How it destroys my life and how i find a solution.

[Ram]

It started when i was a child the boring classrooms and very less friends ignited this daydreaming addiction . But this is not the reason for this addiction as my father and my brother also have this. The reason for it is so clear my father have this so genetically it's passes to me but only the caliber to daydream comes not the addiction i my self generated this addiction in the boring classrooms and with less no friends at that time i don't when it was started .It didn't affected me when i was a child but as i grow up it becomes more and more addictive taking my whole time. As a result following consequences happened

* Less number of marks in academics.
* Less concentration in classes.
* My whole career putted at stake because of this .
* This thing ruined my whole life.

If you have serious goals in life then it is a big problem. But as i realized this addiction .
I tried my best to control this and found a single solution to thos addiction.

The solution is simple
DON'T DAYDREAM . STOP THIS EVERY TIME WHEN IT COMES. IT IS TOO DIFFICULT TO STOP THIS . ONLY STRONG MOTIVATION AND STONG WILL POWER STOP THIS .BY STOPPING MANY TIMES YOU'LL BE LESS ADDICTIVE THEN PREVIOUS . AND BY THIS FOR A YEAR IT BECOMES SO LESS THAT IT CAN'T DISTURB YOU.

BUT YOU HAVE TO SWARE THIS

FROM NOW I WILL NOT FANTASIZE AND LIVE IN MY REALITY WHAT EVER IT MAY BE I'WILL IMPROVE REALITY BY DOING HARDWORK NOT BY DAYDREAMING.

one thing i would like to state here that my MDD addiction WAS NOT STARTED BY ANY
TRAUMATIC EVENT.

[DebbieP.]

YES, spot on!  MDD is an addiction, just like smoking, drinking or overeating.  The more we do - the more we want to do.  And some of us are more prone to addictive behaviors.  My father was an alcoholic.  I could very easily have become that but instead started DDing at a very young age.  My life has been wasted.  There is no upside to MDD - I don't care how 'creative' people think they become.  Living in your fantasy world as opposed to real life is a wasted life.  What have we accomplished?  Nothing.  Good post.

[Observer]

This is very good writing i also hated it it ruined my life, it is not good to dream and forget to live.

[Ulaan Gom]

I agree that MD can be very addictive and destructive towards our real lives. MD is addictive because daydreams create pleasurable sensations and often cover up less than ideal situations in real life. However, we can take steps to eventually overcome MD. Like you said, the more we stop ourselves from MDing, the less strong our MD addiction becomes. I think it's especially important for us to have high goals in life and determine daily actions we can take to eventually achieve those goals. We'll have to work hard, but eventually, we need to believe that one day, MD will no longer be part of our lives. We need to have a reason for action that takes us beyond the pain of facing MD, and work on developing a more positive view of ourselves. Change is possible, but it'll take much patience, persistance, and positivity. I encourage you to look into a technique called urge surfing, as it can be used to control cravings, urges, and even daydreams.

Urge surfing introduction: http://www.choosehelp.com/topics/recovery/cravings-mindfulness-urge...

Good luck!