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Now that we've had some time to think about this & discuss it, let's start creating a plan to help.  Let's try and make a list that we can refer to & refer others to.  Here's my question:


What helps? 


Not just what helps you stop daydreaming.  This is a condition we need to learn to live with. 


What helps in any way possible?  Interpret that in every way possible, and be as specific as possible. 

Some ways you can think of it:


What helps make your life better?

What helps you feel like you’re living a more fulfilling life?

What helps you feel like you’re in control?

What helps you daydream less & what helps you daydream more?

What makes your daydreams more productive?

What makes your daydreams feel less productive?

When do you leave your daydreams feeling better & more charged?

What makes them leave you feeling more sluggish?

What helps you feel stronger?

What helps you feel safer?

What helps you feel more confident?


Let’s act like we’re compiling a list of things to tell new people who’re just figuring out they’re going through this & are not sure what to do.  What advice would you give them to help them feel more empowered?

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Church and friends help make my life better

Spending time working with people makes my life more fulfilling

Being able to spend a whole week without daydreaming makes me feel in control

Spending time around people I feel safe with helps me daydream less, spending time in a bad situation makes me daydream more.

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When I spend a lot of time in my daydreams, and not doing things I should

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My God makes me feel stronger

My friends make me feel safer

Knowing what I'm here for makes me feel more confident

I have seen OCD medications seem to work. Look into possibly taking Prozac which is what I'm taking. Also look into adderall or Ritalin. In addition to that frequent and daily exercise is also applied. Hope this helps





deborah clarke said:

I wonder if anyone has had this experience,i have been a MD sufferer all my life,when i self diagnosis-ed it i was able to stop. For two years, now after the break up of my marriage i am back doing  it all the time, fantasy planning the whole thing. I cant move on but like an addiction i cant quit .any suggestions

In my dreams I am blonde. blue eyed and beautiful. One day in real life I caught myself in a mirror with my reddish hair and brown eyes and decided that I can never be the beautiful popular woman of my dreams but my real hair is shiny and my eyes are dark and pretty. I have a husband who tells me I'm beautiful so it's no cure but at least part time it's ok to be me. It varies but the other woman is always with me as a shield from reality. I find staying engaged with life helps as I can isolate so easily.

1. What helps make your life better?

     achieving something for real. unlike my dreams

2. What helps you feel like you're living a more fulfilling life?
     sometimes when i daydream i talk to myself in my day dreams and i ask myself what i really want from life. and when i try to achieve them i feel fulfilled
 
3. What helps you feel like you're in control?
 talking to my ocd and accepting it as a part me that wants to help me.
4. What helps you daydream less&what helps you daydream more?
day dream less being busy and productive and concentrating on work i like. day dream more anxiety and things i want really badly but have no control over.
 
5. What makes your daydreams feel less productive?
when i m sad and and don't feel like feeling anything any more

6. What makes your daydreams fell more productive?
when my head is full of ideas or as coldplay puts it a head full of dreams
7. When do you leave your daydreams feeling better & more charged?
when i m the hero in them and have done something really great.
8. What makes them leave you feeling more sluggish?
again its very emotion driven so if i m in a sad mood and my thoughts are all scattered it wont go well for me
9. What helps you fell safer?
being in the known and in control of my outcomes

10. What helps you feel more confident?
playing to my strengths helps me be more confident

What helps? Right now I feel as if I have a lack of a support system that could be able to help me with exactly what I need. So, I just accept that things will be as they are and have low expectations.

What helps in any way possible? hobbies.

What helps make your life better? family.

What helps you feel like you're living a more fulfilling life? When I accomplish a task.

What helps you feel like you're in control? A mask by putting on makeup and when I clean things up.

What helps you daydream less? When I understand that there's a difference between my dreams and the possibility of achieving them in reality.

What helps you daydream more? When I think I can get what I want.

What makes your daydreams more productive? When I let go completely and don't care what anyone else thinks.

When do you leave your daydreams feeling better & more charged? When I feel as if I haven't been a slacker or if I come up with an idea that is odd or insightful.

What makes them leave you feeling more sluggish? When I know that they are impossible dreams.

What helps you feel stronger? Eating right, makeup, talking to friends or family

What helps you feel safer? Shutting off listening to people who cause pain and being able to hide from them.

What helps you feel more confident? Being able to hide.

Hi

What helps me  - I'm working out every other day. Sometimes, I work out twice a day. I'm MDD-ing to get to my classes. But, once I'm there (and after I work out) I'm very present. I have to be present to get the dance routine memorized, or do the next set of exercises.

Family - does not help. They're the reason I MDD.

I'm trying to write a novel. I've been told I have a gift for character's conversation. (I wish I'd do more writing.)

I feel accomplishing a few tasks helps me to feel more fulfilled.

My therapist (who's researching MDD) helping me find "myself". I'm learning to "get to know my wants/needs". I have small moments during the day in which I'm grateful. I actually fell happy in reality. (work in progress)

Control? I feel control when I accomplish a task from my daily lists for the day.

I MDD when I'm disappointed, lonely and feeling sorry for myself. Once I isolate, I start daydreaming. I'm tired of dealing with "emotional vampires". They exhaust me. But, I deal with them anyway. I try to put up my "boundaries" which get pushed. So, if I feel like a failure in dealing with a "vampire" when I don't want to, I start daydreaming. If I feel like a "vampire" has crossed my boundary, I start daydreaming.

I feel strong when I'm learning something new or listening to a conversation between people. I keep myself hidden.

