All Discussions Tagged 'Maladaptive' - Wild Minds network2024-03-28T11:05:13Zhttps://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topic/listForTag?tag=Maladaptive&feed=yes&xn_auth=noMD since childhood- how to stoptag:wildminds.ning.com,2021-02-18:4661400:Topic:4108352021-02-18T17:44:18.834ZKimbershttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Poppy262
Hi Everyone!<br />
Just wanted to ask if you guys have some tips as to how to stop MD. For me it is definitely a coping mechanism, one I have used since I was quite young in order to deal with problems that stemmed from school. But now I just want to stop as I spend most days doing this especially now that I am at home most of the time. I am sure all of you can agree that when you MD you get such pleasure and happiness so that's one thing that makes it hard to stop- but please tell me any tips you…
Hi Everyone!<br />
Just wanted to ask if you guys have some tips as to how to stop MD. For me it is definitely a coping mechanism, one I have used since I was quite young in order to deal with problems that stemmed from school. But now I just want to stop as I spend most days doing this especially now that I am at home most of the time. I am sure all of you can agree that when you MD you get such pleasure and happiness so that's one thing that makes it hard to stop- but please tell me any tips you have that have helped you!!! :-) How I believe my daydreaming started, how it progressed, and how it is now.tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-04-18:4661400:Topic:1793552014-04-18T18:55:38.876ZRosethewolfhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/MonicaBanks
<p>When I was a child, the earliest memory of my daydreams was my dragon called Raptos. I believe I created him around five years old. He was small enough to lay on my child head but he always had a moody, snippy behavior but adored me. He would grunt and snort my bad behaviors or lightly pop me in the head with his tail or his hand. In class he would fly around making funny faces at the teacher or prance on his head or set fire to our homework.</p>
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<p>When I was little, I read so many…</p>
<p>When I was a child, the earliest memory of my daydreams was my dragon called Raptos. I believe I created him around five years old. He was small enough to lay on my child head but he always had a moody, snippy behavior but adored me. He would grunt and snort my bad behaviors or lightly pop me in the head with his tail or his hand. In class he would fly around making funny faces at the teacher or prance on his head or set fire to our homework.</p>
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<p>When I was little, I read so many novels and spent most of my time in the library reading fantasy and fiction. Then the bullying started and didn't end until 6+ years later. This changed my daydreaming and me. It just started out with a dragon. Then when the bullying started my daydreams progressed and grew. Before I knew what had happened I created a new reality around me. It made me feel so much better. I could do anything that I wanted. But it also made things worse as well. When I was really depressed during the harder times of the bullying my daydreaming echoed how I felt, made me visualize the hurtful words that were spoken, created scenarios that never happen but angered me even more.</p>
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<p>One day I snapped during elementary gym class. I was around 7 years old and We were playing hockey and one of the fun guys named V (not going to say his actually name) came up to me and suddenly started talking trash about me. He said so many hurtful things right in my face. He wasn't the one bullying me but I didn't care at the time. I was always a quiet girl. Stayed away from a lot of the other children. Read instead of talking with the other kids. But I finally snapped that day. I punched him so hard I knocked him unconscious for a couple of seconds and he had a bloody nose. The gym teacher liked me a lot so she tore up the referral note and sent me to the restroom. I remember looking at myself in the mirror crying...but also laughing. I became twisted that day.</p>
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<p>For the next couple of years <span style="text-decoration: underline;">I was the one sent to the principal's office so very much. </span> I became aggressive and feisty. Got in a lot of fights and did stupid things for no reason at all. I cried myself to sleep every night. I hated going to school. I always believed that my daydreams was where I truly belonged and they would take me away. 7 years later the bully finally left me alone.</p>
<p>Then my friends came to my rescue, pulled me out of the hole I was digging myself and gave me lots of love and happiness. It is because of them that I am still alive today.</p>
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<p>But the emotional scars remain to this day. I have very low esteem for myself. I have been forever changed by the bully. Forever feisty with a twisted mind but I have also changed myself as well. I am playful and hyper. I have a strong moral. I am more cheerful and happy. But I still keep to myself at times.Up until the last couple months of my high school graduation, I didn't care about the real world that much or for myself. I didn't care about my appearance or how I acted. All that mattered was when I got home. When I went into my room of solitude and stayed there, playing with Raptos (who is now bigger then a two story house) and the other characters in my world.</p>
