to work hard to create something new innovative, because for me, we get only one life time to do something great. I want to serve whole mankind through my knowledge, I even don't have desire to marry. Because, I don't think so in such Indian culture where girls are like show-piece or man wants a wife to look after his family and do house work and raise his kids, I barely fit!

  I have planned to adopt kids and raise them, while doing my work. Because my parents don't like me to work that much. Every time they said- "Have some good hair cut. Do this. Do that. Speak like girl. Who will marry you; if you are going to keep short hairs... blah.. blah..."

  Every time society comes in between conversation. I really don't know what to do? I have completed my education with great struggle. Where the hell was this society, when I was in need? Family and society speak only when they think you are doing progress, achieving heights!

  Why my parents don't understand, I am not like ordinary girls who has interest in shopping, taking hair-cut, doing new hair-style, talking gossips, watching stupid daily soaps or playing badminton. Instead I love adventure, hiking high in hill, doing meditation, knowing something which will help me in my profession. Not wasting time in doing hair-style; but spending time with friends, helping them. Watching animated movies and learning new ethics, giving scope to a child within me to laugh loud.

  There is no gender to soul which exists within us; then why one have to stay within limits, though one can go beyond limits, can sense what it meant to be nothing? Please help me out. I know I am sensitive like woman who can understand feelings very well; but at same time courageous and practical to judge situation and act accordingly, and that's why I use my time more efficiently.

 But for my parents, being beautiful is important than my work and knowledge.

[Raz]

Society in general wants women to believe that marriage  is the biggest and ONLY thing in their lives while for men marriage is just a part of their lives. It's a stupid idea that prevents women from following their dreams or even working sometimes. Don't loose track of what you really want to do. Marriage is just another part of life, it's not everything.

[Samidha]

Thanks, guys. Even from many years I am ignoring all these.  I have no plans to marry; but I believe for every woman there is man, who understand her and loves her unconditionally. Well, he must be very wise and mature for that; but I will like to wait for my Ferrari instead of buying ford, bcz I have to buy a car or I won't at all.

[taffle]

I feel the same way too. I have no desire to get a boyfriend, put on makeup (unless to cover up pimples), gossip, or look at the mirror all day. I don't need a man to feel confident and happy about myself. I also do meditation, yoga, pursuing spirituality in general. You should not feel ashamed of who you are. There are many different types of women out there - some are beautiful, some are strong, some are smart, etc. Each one of us have our strengths. We should celebrate our differences.

[KwanKwan]

Dont change who you are. You sound like an awesome person, in my opinion! Sometimes people think they know whats best for others when they actually don't. So they instead try to force their ideas and beliefs down our throats.

Ignore them.

[Anette Lesley]

Most women are trained to be that way. By their parents, society, media... To fit the certain role in life. Once you are programmed like that from an early age it's difficult to reprogram. I guess you managed to avoid that. And that's good...from my point of view. You can continue to be yourself, which is difficult because if you don't fit into certain mold, everyone gives you a hard time, trying to straighten you up. Or you can just give in and go with the flow. I vote for being yourself.