Where wild minds come to rest
An unbreakup happens when one makes a final, hopefully lasting, decision to get over someone they never dated, once and for all. I un-broke up with my crush around six weeks ago and have definitely improved since.
If I were to reduce my feelings for my crush into percentage points, my feelings were at 100% about a year ago, last winter. They fluctuated around 70-90% in the spring, summer and fall and definitely remained an obsession.
Now, I'd say my feelings for my crush are around 35%. I still think about him but noticeably less frequently. When I'm busy doing something else, or even thinking about something else, I'll occasionally get a thought such as "wow, I sure haven't been thinking about 'them' very much" and feel like I've achieved something. I find the best thing to do is to find more real life interests and other people to talk to that distract from the salience of the obsession and make him less important. That said my feelings will probably not get to 0% until I develop feelings for someone else, and even then the feelings sometimes stay at around 10%.
I also feel that when I do think of him, it is with a lot less emotion than previously.
When I was going through the unbreakup (i.e. making the decision to stop being obsessed with my crush) I wrote an unbreakup plan which detailed the unhealthy thoughts, feelings and behaviours which came from the obsession, such as:
-anxiously checking to see if he's been online (and analyzing certain patterns);
-getting irritated when other people show an interest in me;
-disliking class and other situations because they have nothing to do with my crush;
-feeling comforted by thoughts of my crush when I'm in situations such as the above;
Instead: whenever I find myself thinking about my crush, I will become aware of it, that it is bad, and distract myself with something else!
As of the time I am writing this, I have mostly stopped the above behaviours. I have noticed when I start to think about him, realize the thoughts are pointless and obsessive and unhealthy, and now I find it easy and automatic to begin thinking of or doing something else instead.
Thus I found the key is to be more self-aware, to notice one's thoughts and feelings as they come up and to think rationally that they are there to fill a void that can be filled with something much more positive and productive.