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<p>No one knew. My parents probably don't even know that I was a victim of bullying. No else knew about Raptos or my new world. Where dragons and creatures from movies and novels exist. The place where faeries live and where magic is real. This is the world I am currently living in. It is wonderful It is exciting. It is an addiction. Then when my mother took me to do an assessment of my ADHD progression, that's when I became curious and a bit depreesed. The results came in that I "may be hallucinating and/or may be experiencing in-dept dreams of a false- reality". Of course my parents were shocked and baffled. When the time came as they questioned me about it.</p>
<p>I lied to their face.</p>
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<p>They nodded and sent me away to discuss more about it. I became depressed for a while but shrugged it off eventually and visited my "other world" for a long time. I became aware of Maladaptive daydreaming when I looked up my symptoms from my ADHD assessment report.</p>
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<p>I wanted to tell someone! Anyone, about my daydreams...to at least get it off my chest.</p>
<p>A month ago I finally did. I told of couple of my classmates (10-20 years older then me) in college that befriended me and became attached to me quickly about it. They are awesome about it and they will help me in anyway.</p>
<p>My daydreams are triggered by music, anime, movies, novels, etc.</p>
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<p>My dreams are so vivid, so real. I love them a lot and the characters I created, including my dragon who has never left my side. But I dream of things besides fantasy and fiction. I dream of having a romantic relationship with one of my best friends, dream of other things.</p>
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<p>I found out that recently I need to socialize more with people. I need to hang out with people outside of class. This will lower my ability to daydream when I am bored or when I am alone.</p>
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<p>I felt like sharing this.</p>
<p>If anyone has any questions or concerns let me know.</p>
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<p>I also want to know, if you don't mind sharing, how and when did your MD start and how has it progressed?</p> The root cause of Maladaptive dayreaming?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2014-02-15:4661400:Topic:1736052014-02-15T17:13:52.658ZElishahttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Elisha
<p>Ok, I have theory, I am interested to know peoples thoughts...</p>
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<p>So, I personally have found that it is a emotional distancing technique. I think the brain uses it as a way to deal with painful emotions. I believe It is caused because people who suffer from the conditionhave very very sensitive dispositions and have not learnt a way to deal with the overwhelming emotionsthat is caused by everyday life. Also they have never learnt coping techniques for…</p>
<p>Ok, I have theory, I am interested to know peoples thoughts...</p>
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<p>So, I personally have found that it is a emotional distancing technique. I think the brain uses it as a way to deal with painful emotions. I believe It is caused because people who suffer from the conditionhave very very sensitive dispositions and have not learnt a way to deal with the overwhelming emotionsthat is caused by everyday life. Also they have never learnt coping techniques for rejection.</p>
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<p>1. Do you find a strong need to go into a state of maladaptive daydreaming in distressing situations, which may only be overwhelming for you and most people don't struggle with?</p>
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<p>2. Do you find your daydreams are extra absorbing when you do go into them and you feel drained afterwards?</p>
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<p>3. Most importantly do you find that AFTER you come out of the daydream, the situation you just experienced seems <span style="text-decoration: underline;">unreal and further away</span>?</p>
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<p>I think its a form of EMOTIONAL dissociation and I believe the cure would lie in psychotherapy. I think its triggered by a) a hyper sensitive reaction to emotions and b) a very unhealthy relationship with rejection and self esteem.</p>
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<p>I think the brain does something to its perception of [a given situation] and in the process of maladaptive daydreaming it somehow applies dissociation and blocking techniques to quickly block out the painful or distressing emotions..... anyone follow me on that one? its fast acting and concious dissociation????? :D xx</p> Complete and Utter Lack of Focus, I Need Helptag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-08-25:4661400:Topic:1550342013-08-25T06:31:59.357ZBrihttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/BriuanaJackson
<p>I am having such a hard time controlling my maladaptive daydreaming. It consumes my entire day and I feel like my triggers are everything. I find myself go into these realities which are completely different and it seems like getting every scenario in my fantasy is more important than what is happening in my day to day life. I do have a significant other but he works long hours and I am by myself most of the time, in a town that's basically far from everything. It feels so strange to be…</p>
