Where wild minds come to rest
I'm a 46 yo divorced single mom of 2 kids. My marriage was the first relationship with a man that I ever had. A year and a half ago, I started dating a guy (again), (long story there), and it was going great! We get along so well, have so many of the same interests, viewpoints, opinions, etc. We never fought (though he thought I should lose my love handles...even though I lift and run 5 miles several times/week)...so my boyfriend was the 2nd relationship I ever had. On Valentines Day, he broke up with me via email. I'm in so much pain right now. I really love him and care for him so much, this is just devastating. I just started a new job, and for it, I have to leave my kids for 13 weeks of training...going down on Sunday nights and coming back Friday nights. That's going to be really hard the way it is, and I have to pass the training in order to keep my new job. Can we say stress????
He says I'm the most decent person he ever had a relationship with. We live 50 miles apart (but my new job site is 20 miles closer to his house than my old job site), so we were only able to see each other 1 or 2 times/week. Hard to grow a relationship that way. He's kind of a loner, and never had kids...said he can't relate to them...but, he liked me and decided to give it a try. He said the reason was he felt he didn't have feelings for me anymore and the kid thing was part of it. We are so much alike, I really feel he is the one for me. I felt it right from the beginning. Now, he says he wants to remain friends and still do things together, because we get along so well...and maybe by doing so, we can sort things out.
I've considered just turning him into a DD and having a relationship with him that way...so, that he doesn't leave me and I can live happily ever after...and him as a DD would accept me for who I am, with the love handles. But, I'm torn between that and having the real thing.
Everyone is telling me to cut him loose...I have basically no experience with relationships, but I know other couples sometimes break up then get back together. I guess I am hoping someone would tell me to fight for him.
What should I do?