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Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it?


This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.

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I didn't tell anyone for a long time, simply because I didn't know that it was a notable thing. I knew that I daydreamed way more often than other people but I didn't think all that much of it it was just a normal part of my life. I didn't talk about daydreams any more than I talked about sleeping dreams, I figured no one would want to hear about it.

As soon as I found out about MD I told basically everyone in my social circle about it. I wanted to weigh my experiences with daydreaming against mine because it honestly blew my mind how different my daydreaming habits were from the norm.  I don't really share much of my personal life with my family, so I don't talk to them about it but all my friends know. I used to share my daydreams with my ex all the time, but I don't really share content with anyone else.

I do find it relieving to tell people after I get over the initial fear of judgement.

I have never told anyone, but I'm planning to tell my therapist tomorrow. I'm very nervous! I'll update you on how it goes.

I've only told some internet friends of mine about the extent of my daydreaming. I don't think I've ever told anyone about it IRL. Most people seem to think daydreaming is something you do as a kid and then more or less grow out of. I think people would be judgmental if they knew how much I daydream. I think there would probably be too many questions about the content of my daydreams anyway, or people lecturing me about stopping it and living in the moment, or trying to police me if they think I'm daydreaming. I'd rather just keep it to myself or discuss it with others who can relate.

I did eventually tell my mom because I was talking about how difficult my depression was for so many years and how the only way I made it though was through this kind of intense daydreaming. I described it as elaborate fantasies/dreams that I can spend hours wrapped up in. I called it "going into my head." Like, when things get tough, I just go into my head. 

I never gave many details about it until one day I saw someone online describe something they called Maladaptive Daydreaming, so I looked it up and found the Wiki on it. 

I was so excited to see that what I had been doing had a name, that I immediately told my mom, "You know that thing I do, where I go into my head? It actually has a name!"

I'm really close to my mom though, so it wasn't too difficult for me to tell her. 

I promised an update, but I didn't tell my therapist.

General Foolishness said:

I have never told anyone, but I'm planning to tell my therapist tomorrow. I'm very nervous! I'll update you on how it goes.

I've never told anyone, as a 17-year-old with little confidence or a good relationship with my parents, I haven't been able to tell anyone yet. When I got to uni in September I'm going to see a therapist and then see what to do.

I had to tell my family and roommate because I have e a habit of pacing round in the biggest room.

They try not to say anything but when they do they think its a problem.

Jessica Ballantyne - How do you mean?

I have recently confessed the full extent of my problems, from severe depression and isolation to the coping mechanism of extreme MD, to my mother and my 3 closest friends.

I have suffered for 25 years and now, at 31 I finally had to tell them.

I am angry at myself for waiting that long out of fear of being labelled crazy and unstable.

But discovering this page 2 years ago and seeing that I am not alone, that it is real, and that there are ways, even though they may be painful and take a long time, through which I can learn to cope, has given me the strength to come out of the closet.

And I am so glad I did tell them. Because even though they don't completely understand, at least I don't have to suffer in silence anymore. When I am having a bad episode and feel that dreaded complete break with reality I call my friend and just tell her what's going on. Even though she can't help me much, telling somebody is acknowledging the problem instead of hiding from it. And acknowledging it is the first step to beating it!

I would advice to be careful who you tell, but tell somebody you trust. It will at first be the most awkward conversation ever, but if they love you they will listen and you will feel so relieved. One of the ways I told them was to send them some articles on MD and a link to this page by email. My friends read the material, thought about it and THEN we spoke about it face to face. It helped them get an understanding of what's going on without me having to lay bare my innermost fantasies right away. And when I feel uncomfortable to expose the full topics of those fantasies I can say 'I don't feel comfortable to go into that much detail at this point'. You have the right to reveal as much as you want and keep some things hidden at first if it feels better.

Your choice.

my family know about it but they ignore it. It kept secret for friends, relatives.

No not a soul outside this place. I don't think people would understand and think it was something I ought to change.

I'm very private and had a fear as a teen that people could read my mind and know about my day dreaming.

I must have said thinks out loud as a teen as some cruel kids shouted names and details they could not possibly know. 

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