<p>I am having such a hard time controlling my maladaptive daydreaming. It consumes my entire day and I feel like my triggers are everything. I find myself go into these realities which are completely different and it seems like getting every scenario in my fantasy is more important than what is happening in my day to day life. I do have a significant other but he works long hours and I am by myself most of the time, in a town that's basically far from everything. It feels so strange to be going through this. This is the first time that I am talking about it and I guess I am deciding to try to gain some control back in my life. This change on I guess because my 21st birthday is coming up and I want to figure out how to deal with this so that it does not haunt me for the rest of my life. I live relatively far from my one of my best friend's and she is busy most of the time. What can I do to get my life back and to try to stop my fantasy world from crushing my reality?</p> New MD Study Seeks Participants (With and Without MD)tag:wildminds.ning.com,2013-02-11:4661400:Topic:1263122013-02-11T20:28:32.234ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
<p>Normally, I don't like people posting the same thing in a blog and a discussion, but I really want to get the word out about this:</p>
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<p> NEW STUDY ON MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING<br></br> <br></br> <br></br> Researchers from Fordham University (Jayne Bigelsen, Jonathan<br></br> Lehrfeld) and the University of Haifa (Eli Somer, who coined the term<br></br> Maladaptive Daydreaming (MD)) have joined forces to launch a new study on MD. We are now ready to begin data collection!…<br></br></p>
<p>Normally, I don't like people posting the same thing in a blog and a discussion, but I really want to get the word out about this:</p>
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<p> NEW STUDY ON MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING<br/> <br/> <br/> Researchers from Fordham University (Jayne Bigelsen, Jonathan<br/> Lehrfeld) and the University of Haifa (Eli Somer, who coined the term<br/> Maladaptive Daydreaming (MD)) have joined forces to launch a new study on MD. We are now ready to begin data collection!<br/> <br/> This will be the largest study on MD to date. Our goals include<br/> creating a screening tool to identify MD and more fully understanding<br/> how it differs from more typical daydreaming. We will also be<br/> comparing and contrasting it to other mental health issues. The ultimate goals are to raise awareness by mental health providers of MD and generate future study, which can hopefully lead to eventual treatment.<br/> <br/> But we need your help!!! First and foremost, please complete the<br/> following survey (link below). We expect that it will take between 30<br/> and 60 minutes.<br/> <br/> <a href="https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/daydreaming" target="_blank">https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/daydreaming</a><br/> <br/> But as importantly, we need your help in recruiting control<br/> participants WHO DO NOT HAVE MD. (This is going to be difficult to do<br/> as people without MD will be less motivated to fill out a lengthy<br/> survey on a topic not relevant to them, and at the moment we do not<br/> yet have any funding to pay them to fill it out)...So for those of you<br/> who have told friends and family about MD (and I know many people<br/> have not), please ask as many of them as possible to fill it out.<br/> <br/> Thank you!</p>
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<p>Jayne Bigelsen</p>
<p>bigelsenmdstudy@gmail.com</p> MD on TV Showstag:wildminds.ning.com,2012-10-11:4661400:Topic:1041352012-10-11T11:22:36.378ZBeefhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/BethanSianGoodwin
<p>Has anyone watched the new Matthew Perry show "Go On"? In this weeks episode one of the characters, Danny admits that he copes with his problems by "visiting" a town he created with 700 characters who all have names and stories. This has got to be the first time I've seen MD on television.</p>
<p>But seriously watch this show, it is hilarious!</p>
<p>Has anyone watched the new Matthew Perry show "Go On"? In this weeks episode one of the characters, Danny admits that he copes with his problems by "visiting" a town he created with 700 characters who all have names and stories. This has got to be the first time I've seen MD on television.</p>
<p>But seriously watch this show, it is hilarious!</p> Do I have maladaptive daydreams?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2012-06-03:4661400:Topic:913152012-06-03T19:55:46.197ZAsbdhttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/AustinBirch
Hey everyone I just heard about maladaptive daydreaming. I've looked up about the symptoms and they describe be almost perfectly.<br />
Background: I grew up in a mentally abusive home with my schizophrenic mother. I lived with my mom from the time I was 7-12. When I turned twelve I was removed from her custody and I lived with a foster family for 1.5 years. Because my mother also sheltered me, I was picked on and bullyed but I eventually changed into a whole new person and it basicly made me…
Hey everyone I just heard about maladaptive daydreaming. I've looked up about the symptoms and they describe be almost perfectly.<br />
Background: I grew up in a mentally abusive home with my schizophrenic mother. I lived with my mom from the time I was 7-12. When I turned twelve I was removed from her custody and I lived with a foster family for 1.5 years. Because my mother also sheltered me, I was picked on and bullyed but I eventually changed into a whole new person and it basicly made me 'normal'. I have scince then moved in with my sister and for once in my life everything is going great. <br />
Ok that is how my life has been in short. But my whole life I have had these fantasys about being in a different world. I would get very into it sometimes for hours. While daydreaming I would pace around my room and fidget with my hands. To me this all sort of represented what I would be daydreaming. I've always known what was real and was wasn't I just used the daydreaming to escape from reality. <br />
