Concurrent Relationships Based in Fantasy and Reality

[Brooke]

I have been in a committed real-world relationship for almost two years and it worries me that I have had concurrent imagined relationships almost the entire time.  I wonder if when I meet someone who is a better fit if relationships will no longer be a part of my daydreams or if it is so engrained in me that it doesn't actually relate to my current relationship.

 

In most all of my daydreams I have a love interest, but I couldn't say that I've ever developed any real feelings for them. I imagine myself feeling for them, being in love with them, building a life with them, but in the end, when they start to bore me I switch them out for someone new.  I sometimes wonder if I am only capable of committing to and being content with my imagined lovers or if the changing lovers of my fantasies are simply representative of the fact that I am so young (22) and the idea of what I want in and from a significant other is constantly evolving.  Each of my creations is different and my relationships with them seem to emphasize different things, from intellectual stimulation, to temporary companionship to a life-long commitment.  I sometimes wonder if my imagined relationships supplement my real relationship, just as my fantasy life supplements my reality.