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     I have been a maladaptive daydreamer my whole life...or ever since I could remember. But honestly, I don't remember much. I have close to zero recollection of my childhood. I don't remember last week hardly at all. I have wonderful short term memory, kinda. I remember important things like eating, sleeping, and going to school. But I don't have any memory of little things. I will set my phone down and walk away, I come back in a frantic search to find my phone because I don't remember where I put it.

     I don't have any inspiring words of how you can "overcome" it this time. Sorry, but I want your responses. Does anyone else have the worst memory? If so, do you have a story to tell? I'd love to hear it.

Anyways, I do have a theory (some habits don't change). I believe that since we have to remember two lives and have one brain, we subconsciously choose to forget the real world to leave room to remember our beloved fantasy world. This makes sense to me because I can clearly remember nearly all my daydreams, but I don't hardly remember the real world.

     I want your opinion. Does the same thing happen to you? Does it make sense? It's just a theory, but there might be some truth behind it.

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Comment by Jessica Ballantyne on May 23, 2017 at 2:57pm

I go for lots of walks, such as to the mall or a store, but then I'll walk home in a daze. Yes, I have had situations where I placed a pot of coffee, a book or my phone somewhere, but then forgot where, like maybe 5 seconds later! And why so? You name it! It is because I DD too much of the time. My mom even mentions that I won't notices something in the kitchen, like a boiling pot on the stove. When I eat there, I'm always so zoned out while watching a TV program.

People have contradicted that I am very 'deaf' 'cause they noticed words can 'run from one ear out the other.'
I live a present life where I have to listen hard, otherwise, people will berate me or wonder where I was just now.
I still live with my family and have worked in lots of onsite jobs, so yes, I often got these reactions. Often, the words they said hurt or burn, because they couldn't have understood how different I was. One time my father blew in my face because I wasn't watching a simple method while checking up on swimming pool air current ventilation.

Comment by MatthewR on May 23, 2017 at 12:25am

Yes, I agree. I keep drifting into a fantasy that drains me of energy i could be spending in real life. My memory is also terrible, and i often find myself double-checking, triple-checking simple things because i can't remember the details. I struggle with naming things and finding the right words to speak. Idk why...I just draw a blank and can't remember. I'm also taken aback by how little i can remember of the past few years. It all seems blurry to me...what was i doing? What did i accomplish? It's a bit terrifying actually.  

Comment by Eretaia on May 21, 2017 at 2:27pm

People remember feelings. No feelings, no memories. 

Comment by Source on May 21, 2017 at 10:53am

In order to remember something, you need to actually give a damn about it. If you don't, you'll forget. Can't help but wonder how many times people have complained about me not remembering what they told me, with the reason ultimately being a rephrasing of "I remembered it as long as I felt I needed to". If we stuffed our head with every single detail of everything that happened, our skulls would blow up.

Then of course you have MDD, which makes for a disturbingly exacerbated case of that. We retreat into the dream world because for one reason or the other we want nothing to do with the real one. Why the hell should I give a flying kek (and thus remember stuff) about a world I'd sooner see off the table? And so years feel like seconds when you look back at them. The distorted, nonlinear timeline of the dream world certainly doesn't help with that, either.

Comment by Joshua Wayne on May 21, 2017 at 8:24am
I'm 28 years old and just finally figured out rumination and manipulative daydreaming fit me. I always knew I was different just didn't know what it was. My memory is terrible as well. Lose my phone, keys, wallet. Tools. All kinds of things. Due to not paying attention while I'm doing things also while I'm talking to myself in my mind.

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