I also feel super strong on the days when I make mistakes and learn to have compassion for myself.

Anyway, that's my experience.

Thank you

What helps make your life better?


IDK

What helps you feel like you’re living a more fulfilling life?

IDK

What helps you feel like you’re in control?

Therapy kind of helps. Recognizing that I can coordinate the way that others to interact with me. 

What helps you daydream less & what helps you daydream more?


Daydream Less: I believe that creating DIY projects, making art, etc helps relieve my daydreaming because I'm manifesting all of that creative energy into something real. 

Daydream More: Stressful situations like confrontations, driving, going to the store trigger unwanted daydreams. Sometimes I get an itch to listen to music so I can daydream at my own leisure. 

What makes your daydreams more productive?

I think there are many ways to perceive this question. I am perceiving this as, "What about your daydreams makes you feel fulfilled?" 

I often daydream to plan out social interactions that I will have in the future. I would not have the confidence to carry out some conversations if I did not go through this rehearsal process. It makes me feel fulfilled when I can practice the conversation prior to the actual conversation and leave the actual conversation feeling as if I conducted myself well. 

What makes your daydreams feel less productive?

I think there are many ways to perceive this question. I am perceiving this as, "What about your daydreams makes you feel unfulfilled?" 

I often feel unfulfilled when I catch myself in a daydream and realize that I'm 1) wasting my time 2) imagining an interaction that will probably never happen because 3) this daydream interaction is serving as a replacement for a real human interaction. 

When do you leave your daydreams feeling better & more charged? 

1) If someone interrupts me in the middle of an "idealistic/happy/upbeat" daydream. 

2) If I feel that the daydream is "going my way." For example, if the archetypal versions of the people from my real life are responding well to the archetypal version of me.

What makes them leave you feeling more sluggish?

Intrusive, painful, unwanted thoughts or reminders about people that I wish I had better relationships with. 

What helps you feel stronger?


IDK

What helps you feel safer?

IDK

What helps you feel more confident?

IDK

 

antipsychotics stops my daydreams completely , but they leave me depressed...so i do meditation to deal with depression..transcendal meditation almost whole day ..that sums it up

What helps in any way possible? Interpret that in every way possible, and be as specific as possible.
Some ways you can think of it:
(Hi guys. Sorry if my speech is confusing or disorganized. It's difficult for me to write.) One thing that I did was make a playlist with MDD-triggering music. When I do something like chores, I listen to this playlist. Instead of replaying the same daydreams that these songs trigger, I try to replace the daydreams with different thoughts. Or focus on what I'm doing. I did this for a while. Eventually, I became more desensitized to the songs' triggering effects. So I'm happy that it worked :D

However I still have other addictive daydreams that are unrelated to songs.
At the same time, when I listen to the playlist, and experience addictive daydreams, I journal about it. I write about the contents of my daydream, why they are addictive / hard to let go of, and if I would be happier to live without them. I write about what I want in life without MDD.
And also, I find jogging outside for 10-20 minutes to be a great way to temporarily boost your mood and energy. A depressed mood and fatigue often trigger MDD for me and probably other people as well, so running is a good way to fight against it.


What helps make your life better?
It's kind of hard to answer because I'm pretty sure that I have depression. Caffeine and food are usually the only things that make me happy. Other things that make me happy are success. When I get a good assignment or test grade, it makes me happy. When I finish reading a book, stay focused, and am able to remember the details, that feels like an accomplishment to me. And again, physical activity helps me feel less empty and tired.


What helps you feel like you’re living a more fulfilling life?
Successfully completing tasks, reaching goals, and having friends whom I genuinely get along with. However, this rarely happens.


What helps you feel like you’re in control?
I am usually out-of-control.


What helps you daydream less & what helps you daydream more?
Studying in a public place helps me daydream less because other people could notice you staring into space. Experiencing new situations also seems to lessen the daydreams. For example, when I first moved to live independently, I daydreamed less during the first few weeks because I had to focus on adapting to a new location. One other thing is the ritalin medication. It would temporarily lessen my daydreams until the dosage stopped working on me. (I eventually quit the medication because it wasn't really helping for ADHD and I had strong side effects.)

Things that help me daydream more are being tired or unmotivated. When I have difficult or complicated tasks to do, I procrastinate by daydreaming.

What makes your daydreams more productive?
I USED to believe that my daydreams were productive, because I wanted to write a novel, and people praised me for my imagination. However, after many failed attempts to write a novel, I realized a few things. One is that DDing brings more consequences than benefits and that great imaginations are not 'gifts' / 'talents' when they become addictions.


What makes your daydreams feel less productive?
When I realize that I waste time instead of accomplishing things. And that the daydreams will never amount to anything.


When do you leave your daydreams feeling better & more charged?
Sometimes I feel charged after daydreaming about characters singing and dancing to energetic songs, as if I'm listening to the songs for real.


What makes them leave you feeling more sluggish?
Here is one thing I notice about me waking up. ***probably TMI*** Nearly every single day, when I try to get out of bed, I end up laying in bed for a while. And while I lay in bed, I addictively daydream about sex (gross I know). When I get out of bed, I feel absolutely sluggish. Not a good way to start mornings.


What helps you feel stronger?
Knowing that I'm still healthy and young.


What helps you feel safer?
Besides having basic needs met (shelter, food, clothes, blah blah blah) I don't really trust myself or anyone else. So I feel kind of 'unsafe.'

What helps you feel more confident?
Running, success, and drinking coffee. However, I usually lack self-confidence

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