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Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it?
This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.
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I've told my girlfriend and some psychologists. I don't like disclosing the details of my fantasies. I told my girlfriend about some and I could tell by her replies that she didn't understand it completely. I wasn't mad or anything, but for some reason I felt terrible for not conveying it correctly. I wrote one down, but I didn't do a good job (everything was very convoluted) it sickens me to read it.
She's very understanding about it (she has body dismorphic disorder so she knows what mental flaws are like), but she thinks I daydream because reality (and by association her) isn't good enough. She knows when I drift away and it hurts her feelings a lot.
Poor thing! Well, just like understanding her own condition, she should really try & understand this one. I can't pay attention for more than a few seconds without drifting off. It doesn't matter who I'm with or what I'm doing. I hope she can learn to take this to heart.
Travis Malmin said:She's very understanding about it (she has body dismorphic disorder so she knows what mental flaws are like), but she thinks I daydream because reality (and by association her) isn't good enough. She knows when I drift away and it hurts her feelings a lot.
Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:Poor thing! Well, just like understanding her own condition, she should really try & understand this one. I can't pay attention for more than a few seconds without drifting off. It doesn't matter who I'm with or what I'm doing. I hope she can learn to take this to heart.
Travis Malmin said:She's very understanding about it (she has body dismorphic disorder so she knows what mental flaws are like), but she thinks I daydream because reality (and by association her) isn't good enough. She knows when I drift away and it hurts her feelings a lot.
I've not told anyone until this last week. I mentioned it to my brother, he did not respond really. Our Oldest brother has a problem with excessive gaming, we (think,) and is unaware that there is a difference between what he makes up, and what is real. THAT is an interesting topic in itself. I did set a phone appointment with a counciler I've been to before (for other issues) and mentioned that she might want to do google 'Maladaptive Daydreaming,' and to particularly make note of Dr. Schupak's abstract on the subject before our session. She seemed interested. She's a lady I've come to trust, and hoping she 'does her homework' (!) I think it might be an interesting subject.
Like so many here, I've not wanted to share this with others, as there is so much trust involved.
Michael Gibson said:Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:Poor thing! Well, just like understanding her own condition, she should really try & understand this one. I can't pay attention for more than a few seconds without drifting off. It doesn't matter who I'm with or what I'm doing. I hope she can learn to take this to heart.
Travis Malmin said:She's very understanding about it (she has body dismorphic disorder so she knows what mental flaws are like), but she thinks I daydream because reality (and by association her) isn't good enough. She knows when I drift away and it hurts her feelings a lot.
I once tried to tell my then best friend, years ago, but it was all very uncomfortable, specially since I then thought I was the only one who did that and that something was very wrong with me, and I felt so worried and guilty about it thinking I was the only one with that gift/curse. I don't know what hit me to try to tell her, we were just having dinner at a restaurant and for some illogical reason I felt the urge to try to tell her, but I couldn't express myself right, neither I had the back-up that I have today with this place and the fact that some professional has gotten interested in our peculiarity, maybe, hopefully creating the base for future or present, wider research on the matter.
And frankly, it's not just that my friend and I grew up to be very different persons to what we were when we met when we were kids (I was “normal” then, at least on the surface, cos' I already daydreamed then, but I wasn't self conscious about it), but also, she is... peculiar, as in she is so “normal” than anything out of the ordinary doesn't make any sense to her and she won't even try to understand it, she just thinks it's weird, not “normal” and so not positive.
So well, the whole conversation ended fast, as I felt very embarrassed and regretted having said anything. Fortunately she let it go (I guess she was freaked out or though I was just making the whole thing up cos' I was strange and that's what weird people do) and I learned the lesson.
So, considering she didn't take it seriously and probably forgot it right away, nobody knows, and I can't tell anyone (and honestly I don't know if I' want to let anyone know about it, I feel it's so mine and personal, it would feel like a violation of my inner me), I couldn't even tell the psychologist I went to see briefly last years during my thankfully brief but intense insomnia episode, because if you guys in the U.S.A. think you have it bad think about how people from other countries, like in my case, Spain have it, if in your country specialists that should help you a lot of times don't even try to understand our “problem”, in Spain I fear is even worst, because research in all fields always arrives much later, specially when it come to psychology, I believe psychologists here depend of what your researchers do, so they're always a step behind. So I don't even dream, these days, of finding a psychologist or psychiatrist that could help me deal with it.
Neither I would dream about telling my mother, she is great, but thinking about earlier attempts to tell her about other things, I know she would just freak out and start to cry thinking is her fault for overprotecting me.
No i have never spoke about it to anyone. But my mother notices. I catch her looking at me funny when im in my 'trance'. I think shes starting to feel uncomfatable around me. Also im becoming really boring company. I would rather live in my own head sometimes! its bad! Ive recently started college again as an adult learner but my constant day dreaming is interferrin with it. A few of the younger students have noticed my i go into my own world and have started calling me weirdo! ive got a good sense of humour so i have banter back with them but it does cut me where it hurts!
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