Now what I a posting in here for is I want to know if I sound like I have maladaptive daydreaming? I've always known it was something different about me that a hid from other people. It usually happens now from if I am playing video games or watching tv. Sometime I'll start think about a fantasy that would be me kind of starring in whatever I was thinking of at the time haha. They could get pretty complex and I would spend hours thinking what I could think about. Some things strike me as intresting and I can sometimes feel compelled to think about that and I would start creating a charicter for myself with plots and backgrounds that would make fit in with the story. I would also imagine myself as some of the original characters. <br />
It would mean alot to me if people could just comment their opinions on if I have this disorder/habit. If it turns out that I do could I get some advise on what I should do? I truly just want to find out if I should be concerned because I don't nessesarely want to stop but I do it when I have alot of time by myself(I have a good social life and an amazing girlfriend).<br />
Please comment and give me some feedback on any sort of advise :) Has anyone here been through trauma? If so, what kind of style day dreaming do you do? Ex. Violence, Idealized Self, Power and Control, detention, Rescue and Escape, or Sexual Arousal?tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-06-20:4661400:Topic:312272011-06-20T00:09:30.413ZRomeofrohttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/Romeofro
Hello. My Name's Zach, and ive been what you could say "daydreaming since i was around 12 or 13 years old. I'm 17 now. I usaully listen to music (tigger) and swing, but i can also daydream while riding in a vehicle or walking but it will only works if im listening to music. At about 16 i realized something wasn't quite right about going to the park one to three times a day for 30-1 hour increments and zoning out (aka "daydreaming) . I guess you could say i have experienced "trauma." Personally,…
Hello. My Name's Zach, and ive been what you could say "daydreaming since i was around 12 or 13 years old. I'm 17 now. I usaully listen to music (tigger) and swing, but i can also daydream while riding in a vehicle or walking but it will only works if im listening to music. At about 16 i realized something wasn't quite right about going to the park one to three times a day for 30-1 hour increments and zoning out (aka "daydreaming) . I guess you could say i have experienced "trauma." Personally, i think i'm just over reacting, but if anyone here has experienced trauma, could you inform me what style of daydreaming you do? Like do you daydream more about achievement and positive things happening, or about bad and dark scenarios happening? If anyone could let me know their input, it would be much appreciated. Thanxx I can only read when I write.tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-03-12:4661400:Topic:117622011-03-12T06:36:55.577ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
<p>Hi Guys,</p>
<p>As you've all probably figured out by now (the main page being a huge clue), I've had a really bad form of this all my life. It has GREATLY hampered my ability to concentrate. I fail my classes, though I'm smart, and kick, scream, and cry every time I have to try and study. It's really fun. Anyway, so here's my "does anyone else do this" post. I pretty much can't read anything and absorb it even a LITTLE bit unless I'm writing out everything I'm trying to read. I've…</p>
<p>Hi Guys,</p>
<p>As you've all probably figured out by now (the main page being a huge clue), I've had a really bad form of this all my life. It has GREATLY hampered my ability to concentrate. I fail my classes, though I'm smart, and kick, scream, and cry every time I have to try and study. It's really fun. Anyway, so here's my "does anyone else do this" post. I pretty much can't read anything and absorb it even a LITTLE bit unless I'm writing out everything I'm trying to read. I've tried to embrace this, but it's just so much work. Obviously I can't write out everything, and it takes so long that I usually end up getting bored and having to stop & come back. It started out as me just trying to take notes off my writing, but I quickly realized that I was copying almost every line down. It sucked, but I weathered it. Lately my MD has been as bad as ever, and so has my concentration. I've found that I'll literally stare at something and try to read it dozens of times, but I'm so spaced out that I can't even absorb even a single word............until I copy it down. Then a light switches on in my head and I absorb it.........somewhat, at least. I absorb it a lot better. While I'm glad this works, it's extremely tedious and time-consuming to try and type or write every little thing out. Does anyone else have to do this? </p>
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<p>Cord </p> I have to brag....tag:wildminds.ning.com,2011-03-08:4661400:Topic:118012011-03-08T05:46:20.288ZCordellia Amethyste Rosehttps://wildminds.ning.com/profile/CordelliaRose
Ok, so living openly and writing about it has been very freeing. I feel like I want to flaunt everything. This one is like the discussion "Today, I.........." except it's all about flaunting anything and everything you want to brag about. Go for it! It doesn't have to be something you did today. It can be anything you want to brag about.
Ok, so living openly and writing about it has been very freeing. I feel like I want to flaunt everything. This one is like the discussion "Today, I.........." except it's all about flaunting anything and everything you want to brag about. Go for it! It doesn't have to be something you did today. It can be anything you want to brag about.